Her Bad Mother

Thursday, December 18, 2008

How To Feed A Baby And Not Lose Consciousness Trying

My baby? Is a big baby. At 7 months old, he's a husky, roly-poly, chubby-cheeked, fat-thighed chunk of Gerber baby who looks nearly a half year older than his age. He is, as his doctor said at his last post-natal visit, robust. Which is not surprising, because he nurses more or less around the clock. I mean, he was big to begin with, but a steady diet of booby has kept him on an upward curve on the growth charts. Which is great and all, but I'm getting a little tired of being the sole source of nutrition for a ravenous jumbo-tot. The problem is, he won't take solid food or a bottle or indeed any source of nutrition that does not come wrapped in a nursing bra.

He just won't do it. I've tried. I try every day: rice cereal, oatmeal, mashed fruits, mashed veggies, mashed fruits and cereal, mashed veggies and cereal, cereal with formula, formula with cereal, cereal with expressed milk, everything. But if it comes on a spoon or in a bottle, he just won't take it. He'll actually grab the spoon from me, shake the food off, and then gnaw cheerfully on it until I wrestle it away from him again and try to slip a little cereal into its bowl, at which point he hoots angrily, grabs the spoon, shakes off the cereal, and we start all over again. If I manage to get any into his mouth without him grabbing the utensil away - it just seems wrong, a little too close to waterboarding or some other Guantanamo-like exercise, to hold his arms down for the purposes of getting the spoon in - he makes a sour face and tries to push it out of his mouth. It's a little frustrating.

It's a little frustrating because I suspect that a rapidly-emptying belly is what keeps waking him up at night. I just don't think my humble boobies are up to the task of keeping him filled for hours at a stretch. He's a big guy, and I imagine that he's got a big tummy tucked away in that pudgy belly of his. A big tummy that I can't fill.

I've read that some babies just aren't ready for food until closer to eight, nine, or even ten months. I've read that breastmilk is sufficient for most babies in their first year. I've read that some babies bypass soft foods altogether, and refuse to eat anything until they're ready for more solid varieties of solid food (Jasper does, I should note, like organic teething biscuits. He holds them in his hand and gums happily away until they've turned to mush.) I don't think that there's anything wrong him - at least, I hope that there isn't - but I am at the very end of my coping-rope and will soon reach the point of utter collapse if I don't get a full night's sleep soon. And because it has become clear to me that he is waking from hunger, I need to deal with his hunger before I can get some rest. I need that rest.

I need that rest BAD.

So what do I do?

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UPDATE (Sunday): HE TOOK A SIPPY CUP. REJOICE.

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Miscellany...

Congratulations to the winner of last week's What Would Linus Do? Good Karma Giveaway - Maria! Maria asked for a donation to a pediatric ward, so I'll make the donation to Toronto's Sick Kid's Hospital. And because Maria asked to pass on the iPod shuffle, I did a second random draw and the winner is ZombieDaddy. (ZombieDaddy, could you get in touch with me with your address?)

Also... I need ideas on how I might pay forward the wonderful experience that Emilia and Jasper I had last week. Money's tight, so it needs to be something that draws more upon spirit than cash. Thoughts? Leave your ideas here. Whoever leaves the idea that I choose gets a Scrabble Diamond Anniversary Edition game...

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109 Comments:

Blogger Syko said...

Some babies like solid food, some don't. My first daughter, the sumo wrestler type, ate from six to eight jars of baby food a day, plus cereal and lots of milk. I don't think my second child ate the equivalent of a jar of baby food in her entire infancy.

If he would just take a bottle, you could fool him with some soupy rice cereal at bedtime, like we used to do in the olden days.

I think I would try more finger foods. He can probably eat crusts of toast, zwieback, baby cookies, whatever, to get him used to the idea of solids. He might even mush around on some sliced bananas.

2:37 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

If he enjoys gnawing on teething biscuits, you might try a mesh feeder. It won't fill him up, but it might get him more used to the taste of different fruits/veggies. That--fingers crossed--might make him more amenable to those same flavors from a spoon.

In the end, kids eat solids when they're ready to eat solids. I'm hoping for your sake that time comes soon for Jasper!

2:38 PM  
Blogger MemeGRL said...

Have you tried a sippy cup? My second never once took a bottle but was thrilled to try a cup. Messy, but I didn't have to feed him. We used the ones with no filter for the baby and just prepared for mess. Good luck. I've been there.

2:40 PM  
Anonymous Melanie said...

Okay, here's what I think, what I would consider doing if I were in your shoes. I'd go away for a weekend, go visit family, go stay in a hotel or something. Take some time to sleep, read a book, see a movie, whatever. Leave your husband with a can of formula and some clean bottles and nipples. Jasper will eat when he's hungry enough. Why would he take food or a bottle from you when your boobs are right there? But if they're not ... well, he'll have to fill his belly with whatever's on offer, right?

2:42 PM  
Blogger RiveterGirl said...

It sounds like he's a boob man for sure. Try a regular cup with breast milk or even just water to start. But try it when he's in a good mood. And act like it's the most special thing he's ever had. Don't give up and good luck!

2:45 PM  
Blogger JenR said...

I would try more finger foods too. My boy happily ate Cheerios, Gerber puffs and wagon wheels for months before his first teeth showed up. Then we moved on to chunks of cooked sweet potato and other easily-mushed foods. He would only take a spoon or pureed whatever from my mom or me ... anyone else had to feed him finger foods. Speaking of that... I didn't breastfeed so I don't know if this is true, but I've heard that breastfed babies sometimes won't take other food from their mom - maybe he would eat if someone else tried to feed him?

2:46 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

Try having someone else feed him - he associates you too heavily with boobies - and why would he want pureed peas from you when your boobs full of milk are right there?

But breastmilk is more calorically dense than anything else you're going to feed him - unless you're going to put him on a strict creme brulee diet, so I don't think it'll make him sleep any more/better, even if you do manage to feed him.

Also, try giving him a spoon to play with while you feed him with another spoon.

Claire never ate purees. She liked soft finger foods - cooked pieces of fruit and veg, Cheerios, Gerber puffs, etc. At almost two, she still doesn't like mashed foods (mashed potatoes, etc.). I think it's a texture thing.

Can you bring him into bed with you and nurse him while you doze in the night? Can you nap with him by day? Because I don't think a change in eating habits is going to give you the rest you seek. Sorry.

My 3.5 year old is still waking up at night. Some kids just do. I know that's not what you want to hear right now. Hang in there.

Amy @ http://prettybabies.blogspot.com

2:52 PM  
Blogger derfina said...

I'm sure a wetnurse is out of the question...

2:53 PM  
Blogger Mama Smurf said...

I wish I had some tried and true tips for you but since I was never able to breast feed past 6 weeks I've got nothing. Sorry. I hope it gets easier for you.

2:55 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you can handle dealing with the mess, I'd say give him a bowl of food, either cereal or jarred baby food or whatever and just let him play with it. Some will eventually get into his mouth (and everywhere else) and after a few days he'll probably start to love the taste. Then you can spoon feed him a couple of bites here and there while he plays. It would also help to let him have a spoon of his own too. Once he's used to the taste, he'll stop fighting and you can feed him without him playing in it. I agree with the previous comment about going out of town for a night or two. I took one night to go with friends to the lake when my son was 6 months old. He was only breastfed, and I had pumped a ton the week before to leave for my husband to give him in a bottle. He was just fine and the two of them got to have some quality father son time together. I just pumped every couple of hours while I was gone to keep from exploding. It was the best night of sleep I had had since before he was born. And I got to spend good quality girl time with my friends!

2:59 PM  
Blogger for a different kind of girl said...

Like Heather mentioned earlier, the mesh feeder may be an option. We used one with my youngest son for pieces of fruit and soft foods, and he loved it. It also (I assume) made him feel like he was doing it himself, since he could hold onto the feeder and eat from it while we were all seated at the table together eating our meals.

3:10 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

We've tried the mesh feeder. He's all, like, 'meh' about it. Looks at it, plays with it, doesn't so much suck at it as mash it in his hands...

3:20 PM  
Blogger Burgh Baby said...

Pizza crust saved my life. I was all battling She Who Scoffed and Became Violent at Baby Food for weeks then one day she stole pizza crust off my plate and suddenly, there it was--she wouldn't do baby food. Or anything that resembled baby food. I chose to live in perpetual fear that she would choke on whatever food from my plate she was eating, but it was better than getting yelled at for suggesting applesauce is our friend or having to spend even more time being a human cow.

Good luck to ya'. Kids are evil in their adult-crazifying ways.

3:27 PM  
Blogger Sarah Yost said...

Well, my child didn't eat until well after she was a year. We actually used a feeding therapist because NOTHING ELSE WORKED and no, she wouldn't eat when she got hungry enough, thank you very much.

I had to teach her how to eat. If you really want specific tips on how to do that, I can provide that via email or something.

But I think you're really begging for sleep, right? Not feeding issues, which are secondary to SLEEP.

3:33 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

I am in the same boat with you on the solid foods. Baby D will be 7 months next week and is refusing solids too. She is not a big baby though.

Actually, she ate rice cereal okay, but it made her butt break out and made her tummy hurt to the point that she was moaning in pain. So I tried oatmeal and she won't even open her mouth. So I guess I'll try veggies next and see what happens.

It was interesting to read the suggestions.

3:33 PM  
Blogger Mouse said...

Scooter probably drank the equivalent of 24 oz. from bottles, including the time Trillian stayed home with him during the day and he decided to eat all night instead. He also never finished a jar of baby food or a bowl of cereal. He went straight to the sippy cup and finger foods, though I don't remember exactly when. The particular sippy cup that worked well for him was Avent's sports top. I agree with whoever suggested soupy cereal in a bottle before bed. Or if he rejects the texture, even just pumped milk or formula.

3:34 PM  
Blogger Marketing Mommy said...

Like some of these other commenters' kids, my second born never wanted anything spoonfed. So I started her on soft solids she could feed herself: Cheerios, banana, boiled veggies, etc. And we just skipped the puree stage altogether.

I kind of suspect baby food is just a marketing gimmick anyway. They don't have it in most countries.

3:34 PM  
Blogger Mandy said...

I wish there was an individualized manual attached to each kid upon his birth. You may be out of luck until you decide to wean Jasper. I do hope you find a solution that works though!

3:34 PM  
Blogger Cat said...

I wish I had some insight into the boobies/belly situation, but I'm childless and experienceless. I don't blame you for wanting a good night's sleep though! Best of luck to you!

3:36 PM  
Blogger kgirl said...

Love the suggestion that you just up and leave your baby for a weekend just so that you won't have to feed him anymore. Tough love should start at 8 months.

If you can, avoid the pizzacrust/toast ideas, as wheat is super harsh for infants, and you've already copped to Jasper being gassy.

You know you're going to miss it when he doesn't nurse anymore.

3:36 PM  
Blogger Dina said...

Aww. You need a booby break. One of all those tips should work. I hope. Its disconcerting, I know. My daughter did the same thing. It was ultimately up to her when she finally decided that something was better than my breast. I think I tried using my fingers with some mashed carrot and wiped her lips with it, and that eventually led to her wanting more of it.

3:38 PM  
Anonymous Moxie said...

What Melissa said. Go away someplace for the night. Leave a bottle and some milk or formula. If he gets hungry enough he'll eat. My brother never did get hungry enough, and would just cry until my mom came home. But he's a happy, well-adjusted adult now with a hot/funny/smart/caring fiancee and career he loves, so a little crying while you're sleeping peacefully won't hurt him.

3:38 PM  
Blogger Domestic Extraordinaire said...

Giggles was a nearly exclusive nurser until she was nearly 14 months old when we had to go cold turkey. she would make more of a mess with food than anything else. But she would take food from hubby, sometimes. Because honestly not only was she nursing non-stop, she hated everyone as well. When I miscarried when she was 10 mos old a friend kept her while we here in the hospital and she wouldn't eat or drink anything for the day and a half she was there despite their best efforts.

Many hugs to you. I learned to nurse while sleeping on my side, she would go back to sleep as well.

3:47 PM  
Anonymous Expat Mom said...

I feel for you. My firstborn woke up 10-20 times a night for the first 8 months or so. No sleep. It sucked.

My second was like Jasper. Big and hungry. I only breastfed for 3 months, though, because he preferred the bottle. But he would wake up all night hungry. We ended up giving him rice cereal, which he would spit out unless it came on the end of a finger.

My point is that kids are weird. Each one has a totally different idea as to how the world should work. Does he look up to WonderBaby? Maybe you could enlist her help to teach him to eat? I know my youngest is in awe of his big bro and always wants to copy him.

3:52 PM  
Blogger Jen said...

my beast hated the mesh feeder thing, bottles, sippy cups mashed up 'baby food' - all of it.

then one day i put some over cooked rice on the tray (around 7.5 months) and she was off to the races - she eats pretty much everything now as long as it hasn't been babified.

maybe that's the trick?

3:54 PM  
Anonymous Naomi (Urban Mummy) said...

I haven't read the other comments, so if this has been suggested I apologize.

Give him pieces of ripe avocado, ripe banana, well cooked sweet potato, and let him take them himself. No spoon, no mush.

Worked for my (also very big) boy. Also well cooked rice, pasta (if you want to wait on wheat, go for rice pasta) and well cooked potatoes. Mine refused baby food or anything that slightly resembled it.

4:03 PM  
Blogger Sadie said...

I wish I had a suggestion but we are going through the same thing. I think Jasper is just a week or two older that my daughter and she has no interest in being fed anything from a spoon and gags when I do manage to get a spoonful in. She is still waking 2 or 3 times between 8 and 8 to nurse. She also has two teeth which is a little hard on the girls. My other three weaned themselves by seven or eight months so this is new to me. Good luck...I'll be thinking of you around 3:00am.

4:19 PM  
Blogger No Mother Earth said...

I feel ya. Big C would not eat a thing until he was 9 months old. We had 3 months of screaming meal after screaming meal (I kept trying cause I'm stubborn like that). One day he just decided to eat. End of story.

Little G loves to eat, but had no time for baby food. He screams until I give him whatever Big C is eating. Maybe try some older, not-so-baby-friendly-food, and just watch him closely while he gnaws away. Could he be wanting to keep up with Emilia?

Hang in there. A baby refusing to eat solids is incredibly stressful. People with eating babies (that sounds bad somehow...) don't really get that. You can't, unless you're going through it.

4:22 PM  
Blogger The Any Key said...

While I have no personal experience with this topic YET (3 months and counting until I deal with nursing and the subsequent weaning), this came to mind:

You know those weird spoons that have straws on them, 'so you can get every last bit' of whatever you're eating or drinking? And I don't mean the ones that come with slush-drinks at a convenience store... the thicker plastic, meant to be washed and reused, that have no sharp corners...

What about 'trying to feed him' with one of those straws, but have some food sucked up into the straw, and when he gums on the spoon part, let some of the food into his mouth...

I guess the worst that could happen is that you could end up with food all over, and he won't trust those spoon straws ever again...

Best case? Maybe he'll start eating?

4:28 PM  
Blogger Momo Fali said...

I have NO advice for you. I feel your pain, though in a different capacity. My son, because of failure to thrive and his miscellaneous heart defects, had to be fed every three hours, ROUND THE CLOCK for his first 13 months. It damn near killed me. He only weighed 13 lbs. on his first birthday. Thank GOD for his first heart surgery, because he gained enough weight that we could finally stop with the super-duper, expensive power formula (he was allergic to breastmilk...that's just my son in a nutshell...high maintenance). THEN he ate NOTHING but baby food until he was almost four because his gag reflex was so strong (still is) and his reflux was so bad (still is) that he would chuck up all his food, which we couldn't afford because he was so small.

So, feeding issues? Yeah. I hear you.

4:56 PM  
Blogger Super Ninja Mommy said...

DD2 (age 4) drank maybe a half ounce of fluid out of a bottle in her entire lifetime. She never ate purees, ever.

She WOULD eat slices of avocado though, and its not highly allergenic food. Its now the first food of choice for all my babies.

Please don't just walk away for a weekend. You wouldn't enjoy it because you would worry about Jasper at home screaming, and you would get so engorged that you would spend the whole time pumping anyway.

5:16 PM  
Blogger Syko said...

I know this is all stressful, but I'm sitting here reading all the suggestions, and thinking that in 13 years you are going to laugh at yourself for worrying that he wouldn't eat, because he will eat everything that's not frozen solid or nailed down, and you'll be going "OMG, his appetite!"

I know this is no help. Just what I was thinking.

There used to be this thing called an Infafeeder, I think it still exists. It looked like a giant hypodermic, only with a nipple instead of a needle. You could fill it with 2 or 4 ounces of baby food, put the nipple in the baby's mouth, give a slight push with the plunger to start it, and SWOOOSH! Two or three sucks and the whole jar of baby food was inside the baby, before they even knew it. I know, it taught them nothing about eating with spoons or any of that good stuff, but it got those giant bellies full at bedtime.

5:21 PM  
Blogger Jaelithe said...

As I had no success getting my son to sleep OR eat like a normal human being until he was two (despite my having years of childcare experience as a nanny, older sister and older cousin), I do not have any advice to offer that has not already been given except for this: You will think you're going to die from the chronic sleep deprivation, but you won't. You'll live. You'll be forgetful, you'll be angry, you'll be exhausted beyond exhaustion. You'll hate people, like your husband for instance, who get enough sleep not to feel the way you do all of the time. But you'll live, and someday, the boy will sleep, and you will feel much better.

Best of luck. (And remember that your kid is growing VERY WELL and is now old enough to go a night without eating and you CAN take one night off someplace else if you need to and he will be okay.)

5:30 PM  
Blogger Eva said...

You DO need a rest. Since he likes feeding himself, why not try the "baby-led weaning" thing? Where you give them sweet potato fries and banana rolled in wheat germ and whatever and let them have at it?

But still he likes to nurse, and you need a rest. I haven't done this myself, but a couple friends have, and they eventually did the scheduled-feedings, sleep-training thing, and were much happier in the long-term. And better rested. Of course I have never been able to accomplish these things, but from what I understand, babies can get used to anything. Best wishes.

5:32 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

Lots of good ideas here. I've got nothing but ((HUGS)).
I was in the same boat as you and I actually had to get the hell out of Dodge before Peanut would eat anything. One weekend I went away for 2 days, 1 night and she finally took pumped breast milk from a bottle. I'd start with that because you need your sleep.

5:35 PM  
Blogger Kelsey said...

I went though this with my daughter about 10 months ago. She was just a little thing and everytime I gave her food, any food (and trust me I went though them all) she would gag herself until she threw up. Even breaking her from the boob to the bottle took until she was about 11 months (I started trying around 7m) and now trying to transition her to a sippy cup has taken months. She is just one of those kids who when she has something that she thinks works, she does not want to change. Now we can't stop her. I just learned that the best approach was to try and if she fussed, stop, back off for a few days and then try again. We used the little fruit puffs a lot but generally her big brother would steal them all, lol.

5:39 PM  
Blogger Ms. Moon said...

Perhaps someone has suggested this but my kids liked to eat food they could pick up and eat themselves. Semi-mash a banana and put it where he can get it. Yes, he'll be mess, but he might amuse himself for a good ten minutes and actually eat some food. Also- don't know how you feel about eggs, but one of my kids' first solid food was scrambled eggs. I would scramble the egg and then break it apart in little pieces for him to pick up and eat from his high chair tray. And he was a DEDICATED nurser.
As time passes, the taste and interest in food will increase.

6:02 PM  
Anonymous Just Joyful said...

I second Jaelithe, above. You will not die from chronic exhaustion, but you will be miserable, and one day, the little tyke will nurse less, eat more, and best of all, sleep!! Yes, yes he will. It happens to every child, and for some, the more we push, the worse it gets. Can you nurse sleeping on your side? Even a mat on the floor, with a warm blanket on top is bliss if you are able to get some sleep while nursing...

6:20 PM  
Blogger Kristina said...

My pedi said put him in his room, leave a nightlight on, and come back 12 hours later. :( I've never been able to do it fully (ie. more than an hour or two - UGH, worst thing EVER!) but doing a little CIO is ok in my book. Notsomuch in other books but you do what you need to do.

I have a 3yo and she sleeps through the whole thing. Oddly enough. We are to the point now where he wakes up once around 4am and then I feed him (for 20min or so) and put him back down and walk out - a minute of crying - and then he sleeps another 2 or 3 hours.

For awhile there it was 3 or 4 times a night getting up. Or him sleeping next to me in bed is the WORST THING EVER, he kicks me all night.

Dont't worry about the solids, just keep offering. Maybe he wants your food instead? My little guy is almost 9 months old so they are close in age. :)

6:26 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

All - I do nurse in bed, on my side, and try to doze while he nurses - but we do that ALL NIGHT, every night, and I'm just not really sleeping while doing it...

7:11 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

Also, Karen - yeah, I know that I'm going to miss nursing. Which is why I'm kinda gutted that I'm resenting it so much right now...

7:18 PM  
Blogger daysgoby said...

What are you offering, love? My oldest wouldn't eat until he discovered yogurt and my youngest hated anything not-sweet or mushy with the power of a thousand burning suns. (And that was tough, because the Canadian Food Guide/ Good Baby Guide or whatever it is was MILITANT about veggies first.)

Then one day my husband gave her a teeny bite of ripe melon and she liked it. Ditto an overcooked green bean.

Hey. Someone up there mentioned that breast milk is the most calorically dense stuff you could feed - but doesn't breastmilk also digest faster? (I'm wondering.)

Catherine, you have to do what's best for YOU. I don't agree with the posters that say you'll be fine, you'll just be tired ...because I'm getting the feeling you're hanging on by your fingernails and the skin of your teeth. And I worry about you. There are a million things that mothers do for their children to help them grow and thrive. Beating themselves into the ground isn't healthy for you or for him.

I wish this was easier!!

7:29 PM  
Blogger Karen Sugarpants said...

Thomas was the same way and even at 6-7-8 months, was thrilled to use a sippy cup. We used the nuby ones from wal-mart, preBPF scare. I don't know if that matters.

Best of luck! xo

7:39 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

I'd also recommend having someone else try to feed him solids, since he might be refusing because he'd rather get boob from you, since they're right in front of him. Why learn something new when you've got something that works, right?

I wish I had better advice, but both of my girls were early eaters. Actually, Mira was trying to steal food off my plate at 3 months old, and threw herself into my sandwich at 4 months.

Good luck. I suppose the (very small) silver lining is you're saving money on baby food, right?

7:57 PM  
Blogger Lindsay said...

My babe refuses a bottle (he's 6.5 mos) - it finally occurred to me that we could try a cup. He now drinks my expressed breastmilk from a shot-glass when I'm not there :) It's the perfect size for baby mouths. We haven't done much besides bananas yet, but he eats small chunks, we don't mess around with purees much here. Best of luck - I'm with you on the sleep thing. Owen wakes up 5 times on a good night, 15 times on a bad night. We co-sleep, nurse on my side, so I hear you about not really being able to fully sleep like that.
Take care.

8:05 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

Jess - I've tried all varieties of puree. I've also tried banana and avocado. I just tonight tried avocado in a mesh bag and he UNSCREWED the bag, discarded the mesh/avocado and chewed on the handle.

8:17 PM  
Blogger Momily said...

Not sure if this was mentioned or will be at all helpful, but my 8mo daughter took to cheerios and rice rusks BEFORE solids and it helped fill her up!
she just seems to be obsessed with the whole "do it my self" thing already.

8:28 PM  
Blogger Garza Girl said...

For me, I finally got it worked out when I realized that the SCENT of breastmilk did him in (his twin sister had no issues here).

I had someone else feed him instead of me. At first he resisted, but it worked well after he got hungry enough.

I also tried silly things like changing my shirt and bra before feeding them solids and it worked too.

I feel your pain. :)
-- @garzag

8:36 PM  
Blogger the MomBabe said...

psssst! melatonin. He's chunky enough.

8:37 PM  
Anonymous Todd Jordan - tojosan said...

As a dad, I never had to breast feed. (doh)
That said, I totally support you in your strife here.

I'm with the folks that said you will survived, the baby will survive. Now your husband...he'll suffer and whine and moan, but yeah, he'll survive too.

Best advice - let him play with food - seen this work - he'll figure it out.

8:40 PM  
Blogger Issas Crazy World said...

Ok, this might not work and you might think I'm nuts, but have you tried a cup with a straw? I know he seems young, but some kids pick it up fast. Breastmilk or formula in it to start. If it works, you could try adding a bit of formula. My friend did that with hers, when her daughter was about 8 months she said. Once she realized her meals weren't all coming from Mama, she got used to eating smalls bits of other stuff.

Like i said, might not work, but I thought I'd throw it out there. Gerber makes cups with straws for babies. Good luck though, I hope something works. If all else fails, maybe a night or two with just daddy would do it?

I'm about to start giving mine freaking ice cream to stay asleep. What my pediatrician doesn't know, doesn't matter right?

8:53 PM  
Blogger Syko said...

It's funny how all the rules change. My babies slept on their tummies, started rice cereal at 3 weeks, and went from cereal to fruit to veggies to meats and finally eggs. By six months they ate pretty much anything. Sometimes a lot, sometimes a bite.

I think though that they had less issues because they were formula-fed. The ideas of having someone else feed him sound smart. Let Emilia feed him! Or at least have a snack of what he's having - like you could have her eat some banana slices and smush one or two up for him.

I found that my kids learned better from older siblings than they did from me. They relate to them more.

9:23 PM  
Blogger Niksmom said...

Before you go away for a night, can you try for a few hours? Pump some milk and leave it w/dad. Then you go to a friend's house for a nice long nap. Let Dad tough it out for a few hours without you and see how J does. **IF** that works, then try a night.

The caloric density isn't as important as the rate of digestion (thus the recommendation for adding cereal to bottles at bedtime, etc.).

Another, admittedly *bizarre* idea (please don't ban me from your website for this!): Try smearing a bit of baby food (or formula if that's what you want to give at bedtime) on your breast before feeding him. Yes, I'm serious. Hear me out...

When teaching kids who have feeding tubes how to eat solids (mine and many others I've heard about), one of the first things that is recommended is attempting to feed by mouth WHILE the pump is running to create the association of food going in the mouth equals full tummy. You gradually start to give only food by mouth FIRST then follow with the pump.

So...if you're truly desparate it might be worth a try. If J can start to associate the taste of other things filling his tummy thenhe might be more amenable to taking a bottle.

Good luck!

9:28 PM  
Blogger Heidi said...

My first was just like that. No bottle, no spoon, and no finger food. At 8 months he suddenly *got* it with the solids, and then he couldn't get enough. I finally got him to take a bottle, but only for water, at 11 months. Then, of course, at a year the Ped told me "NO BOTTLES! SIPPY CUPS ONLY!" and I almost shot myself because they would have been nice to know in advance. I was also told NOT to introduce milk since he was still BFing, and then he wouldn't drink it at all even as a toddler. I nursed until he self weaned at 19 months, and then I obsessed about yogurt intake forever because he didn't drink milk until 4. Grrr... He's 5 now and a regular kid. My second just turned 8 months and only likes finger food. Hoping we have a breakthrough soon!

Best of luck to you!

9:57 PM  
Anonymous Marianne said...

Google "baby led weaning" or "baby led solids" or Gill Rapley's name.

Essentially, it's all about skipping purees and just introducing solids at baby's own pace, beginning around 6 months.

Wish I had more time to write details, but baby is calling!

10:19 PM  
Blogger Lala said...

Can I borrow Jasper for a night so I can get my milk back? My 3 month old started bobbing for boobies less and less and now won't even suckle for a second. I'm very sad about it but c'est ma vie.
As far as paying it forward is concerned - I just packaged up and sent three boxes of gently used, donated ornaments to a friend in NB who lost all her stuff to post hurricane flooding in August. I posted a request on my blog, http://crosswind.wordyblog.com/?p=978 ,and asked the moms at my daughter's preschool to donate trinkets for me to send. Some people gave clothes and some gave gift cards. I also entered a bunch of contests and asked that the winnings be sent directly to her. I have a whole load of gifts to send with another driver this weekend so her kids have a merry Christmas. Maybe you know a needy family that can use some grocery cards or someone who would benefit from craft supplies or maybe a few words from you will flood http://jenlemen.com/blog/?p=562 with donations.
You are loved.
L

10:36 PM  
Blogger Zombie Daddy said...

I don't remember what my daughter's first non-brains food was. I think it was cooked down apples.

If you cook them down just right, and add a couple of Rice Crispies for texture, you've got yourself some pretty good vegetarian brains.

Also, sweet iPod Shuffle win. I don't really have a mailing address, so if you could send that to Backpacking Dad, I'd appreciate it. He'll get it to me, and I'll get it to that kid whose brains I won't be eating.

10:40 PM  
Anonymous Amy said...

I say this every time I comment here, but it is uncanny how similar your struggles are to mine when my daughter was the same age. That time period SUCKED. She did not sleep. She did not eat (that I didn't mind so much). But someone else pointed out--no food is as filling as nutritious as your milk, so working at finding an alternative isn't going to help him sleep. My daughter didn't eat any food until she was a year. I think her birthday banana rice pudding was one of the first foods she actually ate. She certainly wasn't ready for anything cake-like at that age.

I can't remember how old she was when I discovered this, but I was amazed at how little she was when she figured out how to use a straw. Also, she would NOT take a bottle--until *I* taught her how to use it. The whole idea that mama should not be around so the boobs don't distract baby from the bottle doesn't always work. My daughter had to get the hang of it with me before she'd let anyone else feed her a bottle.

Once you get a bottle/sippy/straw cup figured out, then you will have more options for escaping.

10:40 PM  
Blogger daysgoby said...

Could he be teething?

One thing that worked for us with teething is to wet a washcloth, then wring it out and toss it in the freezer. Let it defrost for a few minutes before giving it to the baby (or you can just keep them in the fridge, too). I was thinking maybe if you soaked the washcloth in...say...apple juice, then maybe after he got used to that taste that it might be easier to get him interested in taking some juice off a spoon.

Juice to applesauce, maybe?

11:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This isn't about food, its about comfort and you. He wants YOU. You need to sleep train your baby - its time. If he is big, then he should be able to go at LEAST 8 hrs w/out nursing.

11:31 PM  
Blogger EarthyMama said...

Skip the purees, skip the mesh feeder, and go straight to soft chunks. My nine-month-old started on chunks well before he had teeth. At this point, though he still needs to breastfeed for nutrition and comfort, he loves solids, and will fuss and whine each time I eat until I share.

Try softened Cheerios, sweet potato "fries", very well cooked broccoli spears, avacado slices, well cooked carrot sticks - anything healthy, cooked to softness, and sort of fry shaped, so it's easy for him to get it in his mouth.

I started Earthy Baby on purees, but he hated them. He didn't like the taste, the texture, or having to be fed with a spoon. I was afraid he didn't want to eat, but the real problem was that he wanted to eat real food, and to feed himself on his own terms. It was only a matter of weeks before we gave up on purees. He's a champion eater now. He can chew and eat nearly anything (with only five teeth), and enjoys a variety of tastes and textures.

11:58 PM  
OpenID geeklady said...

The only way I've survived with GeekBaby is sleeping with him tucked up next to my boob in bed. He doesn't even wake up anymore to eat, and I barely wake up. I resorted to this (after swearing I wouldn't) after I fell asleep and dropped him while up one night nursing in the rocking chair. Thank God for the Boppy, or he might have hit the floor and not lap/pillow.
My son likes to be in control of his feeding. He wouldn't take a bottle and we had a miserable first week of mommy back at work until I found a sippy cup he would drink from - it had handles, and so he could pick it up.

Try the self feeding tips from all the posts, but also, try setting him on the floor (non carpeted, duh). Highchairs tend to recline babies, and that's not a good position to eat in. Let him sit on the floor, or in a Bumbo seat, somewhere where he can lean forward and eat in a more natural posture.

12:55 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Soft finger foods, no purees. I've been there, done that with a child just like yours (actually, mine may have been fussier). He never ate pureed foods. Ever. We went straight to solids. He liked puffed kamut as it basically dissolved in his mouth and didn't became a choking hazard. We then worked our way through various other foods, but solids really weren't his thing until about a year old. Despite this, he was always in the 95th percentile for height/weight and exclusively breastfed. It was a huge time commitment.

Co-sleeping saved my life and sanity. I adapted and found a way to make it work.

1:27 AM  
Anonymous Erica said...

I remember from a previous post that you weren't big on CIO because you really felt that Jasper needed you. I'm in the same boat--Z just wouldn't stop crying, he'd escalate (though to offer you a bit of hope, this has changed over the past few days, where he'll fuss and then will fall asleep by himself for awhile). Anyhoo. What we finally did to break him of his boob habit was have my husband sleep in Z's room and me sleep in our room. The idea was to have DH sleep on the floor with Z in the crib, but what really happens is they both sleep on the mattress on the floor. Some nights Z wakes up and needs a feeding, so I'll go in, give him one, then leave. Most nights, he makes it through 6 or so hours w/o eating. And I get sleep. At some point, I think it becomes partially a habit and if the bar's not open, they won't drink.

I also have to say that Z's been eating solid food for about 4 months, but it's only been in the past month that it's seemed to positively impact his sleep. The two don't seem to necessarily go hand in hand.

Good luck!

9:53 AM  
Blogger Baby in the City said...

Love this post and the comments are really good. It never occurred to me that this could happen. What do mean babies don't take bottles? Won't eat food? Who doesn't like food? I guess that's just me...

10:08 AM  
Blogger Birdie said...

I'm probably echoing other posters (no time to read all the comments!) but I also recommend the mesh feeder...my kiddo loved that but wouldn't take ANYTHING from a spoon, much like yours. Also just big chunks of ripe banana or baked sweet potato for him to gum might work.

He will eventually eat food. But I understand your desire to have your boobs back to yourself, at least part-time...my little dude is almost 15 months and still nursing 4+ times a day! (I love it but am really excited to wear real bras again someday...)

10:53 AM  
Anonymous Vanessa said...

I don't know if Jasper is a dairy kid at all, but have you tried little slivers of cheese or some yogurt?

A lot of the yogurt comes back out, speaking from experience with my niece, but after a few tries, she started to love the taste. Same with cheese...we used really little slivers of it, and put them under her tongue a few times, and eventually, if you were in the kitchen and cutting cheese, she'd swat at it, wanting some.

Other than that, I'd still suggest a mommy-baby-sitter. I've done it before for a new mom. She was more overwhelmed with her older kids (baby, 2 year old, 4 year old and she was recovering from a pain birth experience, nuff said), but I still had the baby. She was in the house, but she was napping, reading a book, watching a movie, taking a bath...all without listening to "Mommy, Mommy, Mommy!" because the older two were doing a craft with me and the baby was in a sling.

She said it made a world of difference, even for a day. Just gave her that break she needed to get some real sleep and de-stress a bit. Do it, I tell ya.

11:53 AM  
Anonymous LAVANDULA said...

catherine all of the others have good ideas for you to try hope something works.you really sound exhausted.take care

12:01 PM  
Blogger Adelas said...

Although I think everyone above has pretty much covered it, I'm going to delurk and put in my two cents' worth.

One thing I didn't see by the time I was 3/4 of the way down the comments, was anyone asking how many different kinds of bottles you may have used. I just ask because we had a lot of success (with a younger baby) using the "The First Years" Breastflow style bottles. The super wide, double-layer nipples are made to work more like boobs work (pinch pinch, squirt). So, if you're going to make futher bottle attempts rather than going straight to sippy cup, I can stand behind this product.

Second, I had to delurk JUST to express my shock that your son was able to unscrew the little bag thingy of the mesh feeder. My 10 month old is still working on the basics of light switches, let alone screw tops.

Since Kibwana has been a textbook-standard eater, I don't have any advice that hasn't already been covered by everyone else, but I think there have been a lot of good suggestions in there. I guess the only thing I can contribute is...

He LOVES picking up used water bottles and using his new bottom teeth to scrape a hole in the paper label, then pull it to shreds using his fingers or his mouth. Just like the dogs. (Although it's a pain to spend all my time making sure he doesn't swallow the paper, it's great entertainment...)

Anyhow, I had an epiphany: I peeled one half of an apple and gave it to him....he had a blast using those little half-teeth to scrape the flesh off the apple on that side.

The relevance here is that perhaps Wonderbaby would enjoy something that was previously a "no-no" item. What inedible stuff does he normally like to nom? (Whoa, too much icanhascheezburger this morning....) And what foods can mimic that thing?

12:41 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

Aren't cheerios and the like a choking hazard?

1:39 PM  
Anonymous fidget said...

Bo refused solids until i gave him prunes. I think he channels a 72 year old man. Maybe try rubbing bbq sauce or mashed nanas on your nipple before nursing?

1:50 PM  
Anonymous MaggieO said...

I haven't read the other comments, so someone's probably already covered this, but are you doing a "dream feed?" My son sounds exactly like yours -- big baby, only wanted boob -- and I would get him up to nurse again right before I went to bed at night. (So he'd nurse around 7 when he went to bed, and then again around 10:30 when I did.) He nursed half in his sleep (hence dream feed), and I think he still woke up at around 4 in the morning, but it got me a lot more sleep than when I would go to bed and then get woken up again at midnight. I was skeptical originally that it would work w/out being too disruptive to his sleep, but it was a lifesaver for me. That and having him nurse frequently during the day. Oh, and sorry to relate this part, but he pretty much refused all solids until he was over a year old...if your guy keeps this up much longer, you may want to consider iron drops, because my son ended up slightly anemic since he wouldn't eat that nicely fortified rice cereal. Anyway, blah blah blah assvice, but I just wanted to chime in since your situation definitely sounds familiar.

2:12 PM  
Anonymous Katie said...

This blogger had success starting her baby on actual solid foods -- a whole peach -- when he was only six months old. It may be worth a try! It's called baby-led weaning.

http://www.kidsdish.com/category/starting-solids/

Good luck!!!

3:15 PM  
Blogger imogen howson said...

My daughter did exactly this, with similar sleep issues and feeding for unreasonable amounts at a time, and eventually the only solid food I could give her was a banana.
Not mashed at all, just broken in half so she could hold it. It made the most unholy mess (down neck of babygro, up nose, in ears, in hair) but she could eat most of a banana that way and it was the ONLY way she'd have anything other than breastmilk.
Obviously anything with chunks is a choking hazard, so you have to be with the baby all the time they're eating, but at that age you would be anyway.
And good luck. It's so hard!
Immi
x

3:15 PM  
Blogger LD said...

I totally hear you on this.
Chloe is 8.5 months, and we've been really struggling with the same thing. Our nanny starts in a few weeks and she has been pretty much nursing ONLY.
And, I've been really trying for awhile.
Anyway, I went to my naturopath for help.
She suggested trying Sweet Pea baby food. You buy it in the frozen ice cubes. I thought she was crazy since I've tried ALL the different brands, but I went out and bought it, and she eats it. It really is the only kind she eats.
So, this has been going on for a week.
I think it's partly the flavour and partly the fact that she's a little older and was ready.
She'll eat the chicken/veggie one and loves the Blueberry/banana one.
Honestly, I have videotaped her eating because it's been such a struggle.
But, also at the same time we started giving her a baby acidopholous supplement.
We've also started introducing formula. we tried every kind and she'll only take the organic kind and only warmer than recommended (not hot).

3:21 PM  
Blogger Laura said...

tape a steak to your breast. I have done it. It works.

3:53 PM  
Blogger Backpacking Dad said...

Pediatrician said Erin could swallow objects as large as a dime at 6 months old, so cheerios were no problem at all. There are also Gerber Puffs that dissolve almost instantly.

4:13 PM  
Blogger motherbumper said...

I dare you to rub bananas on your nipples. Oh and I'd pay money to hear the results of taping steaks to your chest. MONEY.

4:26 PM  
Blogger Michelle said...

@motherbumper ROFL!!!

4:52 PM  
Blogger motherbumper said...

In retrospect, I'd say I'm not that helpful in these situations. But in case you are wondering, the money is still on the table.

4:52 PM  
Blogger just beth said...

we. have. the. same. child.

My son is 8+ months old at 23-24 pounds of chunkalicious boob fed maniac.

We co-sleep and most of the time, I just get all drunk and pass out.

KIDDING. Mostly.

But I feel you. This boy GAGS when I try to feed him. And then has this face like an ANGEL and is all 'i'm trying mom, really!!!'

My daughter was eating at 5 months and still up every two hours... in a different room, so while I can't move and am awake much in the night with my little guy, it's so much better than it was with her (she's two now, so it wasn't that long ago). I'm just happy I don't have to get out of bed. Plus, I hang on to the understanding that this REALLY won't last forever. It won't. It won't. It better freaking not.

Having said that, i've heard it can help to put a shirt on (or more clothes, whatever) and turn away from him after he's nursed a bit, so he can't really smell you... (hasn't worked for me, but??)

I'm kinda into attachment parenting, so i really wouldn't suggest the night weaning yet or sleep training, whatever... having said that, the most important thing for your little guy is a SANE(ish!!)AND HAPPY MOMMA, so you do what you need to do. :-)

If you figure anything out, PLEASE let me know!!!!!

xoxo

b.

5:05 PM  
Blogger worldmomma said...

How long have you let him feel the hunger before you gave in with more booby milk? We didn't have this problem since our little guy took to anything he could consumer with gusto. But since your baby clearly likes to eat, I bet if he was left alone with daddy for a day or two, dad would find something other than breastmilk to give him and baby would eventually give in.

5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't know if anyone else ash suggested, but maybe a Lact-Aid from a lactation consultant with formula? You can tape the tube to your nipple, or slip it in after he latches, and he will get extra food that way. He may also start to like the taste of formula, and want to try it with cereal. Just a thought. It worked for us to learn how to BF.
We had a heck of a time getting solids in the first few months. Lots of night wakings, I feel your pain! It's better now, and it always help me if I repeat : everything is just a phase :)

Good luck!

7:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

That sucks, literally. My son is almost 8 months and solid food is a daily battle, somedays he eats it some days he doesnt. I have learned not to force it. He sorta self weened onto a bottle at 6 months, so I am not as attached as you are atm...

One fail safe food for me is yobaby organic yogurt, he'll eat buckets of it if i let him. Give it a try!

He also likes the broccoli and cheese casserole baby food. Not a huge fan of fruits and sweets...just a thought.

Good luck!

-Beth

7:02 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Anyone that tells you that adding rice cereal to a bottle will make them sleep hasn't read the research that says that this does crap all for their sleep and doesn't realize that is a choking hazzard.

Also the tough love, sleeping training crap - is well, crap and inhumane.

I would 2nd the motion to see if iron supplementation is needed in a month or two.

The only other piece of ass-vice I have is to let him play with food. Put down a dollar store shower curtain, put several options of food out in front and let him go to town. Keep meal times happy (as frustrating as they can get), eat with him.

9:32 PM  
Blogger Chelsea said...

I agree with the others on Baby led weaning - try scrambled eggs, yogurt, whole pieces of peeled fruit (apple, pear) to hold and gnaw on. Just keep trying and let him play with food on his own. Neither of my kids would ever eat anything pureed or spoon fed, and my almost 4 year old still won't eat applesauce to this day. Scrambled eggs was the first thing my kids really ate on their own and really loved. Good luck. My 17 month old is still up 3 times a night to nurse *sigh*...

10:59 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

our babies sound like twins, except mine is now 13 months AND he sleeps from 10pm till 7am. It will happen!

finger foods (especially steamed sweet potato), mesh feeders with banana, and rice cereal mixed with pureed peaches seemed to be what my son eventually went for.

offer solids before breastfeeding as well

3:18 AM  
Anonymous ::::wifemothermaniac:::: said...

I was going to type something similar to your anonymous poster who suggested letting your guy get really messy and play with his food. My eldest was like this, she fed herself in minute amounts by squishing her food with her fingers, then licking them. Her favorite first food was cooked bananas, they are sweeter once , breastmilk is also super sweet. If he sits well, plop him on a blanket, give him some mushed cooked bananas and let him get messy, then stick him in the bath later. He'll get some in his mouth, and probably like it! I mixed everything with Banana for that same eldest, my other 2 weren't picky but my first really wanted sweet stuff and only if she could feed it to herself.

4:08 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am sure you are doing a great job and he will eventually grow out of it all on his own.

What helped me eventually was a bit of what you called "ferberization-lite". I think the reason it helped, though, was because DS learnt a range of options for being helped to sleep. I could feed him to sleep, or rock him to sleep in my arms, or pat him to sleep in his crib, or pump him full of paracetamol (ok that was just for teething LOL) and in between each option, I could put him down for oh, 2-3 minutes and just breathe and take a break.

So, my advice is to experiment. Try different ways of settling him in the middle of the night, before you feed him. let him cry for 2 minutes. Let your husband take him for a pram ride around the house. Pat him in the crib for 5 minutes before feeding him. If he is like my son, the alternatives won't work at first. But eventually they will. Just mix it up, keep him confused - but still comforted if that is your instinct - and break the wake/feed association.

Harder to do than to say! especially when sleep deprived. Sometimes i wonder if these things are more like busy-work to help us feel we are doing something while they grow out of it on their own.

5:56 AM  
Blogger deb said...

I couldn't get my youngest off my breast either until she was fifteen months old. Drove me crazy. What I did was trick her, I gave her a bottle of milk in the night when she was half asleep, worked well. Good luck.

10:05 AM  
Blogger Catherine said...

I think that many above me are correct, Jasper knows the jugs are right there - why eat something green? Since he takes the spoon from you, maybe he could have his own and his feeder can have one too? Maybe HBS (his bad sister) could sit right next to him and also eat with an identical spoon? Maybe even out of a jar of baby food (applesauce or something) (although this might cause new issues that she wants to be THE baby). I'm sure he loves her and wants to be just like her.

10:24 AM  
Blogger Anissa Mayhew said...

I had the baby that wouldn't wean but was STARVING...here's what worked for me, good luck finding someone who would suffer through it with you.

I had to leave said son with my friend long enough that he was SCREAMING for a boob. Then she'd give him some solids. It took about a week to just start giving in and eating without a tantrum first. It worked because the boobs were not an option at my friends house, it gave me a chance to nap while she had him and eventually he realized he liked being FULL, go figure.

Wish I lived closer because I truly would throw myself under the bus to help you with this one. Oh, you should just come back to FL.

3:09 PM  
Blogger That Mommie said...

I don't have any tipfor the strating of solids, but maybe for the sleeping part.

Have you tried cosleeping? So that you could just roll over and pop in the booby and fall back to sleep. It doesn't require much getting up, and you can regain your strength.

3:44 PM  
Blogger Ex-in-the-City said...

I had an uber-baby. Now she's an uber-woman and I could insensitively say it's worth it, but what-the-hell-good would that do. Sleep deprivation is total guantanamo.
What worked with the second child--also an uber-girl but a more cheerful version (perhaps this is my perception since I was better rested) was that I didn't get up to feed her. I didn't even open my eyes. My husband brought her to me, positioned her and I guess lifted my t-shirt. One necessity for this practice is a guardrail on your bed.
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6:27 PM  
Blogger April said...

my 9mo loves pasta. i give him elbow noodles cooked for about 20 minutes until they're basically mush. mix em with cheese or baby food. he's WAY more into it than the squidgy stuff.

7:50 PM  
Blogger April said...

oh, and he loves loves loves the gerber puffs that melt in your mouth. i started those around 7.5mo. then once he was good on those we moved to cheerios then the pasta. :-)

7:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

At six months, we started trying with the purees and what not- She didn't finish a single jar until she was 9 months, and that day she ate two and then finished off her cousin's mac and cheese. The next day, she stole both spoons that I tried to feed her with and tried for the third, so I put some soft finger foods down and the kid started jamming them in. Maybe with the next one I will just let them figure it out themselves, because all the solid food thing did was stress me out. Of course, you have a different situation- maybe what everyone else has suggested and let him make a mess and do it himself? I would let him have the teething rusks and put a small bowl of baby food on the tray and try to get him to dip into fruits and what not? I dunno, it is worth a shot, I guess.

9:35 AM  
Anonymous cartoongoddess said...

I'm a bit late to the party here, but had to add this. I had one of those babies who bypassed mush.

At about 6 months (when I was good and frustrated) I gave her teeny-micro bits of toast one day. I didn't expect her to eat them, I just sort of dumped them on her tray and started walking away. She happily ate them.

Next we moved on to teeny-micro bits of other foods. She just didn't want pureed anything. Can't blame her there. I don't know whether she swallowed stuff whole or what (she didn't get any teeth till 10 mos.), but she was finally interested in food.

10:16 AM  
Blogger QuJaBaKa said...

oooooo I have been there. you know I think that our sons could easily be twins!! I finally gave up on trying to get him to eat something, and then tried again three weeks later, with two spoons, he got to chew on his one and I got to try and coax bits of food into his mouth. When that failed I finally realised that he simply wanted to be the one in control. At nearly 9 months he finally started drinking from a bottle because I decided to just put him to bed with it, I know this sounds terrible but if my boy thinks there is any chance I am going to control the situation then he won't drink it, so in his crib he goes and holds his own little bottle, I started out with only 50ml of milk.
On the solid food thing, he started eating anything he can hold for himself, bananas, hard biscuits, rusks.
Just a thought but maybe your boy is a control freak too just like mine, everything else about our pregnancies and children has seemed to be very similar.

5:43 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

That Mommie - we do co-sleep. I'd be dead by now if we didn't ;)

It's just that I don't get an especially GOOD sleep with the chunkmeister kicking me in the boobs...

9:43 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

Fin loves to nurse too. At 8 months and "robust" she seems to be doing fine, but I too yearn for sleep. We live and die by the mesh bag. She LOVES it. I think, more so than our middle daughter, she aspires to be big. So the mesh bag lets her feel like a big girl and has the added bonus of offering the calories of whatever we tuck inside.

As to paying it forward, I am all for anything that spreads good cheer. I s'pose a "fuck it" campaign, to give us all the permission to just let things go; whether it's anger, self-loathing or whatever...just a bog, "Hey, let's play nice and act right in '09" campaign...?

10:21 PM  
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12:18 PM  
Anonymous cheesefairy said...

Oh rotten rotten stuff.. babies are so crazy.

Mine (8 m/o) only wakes up a couple times a night & likewise will not take a bottle, but I am still feeling about 30 seconds away from a nervous breakdown what with the 2.5 year old busting my balls all day long.

My assvice: I bought a rubbermaid juice box with a straw; the straw is really short so it doesn't puncture his soft palate. Put water in it. He learned to use it in half an hour. Am guessing he would drink other fluids from it as well. But not the Grand Marnier, that's for me.

5:13 PM  
Blogger daysgoby said...

HURRAH for a sippy cup! Way to go Jasper!

12:18 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Gotta love the sippy cup!

5:10 PM  
Blogger becks said...

My daughter was 10 months old before she ate anything other than boob. She's almost 2 now and I can count on one hand the number of times she's let me feed her. Boil some sweet potato, cut it up into little cubes and let him feed himself. That's the only way I could get my daughter to eat.

3:01 PM  
Blogger becks said...

P.S.,
If you're worried about choking, make them small and dole them out one at a time.
I've also been known to give the babies (a little older than yours, maybe 9 months or so) a mango pit. The pit is too big to swallow and there's always some flesh left on it... also, makes an awesome (but messy) teether.

3:06 PM  
Blogger sheSaid.purplehouseonpearl.com said...

my 16 month old still wont eat much. Oh he CAN, when he gets hungry enough if I am gone, he will take the edge off. Sometimes he like to eat with us... but still all night everynight I am rolling over popping the boob in and eventually rolling bck over and sleeping. No food suggestions helped. I think your best bet is what moxie said. If you need a night off, take it, it will suck for the baby and the hubby... but if you need sleep you need sleep.

I hope before 2 my little guy decides food is good. otherwise weaning will SUCK.

3:52 PM  
Anonymous roz said...

I know you wrote this weeks ago and everything`s probably changed, but someone raved to me about the book Child of Mine:Feeding with Love and Good Sense by Ellyn Satter. I bought it, it was a godsend and it`s totally helping me with Baby2.0. You might take a gander. Good luck!

7:23 PM  

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