tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post1845109842818403131..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: How To Feed A Baby And Not Lose Consciousness TryingHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger109125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53242084409788291682009-01-10T19:23:00.000-05:002009-01-10T19:23:00.000-05:00I know you wrote this weeks ago and everything`s p...I know you wrote this weeks ago and everything`s probably changed, but someone raved to me about the book Child of Mine:Feeding with Love and Good Sense by Ellyn Satter. I bought it, it was a godsend and it`s totally helping me with Baby2.0. You might take a gander. Good luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-26450754485981633722008-12-29T15:52:00.000-05:002008-12-29T15:52:00.000-05:00my 16 month old still wont eat much. Oh he CAN, wh...my 16 month old still wont eat much. Oh he CAN, when he gets hungry enough if I am gone, he will take the edge off. Sometimes he like to eat with us... but still all night everynight I am rolling over popping the boob in and eventually rolling bck over and sleeping. No food suggestions helped. I think your best bet is what moxie said. If you need a night off, take it, it will suck for the baby and the hubby... but if you need sleep you need sleep. <BR/><BR/>I hope before 2 my little guy decides food is good. otherwise weaning will SUCK.sheSaidC2https://www.blogger.com/profile/04054588577501686379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-8359781347833975762008-12-26T15:06:00.000-05:002008-12-26T15:06:00.000-05:00P.S.,If you're worried about choking, make them sm...P.S.,<BR/>If you're worried about choking, make them small and dole them out one at a time. <BR/>I've also been known to give the babies (a little older than yours, maybe 9 months or so) a mango pit. The pit is too big to swallow and there's always some flesh left on it... also, makes an awesome (but messy) teether.beckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034935220140615844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-70971015721164304462008-12-26T15:01:00.000-05:002008-12-26T15:01:00.000-05:00My daughter was 10 months old before she ate anyth...My daughter was 10 months old before she ate anything other than boob. She's almost 2 now and I can count on one hand the number of times she's let me feed her. Boil some sweet potato, cut it up into little cubes and let him feed himself. That's the only way I could get my daughter to eat.beckshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10034935220140615844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38706868312893035022008-12-24T17:10:00.000-05:002008-12-24T17:10:00.000-05:00Gotta love the sippy cup!Gotta love the sippy cup!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29323475293926482572008-12-24T00:18:00.000-05:002008-12-24T00:18:00.000-05:00HURRAH for a sippy cup! Way to go Jasper!HURRAH for a sippy cup! Way to go Jasper!Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-44464021208697604392008-12-23T17:13:00.000-05:002008-12-23T17:13:00.000-05:00Oh rotten rotten stuff.. babies are so crazy.Mine ...Oh rotten rotten stuff.. babies are so crazy.<BR/><BR/>Mine (8 m/o) only wakes up a couple times a night & likewise will not take a bottle, but I am still feeling about 30 seconds away from a nervous breakdown what with the 2.5 year old busting my balls all day long.<BR/><BR/>My assvice: I bought a rubbermaid juice box with a straw; the straw is really short so it doesn't puncture his soft palate. Put water in it. He learned to use it in half an hour. Am guessing he would drink other fluids from it as well. But not the Grand Marnier, that's for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-56152146922414327432008-12-22T12:18:00.000-05:002008-12-22T12:18:00.000-05:00Hey Lady :-D ... come check out the award show on ...Hey Lady :-D ... come check out the award show on our blog - you are a recipient!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-90586969833725301862008-12-21T22:21:00.000-05:002008-12-21T22:21:00.000-05:00Fin loves to nurse too. At 8 months and "robust" s...Fin loves to nurse too. At 8 months and "robust" she seems to be doing fine, but I too yearn for sleep. We live and die by the mesh bag. She LOVES it. I think, more so than our middle daughter, she aspires to be big. So the mesh bag lets her feel like a big girl and has the added bonus of offering the calories of whatever we tuck inside.<BR/><BR/>As to paying it forward, I am all for anything that spreads good cheer. I s'pose a "fuck it" campaign, to give us all the permission to just let things go; whether it's anger, self-loathing or whatever...just a bog, "Hey, let's play nice and act right in '09" campaign...?Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05864631532886681402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79448158439172462782008-12-21T21:43:00.000-05:002008-12-21T21:43:00.000-05:00That Mommie - we do co-sleep. I'd be dead by now i...That Mommie - we do co-sleep. I'd be dead by now if we didn't ;)<BR/><BR/>It's just that I don't get an especially GOOD sleep with the chunkmeister kicking me in the boobs...Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-89630581185107276672008-12-21T17:43:00.000-05:002008-12-21T17:43:00.000-05:00oooooo I have been there. you know I think that ou...oooooo I have been there. you know I think that our sons could easily be twins!! I finally gave up on trying to get him to eat something, and then tried again three weeks later, with two spoons, he got to chew on his one and I got to try and coax bits of food into his mouth. When that failed I finally realised that he simply wanted to be the one in control. At nearly 9 months he finally started drinking from a bottle because I decided to just put him to bed with it, I know this sounds terrible but if my boy thinks there is any chance I am going to control the situation then he won't drink it, so in his crib he goes and holds his own little bottle, I started out with only 50ml of milk. <BR/>On the solid food thing, he started eating anything he can hold for himself, bananas, hard biscuits, rusks. <BR/>Just a thought but maybe your boy is a control freak too just like mine, everything else about our pregnancies and children has seemed to be very similar.QuJaBaKahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11804241625272998866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37081223149394157352008-12-21T10:16:00.000-05:002008-12-21T10:16:00.000-05:00I'm a bit late to the party here, but had to add t...I'm a bit late to the party here, but had to add this. I had one of those babies who bypassed mush.<BR/><BR/>At about 6 months (when I was good and frustrated) I gave her teeny-micro bits of toast one day. I didn't expect her to eat them, I just sort of dumped them on her tray and started walking away. She happily ate them.<BR/><BR/>Next we moved on to teeny-micro bits of other foods. She just didn't want pureed anything. Can't blame her there. I don't know whether she swallowed stuff whole or what (she didn't get any teeth till 10 mos.), but she was finally interested in food.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-69532491497568502172008-12-21T09:35:00.000-05:002008-12-21T09:35:00.000-05:00At six months, we started trying with the purees a...At six months, we started trying with the purees and what not- She didn't finish a single jar until she was 9 months, and that day she ate two and then finished off her cousin's mac and cheese. The next day, she stole both spoons that I tried to feed her with and tried for the third, so I put some soft finger foods down and the kid started jamming them in. Maybe with the next one I will just let them figure it out themselves, because all the solid food thing did was stress me out. Of course, you have a different situation- maybe what everyone else has suggested and let him make a mess and do it himself? I would let him have the teething rusks and put a small bowl of baby food on the tray and try to get him to dip into fruits and what not? I dunno, it is worth a shot, I guess.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-51585709785202914962008-12-20T19:51:00.000-05:002008-12-20T19:51:00.000-05:00oh, and he loves loves loves the gerber puffs that...oh, and he loves loves loves the gerber puffs that melt in your mouth. i started those around 7.5mo. then once he was good on those we moved to cheerios then the pasta. :-)Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915351322324269632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-67765262203810235392008-12-20T19:50:00.000-05:002008-12-20T19:50:00.000-05:00my 9mo loves pasta. i give him elbow noodles cooke...my 9mo loves pasta. i give him elbow noodles cooked for about 20 minutes until they're basically mush. mix em with cheese or baby food. he's WAY more into it than the squidgy stuff.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915351322324269632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-11228603302318424592008-12-20T18:27:00.000-05:002008-12-20T18:27:00.000-05:00I had an uber-baby. Now she's an uber-woman and I...I had an uber-baby. Now she's an uber-woman and I could insensitively say it's worth it, but what-the-hell-good would that do. Sleep deprivation is total guantanamo.<BR/>What worked with the second child--also an uber-girl but a more cheerful version (perhaps this is my perception since I was better rested) was that I didn't get up to feed her. I didn't even open my eyes. My husband brought her to me, positioned her and I guess lifted my t-shirt. One necessity for this practice is a guardrail on your bed.<BR/>Love your blog.<BR/>Check my blog for your award.http://deniseemanuelclemen.blogspot.com/Denise Emanuel Clemenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982725113569943337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9553338598713416122008-12-20T15:44:00.000-05:002008-12-20T15:44:00.000-05:00I don't have any tipfor the strating of solids, bu...I don't have any tipfor the strating of solids, but maybe for the sleeping part.<BR/><BR/>Have you tried cosleeping? So that you could just roll over and pop in the booby and fall back to sleep. It doesn't require much getting up, and you can regain your strength.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00812439727319878237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1815600563753182422008-12-20T15:09:00.000-05:002008-12-20T15:09:00.000-05:00I had the baby that wouldn't wean but was STARVING...I had the baby that wouldn't wean but was STARVING...here's what worked for me, good luck finding someone who would suffer through it with you. <BR/><BR/>I had to leave said son with my friend long enough that he was SCREAMING for a boob. Then she'd give him some solids. It took about a week to just start giving in and eating without a tantrum first. It worked because the boobs were not an option at my friends house, it gave me a chance to nap while she had him and eventually he realized he liked being FULL, go figure. <BR/><BR/>Wish I lived closer because I truly would throw myself under the bus to help you with this one. Oh, you should just come back to FL.Anissa Mayhewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01637783862251849189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-2106084514184444482008-12-20T10:24:00.000-05:002008-12-20T10:24:00.000-05:00I think that many above me are correct, Jasper kno...I think that many above me are correct, Jasper knows the jugs are right there - why eat something green? Since he takes the spoon from you, maybe he could have his own and his feeder can have one too? Maybe HBS (his bad sister) could sit right next to him and also eat with an identical spoon? Maybe even out of a jar of baby food (applesauce or something) (although this might cause new issues that she wants to be THE baby). I'm sure he loves her and wants to be just like her.Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10092725913936772008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1553755545030672642008-12-20T10:05:00.000-05:002008-12-20T10:05:00.000-05:00I couldn't get my youngest off my breast either un...I couldn't get my youngest off my breast either until she was fifteen months old. Drove me crazy. What I did was trick her, I gave her a bottle of milk in the night when she was half asleep, worked well. Good luck.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-22741887281534999932008-12-20T05:56:00.000-05:002008-12-20T05:56:00.000-05:00I am sure you are doing a great job and he will ev...I am sure you are doing a great job and he will eventually grow out of it all on his own. <BR/><BR/>What helped me eventually was a bit of what you called "ferberization-lite". I think the reason it helped, though, was because DS learnt a range of <B>options</B> for being helped to sleep. I could feed him to sleep, or rock him to sleep in my arms, or pat him to sleep in his crib, or pump him full of paracetamol (ok that was just for teething LOL) and in between each option, I could put him down for oh, 2-3 minutes and just breathe and take a break.<BR/><BR/>So, my advice is to experiment. Try different ways of settling him in the middle of the night, before you feed him. let him cry for 2 minutes. Let your husband take him for a pram ride around the house. Pat him in the crib for 5 minutes before feeding him. If he is like my son, the alternatives won't work at first. But eventually they will. Just mix it up, keep him confused - but still comforted if that is your instinct - and break the wake/feed association.<BR/><BR/>Harder to do than to say! especially when sleep deprived. Sometimes i wonder if these things are more like busy-work to help us feel we are doing something while they grow out of it on their own.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21030026592894510262008-12-20T04:08:00.000-05:002008-12-20T04:08:00.000-05:00I was going to type something similar to your anon...I was going to type something similar to your anonymous poster who suggested letting your guy get really messy and play with his food. My eldest was like this, she fed herself in minute amounts by squishing her food with her fingers, then licking them. Her favorite first food was cooked bananas, they are sweeter once , breastmilk is also super sweet. If he sits well, plop him on a blanket, give him some mushed cooked bananas and let him get messy, then stick him in the bath later. He'll get some in his mouth, and probably like it! I mixed everything with Banana for that same eldest, my other 2 weren't picky but my first really wanted sweet stuff and only if she could feed it to herself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-30142017070353273572008-12-20T03:18:00.000-05:002008-12-20T03:18:00.000-05:00our babies sound like twins, except mine is now 13...our babies sound like twins, except mine is now 13 months AND he sleeps from 10pm till 7am. It will happen!<BR/><BR/>finger foods (especially steamed sweet potato), mesh feeders with banana, and rice cereal mixed with pureed peaches seemed to be what my son eventually went for. <BR/><BR/>offer solids before breastfeeding as wellAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-25506177011069515172008-12-19T22:59:00.000-05:002008-12-19T22:59:00.000-05:00I agree with the others on Baby led weaning - try ...I agree with the others on Baby led weaning - try scrambled eggs, yogurt, whole pieces of peeled fruit (apple, pear) to hold and gnaw on. Just keep trying and let him play with food on his own. Neither of my kids would ever eat anything pureed or spoon fed, and my almost 4 year old still won't eat applesauce to this day. Scrambled eggs was the first thing my kids really ate on their own and really loved. Good luck. My 17 month old is still up 3 times a night to nurse *sigh*...Sea-Green Designshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706820901904743099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42369796059613563962008-12-19T21:32:00.000-05:002008-12-19T21:32:00.000-05:00Anyone that tells you that adding rice cereal to a...Anyone that tells you that adding rice cereal to a bottle will make them sleep hasn't read the research that says that this does crap all for their sleep and doesn't realize that is a choking hazzard. <BR/><BR/>Also the tough love, sleeping training crap - is well, crap and inhumane.<BR/><BR/>I would 2nd the motion to see if iron supplementation is needed in a month or two. <BR/><BR/>The only other piece of ass-vice I have is to let him play with food. Put down a dollar store shower curtain, put several options of food out in front and let him go to town. Keep meal times happy (as frustrating as they can get), eat with him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com