Her Bad Mother

Thursday, September 25, 2008

Milk, It Does A Body Good

Dear PETA,

We here at the Society for the Control, Containment and Commodification of Women (CCCOW) were delighted to see your most recent press release proposing the replacement of cow's milk with human breast milk in commercial dairy products such as ice cream. We have long argued that women best serve society in their natural capacity as nurturers, and what better way to nurture America than as providers of dairy and other commercially viable foodstuffs?

You state in your press release that human breast milk is nutritionally superior to cow's milk for humans, and we suspect that this may be true. This corresponds to the scientific findings of our Research Team, which has also found that human babies prefer human mothers, and also that human women are sexually attractive to many human males. This has led us to support the idea that human beings organize themselves into Family Units, wherein the woman remains within the home, caring for babies and servicing the males. Your proposal, however, that women provide breastmilk for use in commercial dairy products leads us to consider the possibility that the "family" might be reconfigured to better reflect the needs of a changing market society, and women put to better use. Specifically, why not establish Woman Farms, wherein women are kept and used for breeding purposes and for the purposes of supplying dairy for America's food supply?

We have not yet worked out the logistics of such a program, but we imagine that it would be possible to remove human babies from their herded mothers and feed the babies with formula (which Science has proven to be comparable in nutritional value to breastmilk, and far more economically viable as a foodstuff for babies, if breastmilk is to be diverted into the marketplace), so that lactating mothers can be milked for the greater good of the American Economy, and cows released back into the wild (we propose that they be released in Alaska, where they will no doubt restore themselves to the ecosystem by becoming foodstuffs for polar bears and additional hunting quarry for Alaska's political elite, which will itself be a more balanced system once voided of women.) Dairy farmers of America need not suffer - a simple transfer program of cows for women (exact ratio to be determined, based upon productivity of lactating women as compared to cows and potential market value of human breastmilk over cows milk) and a government-funded transition program to educate farmers on the care and feeding of women, as well as some funding for equipment adaptation (we understand that breast pumps are less technically sophisticated than milking equipment, but very probably less durable), and so we believe that farmers will weather the transition easily.

We believe that our proposal is more ethical and better suited to the wellbeing of both human and cowkind than the current, inefficient and immoral system of using cows as sources of dairy for human consumption: women are natural producers of milk for human consumption, and - if contemporary popular culture is to be believed, as we think it is - are happy in the state of pregnancy and lactation so long as they are kept supplied with Frappuccinos (blended with soy or formula, of course, the better to avoid Maternal Spongiform Encephalopathy, or Mad Mom Disease) and given regular pedicures and steady exposure to Entertainment Tonight and People Magazine. They will be happy to be contribute to the economy in this way, and will no doubt be glad to have played some small part in liberation of cowkind.

We hope that you will support CCCOW in this endeavor, as we believe that the CCCOW vision for a prosperous and ethical America corresponds with your own.*

We expect to hear from you soon!

Yours Sincerely,

William "Bull" Crapperton, Jr.
Media Relations, CCCOW

*Ben & Jerry's is refusing to support our initiative, but we do currently enjoy the support of the Bovine Liberation Front and the NRA. Please consider lending your support!

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Where we stand on sleep chez HBM: there is none. The problem, at the moment, is this - I am single-parenting at the moment. The husband is working very long hours, such that he is only home for a few hours at night and can't spell me off. I gave Behemoth Baby some rice cereal last night, which seemed to help - he slept for about five hours, from 8pm to 1am, but I was so buzzed from lack of sleep and a day spent knocking back espressos that I couldn't settle during those hours. I fell asleep close to midnight, only to be awoken an hour later, and then every hour on the hour thereafter.

WHAT DO I DO?

I need to survive until end of day tomorrow, when the husband is back. How do I make it until then?

******

Also, Gwyneth Paltrow can just zip it, please and thank you.

******

Westjet has finally responded - in a comment to my original post (scroll waaaay down to here). Note that they get the incident wrong - they think that I've written about something that happened to another woman back in July. They assert that they've 'already apologized' for the incident. Which, no you did not, twits. I had no response to my original e-mail to them, and they clearly didn't read any of your letters, nor did they read either of the posts, because THEY THINK WE'RE WRITING ABOUT SOMETHING ELSE THAT HAPPENED TO SOMEONE ELSE. It actually made me freaking cry because, are you serious? Am too tired to shout at them to pay (expletive) attention.

I just want an apology, even just some evidence that they pay a little (expletive) attention when a customer gets (expletive) upset. But am too (expletive) tired to deal with this right now. I hate everything right now. BAH.

75 Comments:

Blogger Steph said...

This is fecking awesome.

Oh, and about the sleep... No more espressos, woman!!!

12:33 PM  
Blogger zeghsy said...

moo.

um, yah. the espressos might be hurting the bb more than helping you.

12:35 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

The espressos are necessary to keep me alert while baby is awake. I start hallucinating from exhaustion mid-afternoon, which is when Mr. J is usually getting his groove on.

12:36 PM  
Blogger Immoral Matriarch said...

Stupid, STUPID PeTA.

12:36 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

also, they're only half-caf. still, I hear ya.

so how do I stay awake when I need to be awake, and sleep when I need to sleep?

12:37 PM  
Blogger Steph said...

If I knew the answer to THAT I'd be a millionaire.

12:39 PM  
Blogger zchamu said...

That was utterly (udderly?) classic.

12:41 PM  
Blogger Stac Cole said...

I think you should forward your letter to PETA to every national news organization out there. And personally mail a copy to the Pam Anderson's of the world.

Very well said HBM. Very well said.

12:41 PM  
Anonymous Shawna said...

I once read a very disturbing sci-fi short story based on this premise.

12:47 PM  
Blogger Major Bedhead said...

That letter is hysterical.

Does Wonderbaby go to preschool? If she does, the minute you get back from bringing her, crawl into bed with the baby and sleep/nurse until you need to pick her up again. This saved my sanity many a time when I was nursing my two.

Also, you might want to cut out the espressos - that may be making the little man wake so frequently.

12:47 PM  
Blogger T with Honey said...

My old nursing shirt that said "Got Milk!" across the front just took on a whole new meaning for me.

12:55 PM  
Blogger Mary Beth said...

I have several people who would like to apply for the job of milker please.

12:57 PM  
Blogger Madame Queen said...

That is the best thing I've read in ages. Everyone forward it to everyone you know.

12:59 PM  
Blogger Karen said...

more cereal? maybe oatmeal.
also, have your expressos earlier in the day?
or add wine as soon as his little eyes start to look heavy?

also, saw on CNN women are selling their breastmilk in China. Women who who are poor, who have given their second babies up for adoption because they cannot afford the tax. Women who are now, presumably, worried that the babies that placed in the care of orphanages are not now drinking poisoned formula. They are selling their breast milk to worried parents whose babies must now not drink any formula. It is just totally fucked up.
PETA sucks & so does poisoning baby formula to make a buck.
We all need to be able to feed our children safely, without poison, sneers or staring.
And also, it is okay not to co-sleep. We gave up around that age with our more social child. The introverted ones seem to do better longer, but that true extrovert really just kept waking up to talk. Limited topics at age 4 months, so we added oatmeal & took away mommy's magical presence.
Hope HBF gets home earlier soon.

1:00 PM  
Blogger MissAnna said...

Excellent letter--I was certainly amused by PETA's statement yesterday!

As for the sleep...certainly not the expert on babes & nursing whatsoever, but I know that being outside wakes me up and exercise helps me sleep. Long walks? (Is it crappy weather there?) Indoor track? The aisles of Costco?

1:01 PM  
Blogger Kyla said...

Quiet funny, HBM!

1:04 PM  
Blogger Goldfish said...

Brilliantbrilliantbrilliant. Are they cracked?! Sleep: no suggestions, just moral support. Do you want me to ask my baby? He's 9 mos now, and went from up 2-3 times a night to sleeping 13 hours at a stretch just this week. For no apparent reason. (Which, by the way, means that I have an abundance of milk for Ben and Jerry's at 7am every day now.)I'm not bragging. Just want to tell you I'm as in-the-dark as you....

1:10 PM  
Blogger No Minimom said...

Playing devil's advocate: Over all I see your point re: human milk in dairy products, but I don't think the point is to take mothers away from their babies, but to have the women act as a kind of wet nurse. That is, once their child is weaned (at whatever age) the mother would continue to produce milk for the purpose of sale.

I tend to agree with the ick factor from a consumer standpoint, but I wonder why we all feel that way. Why is it OK to feed our kids with it and even feed other people's kids via milk bank, but not OK for adults to consume?

1:11 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

No Minimom - I'm not tackling the ick factor (the first person who consumed cows milk prolly had to overcome a huge ick factor) - it's the idea of the commodification of mother's milk, the idea that if take milk from cows and sell it, why shouldn't we take it from mothers and sell it? Well, for starters: WOMEN ARE NOT COWS.

I'm all for wet-nursing, for donating milk to moms/babies in need - but making a commercial turn to breastmilk over cows milk in order to save oppressed cows? Not so much.

1:23 PM  
Blogger Rusti said...

you are fabulous! keep it up!

oh, and I hope you make it through the day until husband comes home - I really really do!

1:27 PM  
Blogger No Minimom said...

Point taken and agreed. However, couldn't this be a viable income for some women if they chose that route?

1:27 PM  
Blogger Karen said...

hbm - yes okay with milk-donating and banking - not so cool with selling because I see huge economic disparity, who would be the most likely among women to be needing to sell their milk. I just don't like the way that sounds, like the comodification of women's bodies.

1:30 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

But then there's a creepy have/have-not divide, isn't there? between women who can afford to keep their breastmilk, and those who might be compelled to sell it (and perhaps wean their babies early to do so)?

And it still leaves us with women being commodified. Why not just keep commodifying the cows, and leave the boob-juice for the babies?

1:33 PM  
Anonymous Steph said...

My favourite line on GOOP is "my life is good because I am not passive about it." Umm, really? Is that REALLY why GP? Is it not good because you have the time and money to be active just for you all day long? Eat a sandwich or something for god's sake. Or babysit for HBM for just one night.

1:35 PM  
Blogger No Minimom said...

My thought is that it's no different than a woman selling her eggs or a man selling sperm. I'm a breastfeeding mom (for the 2nd time) and if I were given the opportunity to make money from my milk (when I'm done nursing or if I had surplus), I totally would. Of course no choice is right for everyone, but I'm curious as to why breast milk becoming a commodity is such a bad thing when there are other human "biproducts" on the market.

(I hope you all realize that I'm not trolling! This topic just really interest me. I'm enjoying the discussion.)

1:36 PM  
Blogger Amy said...

Lower. Your. Standards.

Go to bed. Take the baby with you. Take a few entertaining toys and place them around the baby on the bed. If you have older kids (can't remember, sorry!) put them in front of a video in your bedroom (move equipment if necessary). Shut the door, turn off the phone, turn off the computer, and hibernate until your husband gets home.

Try not to throw the baby at him when he gets back, or if you do, throw underhand.

Hang in there,
Amy

1:38 PM  
Blogger BaltimoreGal said...

Another case of PETA being COMPLETELY misogynistic.

1:41 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

No Minimom - but we don't (at least here in Canada) let people sell eggs or sperm (they need to be donated; similarly, women can't be hired to act as pregnancy surrogates, for the same reasons) - so that these most fundamental things - building blocks of life - don't get commodified and, most importantly, so that the poor don't experience pressure to give up these things in exchange for $$.

An extreme libertarian-capitalist argument would hold that we should be able to sell any part of ourselves - body parts, reproductive capacities, sex - with impunity. But most societies limit/restrict the saleability of these things to protect the vulnerable. My implied argument here is that PETA has no problem with making women vulnerable in order to save a few cows.

And, no worries about trolling! There's a very big difference between good discussion and trollage - I'm enjoying the discussion, too!

2:01 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

Amy - am going to try just that (and, underhand, ell-o-ell.)

2:02 PM  
OpenID blissfullycaffeinated said...

Listen to me: Get someone -- a friend, relative, grandmotherly neighbor, homeless dude, SOMEONE --to come over to your house for a few hours during the day when the baby is more likely to be relaxed and on less of a crying jag. Nurse the baby really good, maybe pump a bottle if Jasper will take a bottle, hand off the baby to your stand in, and GO TO BED. Take a nap. You need it.

Also, re the PETA thing: You are a genius. They are out of their minds.

And finally - F*ck that Gwyneth Paltrow. Who does she think she is? Give me a break.

2:04 PM  
Anonymous rantsalamode said...

Great post. Wickedly funny. Very "A Modest Proposal." Peta is crazy, I believe. I mean, it's cool to like animal rights, but their ideas about how to improve animals rights, are ludicrous. So it's better to buy breast milk from poor women in the developing world (which is what we would end up doing) than to take it from cows? It's better to exploit human women than cow women? At least suggest we use soy-milk, don't suggest we just substitute human moms for cow moms!

2:07 PM  
OpenID blissfullycaffeinated said...

Oh, and I forgot to say, "Ew."

I've breastfed two kids for more than a year each, but yuck. I don't want anyone replacing the good ole pasteurized cow milk in my Ben & Jerry's with breast milk. No no no.

2:09 PM  
Blogger Niksmom said...

Try to limit espressos to morning/midday. No more after 1 or 2 p.m. J is totally get his buzz on from your high-caff boob juice! LOL

On the whole selling milk issue...not really viable if you consider the medical screening which must be done prior to the, erm, milking process. Then there's the whole storage, pasteurization process, etc. All those cow-to-human modifications of the machines (OUCH!!) cost money ya know.

Seriously, is someone at PETA on drugs?

2:18 PM  
Anonymous the weirdgirl said...

Thank you so much, HBM, for bringing this timely and relevant idea to our attention! This makes so much sense! However, I am one of those inefficient lactators... I am fearful that I'll be unable to participate in the new world order. How can I effectively contribute to society without squirting? Do you think I'll be ostracized?

2:19 PM  
Blogger Just Call Me Sleep Deprived said...

wow do I know how you feel! I am a single mother and have the same problem with the sleeping, being the only person waking up with the baby. After a night of waking up every 1 or 2 hours the only possible way I can function or think straight is a day filled with caffeine. I have found that if I have a cup early in the morning and then another an hour or 2 later and nothing after about 3:00 pm I can make it through the day and then crash around 10pm. I definitely sympathize with you and understand your absolute need for caffeine to care for your baby! Good Luck :)

2:22 PM  
Blogger DivaDunn said...

I can't remember age recommendations anymore, but I started adding some mashed avacado to her cereal sometime around 5mo. With all the good fats it kept her full a lot longer than the carby cereal.

She was also a terrible sleeper and I was following the "rules" of putting her down drowsy in a quiet room blah..blah... Around nine months old I caved and turned on lullaby's and she slept throught the night!!! I often wonder if it would have made a difference at a younger age.

Hang in there till HBF's home!

3:11 PM  
Blogger Robbin said...

I think this is my favorite Her Bad Mother post EVER!

3:19 PM  
Blogger Steph said...

Isn't it a viscous cycle, though?

Caffeine > No Sleep > More Caffeine

... ad nauseum. I’ve started and stopped with the caffeine more times than I can count (tea is my drink of choice now), but in my partum and post-partum days I was better off caffeine free. It’s not easy, I realize.

Oh, and the avocado thing sounds very good!

3:19 PM  
Blogger Steph said...

That would be vicious cycle, but I've been known to have one or two cycle's that were viscous as well :)

3:21 PM  
Blogger Steph said...

Cycles, not possessive... now who's sleep deprived?!

3:22 PM  
Anonymous Vanessa said...

Hire a babysitter. I kid you not, woman. And don't even think about feeling guilty to do it.

And yes, I know Jasper's a boob feeder, but there's a family I've babysat for since their oldest was an infant (he's now 9), and now they've got 3. Each time the mommy got baby burn out, she'd ask me to babysit for a day, and she'd get some much needed rest. Even if it was just sitting in her room, reading a book, she didn't have to get up to get a screaming kid a cup of juice, cause that was my job. The only time I disturbed her was to attach the baby to her boob, but when she was done feeding, I took said baby back.

The boobie is still there, when need arises, and so is mommy, if things get really chaotic, but if you trust the sitter you pick, you really should be able to get some naps stuck in there. Or a bubble bath. Or some quality time with a book. Or whatever you find relaxing.

3:41 PM  
Blogger Anissa Mayhew said...

As I am done breeding and no longer lactating, is there a plan off attack of what to do with those no longer productive members of the herd?

3:50 PM  
Blogger Backpacking Dad said...

A swift and biting proposal.

4:29 PM  
Blogger Backpacking Dad said...

A swift and biting proposal.

4:29 PM  
Anonymous Bella said...

GREAT letter!

About the sleep, I live in Toronto and could give you the number of the night nurse I used when my twins were tiny. I'd pump at 10 pm (and some throughout the day) and she'd feed them a couple of times throughout the night. I did this at least twice/week so I could at least catch up on my sleep every couple of days. The catch 22 for me was that if I didn't get enough sleep, I stopped producing enough milk, so I was very motivated to get the sleep. Could you try a night doula/nurse?

Email me if you want the info.

Hang in there otherwise... I remember all too well, where you are...

4:41 PM  
Blogger OLM said...

almost 12 months, and *occasionally* she sleeps 10 hrs straight, 1-2 times a week only one wake up, and 1-2 times a week i end up sleeping with her and patting her back to sleep every 2-3 hours or more.

When she was an infant - she slept, ONLY ON A PERSON, and anywhere from 30- 45 minutes, maximun of 3 hrs (once a day, at a random unpredictable point in the day). By the end of month 1, I was officially sleep deprived and depressed. At the beginning of month 3 a very experienced babysitter "misunderstood" me and put her to sleep, IN HER CRIB, on her stomach. She slept 4 hours solid and would have stayed asleep except I felt I HAD to wake her to feed her.

Feeling VERY guilty, I then put her to sleep on her stomach regularly. And I got more sleep. For Christmas (end month 3), she gave me the present of sleeping 5 hours solid, and then 3 more hours after a feeding, at least one point in every day (technically an 8 hour block of sleep). By month 5, I had shifted that 8ish hours to between 11pm and 7am. In month 7 or 8 she slept solid, 9 hrs through the night for the 1st time ever.

I only survived via my friends coming over to take the babay so that I got at least 1-2 hours of uninterrupted sleep a night, plus an incredibly understanding job that let me work short hours until this was all sorted out. [I essentially slept whenever she did, all day.] Oh and I have only one child.

4:42 PM  
Blogger Winkin1 said...

HBM

Been there. I second what everyone is saying about getting help. When DD was small, my mom would occaisionally pull "night shift" and do all the cuddling, soothing, and LISTENING all night. (It turns out that simply knowing you are "on duty" with that baby monitor or baby in the room means you can't sleep near as well). She was responsible for doing whatever it took to make DD go no less than 3 hours between feeding (2 1/2 if things were really hairy, but really, they can wait even if they don't want to). Then you know the drill--when you make 'em wait a bit, you get more milk, they get a better feed, and they can go longer. Also--sleep is the most important thing in making milk.

Any reasonably reliable adult will do, you know. Got a neighbor? Surprisingly people are pretty willing to help out even at night because they can have the baby to themselves (yay!).

As for caffeine, I was an addict too in those first months (probably first 9 months or so). I never found it to effect baby one way or another. I also never found a glass of wine to make baby sleepy either (foiled!).

hugs to you. hope you get to rest soon.

4:58 PM  
Blogger r3 said...

Again:

1. White noise machine. Very cheap. Workee goodee. Turn onee.

2. You takee one half of benadrylee after last breastfeedee.

3. Put baybe in cribee.

4. Night night.

P.S. ya gotta knock of the caffeine, or least reduce it. Sheesh.

5:00 PM  
Blogger Katrina said...

How in the hell does PITA, er, PETA think humans could EVER produce THAT MUCH MILK???? My gosh, cows give about 2-4 gallons each milking, and they're milked twice a day!!! On my best day, I maybe got 20 ounces (in addition to nursing) and I definitely had an abundant supply. The math is way outta whack.

PETA's just being a bunch of asses as usual. I dealt with them personally several years ago...bah.

7:27 PM  
Blogger Katrina said...

Oh, and the sleep nightmare...I'd give cereal to baby, take half a benadryl (ask your doc, s/he may let ya take a whole one!) then curl up with little one.

I know it's an old wives tale and docs say the cereal won't help baby sleep but anecdotal evidence suggests otherwise. I tend to like old wives myself, so it couldn't hurt to try!

And have a neighbor, somebody! come over for a few hours.

Definitely get a noise machine, or even a cool mist humidifier would work great to help little one sleep. Works very well with Max.

Hang in there, chickadee!

7:34 PM  
Blogger Sam said...

Uh...I might be speechless over West Jet's response. I do not think an incorrect comment on a blog post is the way to handle a customer service issue. EVER. Stupid douche canoes.

8:39 PM  
Blogger the new girl said...

Blink
Blink

They have such a thing as a NIGHT NURSE? Whoot?

If I'd only known. I almost went nuts from seeing every. hour. on. the. clock. all night long. We finally did CIO at around 4mos, because I couldn't take it anymore. It was painfully awful.

Looking back, I believe that my girl had reflux, which was responsible for her wanting to suck all the time and then for her waking every hour, wanting to suck more (for comfort) but having increased distress.

I don't know if you're son is crying or not. If not, he'd be fine in another room. You NEED to get some sleep.

9:21 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

bella - i'd love that info - email me?

10:03 PM  
Blogger Ernesta said...

Just came across your blog - love it! Re: sleep issues. I am still recovering from lack of sleep when my son was 0-1 yr old -- I swear I only slept 2-3 hours a night! How to cope? Put baby in crib for 1/2 hour while you doze on couch or mattress in the room. Hope that helps!

11:01 PM  
Blogger Mind of MadMan said...

Pamela Anderson is just looking to get fondled.

2:35 AM  
Blogger Irene said...

I don't know if you accept award, but I have one waiting for you over at my place. Yes, I do read you, I'm a lurker, mostly, coming out of the closet now.

4:59 AM  
Blogger Magpie said...

You rock, even in your sleep deprived state. This is divine.

11:22 AM  
Blogger Brandi said...

Brilliant and oh so funny! I too read a sci-fi short story along these lines when I was younger. I believe it was Larry Niven and he was exploring the idea of parallel universes, in this one all other species had died out so humans had to produce for humans. Shudder. Not near as much humor as yours, much creepier. I hope you actually did send this to PETA? Hopehopehope.

As far as the insomnia insanity. I gots nuthin. I'm on year 4 of little to no sleep most nights (5 hrs if I'm lucky, 3 average), which adds to why I see my psychiatrist on a monthly basis. Probably financing his Christmas this year.

All I can suggest by way of help is nap when the baby naps and hope you can override the caffeine when necessary. You might want to try a different energizer like B vitamins, lower possibility of jitter crazies. I will not suggest exercise like others might, who has the energy for that?! (was the help question rhetorical? Oops if it was)

Sorry for the babble, it was a sub-3 night for me last night, I'm kinda loopy. Damn kids. (jk, kinda)

11:58 AM  
Blogger Booba Juice said...

Awesome!!! You write like I wish I could!!!


As far as sleep goes, don't everyone go and hate me but here is what I did with my first. We where in the military at the time, had recently moved to a new duty station, far, far away from family. DH was gone on deployent, leaving me with a four week old. Talk about bad situation. Finally I was to my wits end. (this is the child that still to this day doesn't like to sleep. Unlike my youngest daughter who started sleeping through the night a three weeks old.) So I talked not only to my midwife, but to her ped doctor. We gave the child benadryl. You would have to find out for the weight of the child how much. But you can look that info up online. I have her only a hafe dose of what they recommended for her age...she sleep for about five ours stright....it was a wonderful!!! I only did this mind you when I absolutly had to, but it helped me keep my sanity. (IE. most doctors and midwives say that benadryl is safe even to take while pregnant.)

:-)

12:01 PM  
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12:17 PM  
Anonymous lavandula said...

hi catherine sorry about the no sleep thing....i got an e-mail response from westjet this a.m. and link back to you but yeah it wasn;t your story.... and i checked or rather tried checking out that GOOP thingy and each little clicky took me to same page which told me what to do WTH? how unoriginal and uninspiring is that?

12:21 PM  
Anonymous lavandula said...

oh was that PETA crap for reals?!!! WTF? they are crazy.....

12:23 PM  
Blogger becky w. said...

Hi, HBM

I have been reading your blog for a while, but this is my first time commenting. I think you are amazing, and I am really feeling for your sleep issues right now. This probably won't help you between now and when your husband gets home, but I have to recommend a book to you that will help long term with sleep issues. It saved me when I was a new mom and couldn't get my baby to sleep. It is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. The author is Wiessbluth. You are likely to get some negative comments about this recommendation because his strategies can be polarizing, depending on what parenting style philosophy you subscribe to. So let me tell you what I like about it. Ultimately the goal is for the entire family to be well rested and to establish good sleep habits for your child. He teaches you how to use the baby's naturally developing sleeping rythms and biology to get him to sleep when they need it. If you can get past his lectury writing style and the tangents he goes off on, the main points and strategies are gold. Both my breastfed babies began sleeping all the way through the night, 12-13 hours at about 12 to 14 weeks using the sleep strategies in this book.

I hope you get some rest soon, and I LOVE reading your blog!

Becky

12:35 PM  
Blogger Trisha said...

I instantly laughed hysterically having read the original article and your post. My 3 year old asked what was so funny. She gave me a look of disgust and confusion when I explained to her people want to use mommy's booby milk to make ice cream. Even the kiddos right off the breast have an opinion. "Don't mess with ice cream and don't take our baby's milk!"

12:49 PM  
Anonymous fruitlady said...

I only ever made 2 oz per boob at any one time, so I wonder if I would be weeded out and pastured or taken out behind the barn and shot? Also, I wonder if my productivity would increase if I were allowed to watch Jon Stewart in addition to reading EW and People. Jon Stewart does make me want to breed every time I watch.

1:08 PM  
Blogger Connie said...

What a great post! I just read about this today and posted about it....your's is way better! LOL!

1:35 PM  
Anonymous Haley said...

I don't understand what the big deal is--a mother's milk meant for babies is a mother's milk meant for babies no matter the species. If anything, human milk would be far healthier because there's no way anyone's going to hook humans up to a vaccuum 24/7 until they're sucked dry, meaning it wouldn't have the blood and puss in it that's currently found in milk sucked from sickened/weak dairy cows.

I know this was just another cute/quirky PETA ploy to bring attention to the plight of these abused animals, but really it's not that crazy of a suggestion. Why is drinking processed human breast milk gross when drinking milk from an abused cow's breast with a bunch of steroids added to it and milk and puss isn't? No wonder so many people are lactose intolerant these days...

1:45 PM  
Blogger Baby in the City said...

GOOP? why didn't she call it SLUDGE or POOP? Who are the branding geniuses behind her?

4:17 PM  
Blogger LD said...

That was funny.
have you been to Ben & Jerry's? Their cows are well taken care of.
As a breastfeeding woman I'd be happy to move to Vermont and live that life :)
But, the weird thing about the Peta letter is that they wrote to the wrong people. Ben & Jerry don't even own the place anymore and aren't really involved.
I know this - I took the factory tour 3 times last year!!!

Anyway, about the sleep thing. We're going through it too. My husband has taken to sleeping on the couch while I get up a million times a night with the baby. And she refuses formula.
I have no advice. Benadryl does nothing (I take it for allergies) and coffee is necessary and I don't think it really keeps babies awake.

But, I'm with you. It sucks.

4:32 PM  
Blogger whensheworeponytails said...

I got the "we responded" email, C. Wanted to let you know. I responded to them "I'm glad you took the time to respond but you're responding to the WRONG incident. Which says to me you've had the same problem for quite some time and haven't done anything about it. Please recheck the dates and see that this is a different incident." Haven't heard back so far but I'll let you know if I do.

Gwyneth? Can suck it. I'll just be happy if I could get a damned haircut and manage to not wash my dishes in loads as if they were laundry. But maybe Gwynnie pooh would like to lend me Apple's Nanny so I can implement all her excellent ideas a little easier. And I'll get right on them as soon as I implement my idea of a margarita bar in the corner of my living room. I'll put my fresh flowers on it. Oh, and I'm not totally irresponsible. I'll be sure it's all child proofed or whatever. *wink*

10:40 AM  
Blogger whensheworeponytails said...

Oh,and PETA better back the heck up about ice cream. My husband is all about the boobies and such and will support PETA's rights to not want to eat KFC and hang out with Pambo but you fark with his ice cream's recipe and he'll use his power of pissy for bad. Which would amuse me and all but since I have kids I'd rather he not be in the news picketing while shouting "No boobies in my ice cream unless I'm drunk" while wearing a fur coat and walking around with a KFC bucket on his head.

10:47 AM  
Blogger Ursula said...

Dairy cows are kept nearly perpetually pregnant to keep them in milk, and their offspring are taken away at birth, either to become more dairy cows (the females) or food (the males). Because of the strain on their bodies, their lifespans are reduced by more than half. This is abuse for any mother, bovine or human, and I think PETA may have intended for people to take an extra moment to think about the inevitable cruelty involved in diverting any creature's milk from her own young.

For more info, google up the site Not Milk and have a read. Cow's milk is cruel, and nutritionally bad for humans, to boot.

9:36 AM  
Blogger Mama Smurf said...

"why not establish Woman Farms"

LMAO! Classic!

I'll bet this is where they're going with this whole cloning business!

2:44 PM  
Blogger ms. changes pants while driving said...

you're funny with little to no sleep.

i'm sorry you're going through this. but seriously, you're funny shit when you haven't slept.

hey, why don't they clone gwyneth? they can nurture the whole of the united states while living in london using fake, judgemental accents.

10:25 PM  
Anonymous body care lotion said...

Well I like how you worded the title firsssst of all. your posting was quite interesting, but is that really how it is??
I was told that a body after 12 years old begins to act to milk in a negative way. You ask how I have no idea, its just what I heard from a doctor but I've been having my wheaties every day now and nothing wrong with me :)
Well Im sure that its really good so I hope nothing changes its really kool :)

4:53 AM  

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