tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post6513441927668041839..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Desperate Feminist Housewife Moms Rule The World!Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-44222867945970506932008-12-30T22:47:00.000-05:002008-12-30T22:47:00.000-05:00I think I love you!I think I love you!blackbelthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682743823175329828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79575158187487747482008-06-16T14:20:00.000-04:002008-06-16T14:20:00.000-04:00Good JoB! :)Good JoB! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-41750380686733773502007-12-15T22:09:00.000-05:002007-12-15T22:09:00.000-05:00Hello ladies (and gentlemen, if there are any of t...Hello ladies (and gentlemen, if there are any of them about)! I found this blog a few days ago when I was searching for a community for Feminist housewives. <BR/><BR/>Unfortunately, I didn't really find one. However, I have harnessed the power of the internet and made a resource and community site for us. I'd really appreciate it if you would check it out and make any suggestions for the resources, articles, and/or books section of the website.<BR/><BR/>Here's the address: http://www.feministhousewives.com<BR/><BR/>Thanks all! Happy holidays!Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16419950299290166674noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-59450793102181387492007-10-28T07:33:00.000-04:002007-10-28T07:33:00.000-04:00Kudos to you! I just found your blog today. It is ...Kudos to you! I just found your blog today. It is fanstastic. Smart, informative and funny!Kissy Duganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11393792165232295378noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9033341329026070202007-08-17T18:09:00.000-04:002007-08-17T18:09:00.000-04:00Hey, I have yoga pants. And I'm a housewife. And I...Hey, I have yoga pants. And I'm a housewife. And I'm desperate . . . for more social interaction, more time to read, and the occasional bubble bath, at least. Also, and this is the kicker-- I was raised by a Professor of English and Women Studies who was a card-carrying member of NOW. <BR/><BR/>Does this mean I am part of a secret society bent on world domination and <I>I don't even know it?!</I> WOAH.<BR/><BR/>Because if that's true, a.) I need the pinky ring, stat, and 42.) I need to get in to one of those meetings to put forth a motion for a ban on Bratz dolls, Club Libby Lu, and preemptive wars STAT.Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-71482129457510466772007-08-17T11:20:00.000-04:002007-08-17T11:20:00.000-04:00catherine well versed as always.i couldn't have sa...catherine well versed as always.i couldn't have said this better myself.thought provoking as always .and funny.triclitoral commission.haha.but you are so right about sloppy moralism and skanky dolls which after all are just skanky dolls.LAVENDULAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-58685317785337075802007-08-17T11:08:00.000-04:002007-08-17T11:08:00.000-04:00I don't which line I love more in your post: "Desp...I don't which line I love more in your post: "Desperate Feminist Housewife Moms Rule The World!" or "Triclitoral Commission". <BR/><BR/>Thank you so much for a funny, funny piece. And thoughtful. <BR/><BR/>But I'm sorry, I'm more than a little disgusted that a Canadian newspaper actually published that op-ed. I mean, really. I've read rants that make more sense in the comments on msnbc stories online.Sandy D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08650640470141210550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49690263796955732402007-08-16T10:16:00.000-04:002007-08-16T10:16:00.000-04:00Staci, yeah, 'mainstream' is perhaps a little misl...Staci, yeah, 'mainstream' is perhaps a little misleading. Tho' I do think of her as old-school, inasmuch as her particular brand of feminism is no longer nearly as edgy as it once was.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-76675523226594990572007-08-16T01:24:00.000-04:002007-08-16T01:24:00.000-04:00I thought just last week we feminists were defined...I thought just last week we feminists were defined precisely by our unattractiveness, lack of sex appeal and inability to get a man -- I blink and look what happens to us. <BR/><BR/>Pitch perfect commentary, but I must ask, do you really consider Andrea Dworkin to be a "mainstream" feminist? She fits your point -she's certainly not pro hyper-sexualization. But I consider her to be kind of an extremist fringe feminist -- not that there's anything wrong with that. I'm just sayin'...the mystichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11536278508991059301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1615628692857993832007-08-16T00:51:00.000-04:002007-08-16T00:51:00.000-04:00Gol-lee. You're smart! My first time here at your...Gol-lee. You're smart! My first time here at your site, but it won't be the last.<BR/><BR/>Triclitorial Commission is my favorite!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-7187315039914884642007-08-15T19:21:00.000-04:002007-08-15T19:21:00.000-04:00(You know the problem with coming late to the part...(You know the problem with coming late to the party is there is just so much more to read!) First off, thank you HBM, you rock. This is a really complicated subject and I'm so sick of our culture of finger-pointing that tries to reduce everything down to "your fault" (I mean you, Ms. Kay). Our culture has such a weird dynamic of prudery vs. hypersexuality that just seems to feed itself in a cycle of repression... how do we break out of that? Do they have Bratz dolls or Girl Gone Wild videos in Europe where they aren't so concerned with seeing (or not seeing) someone's boob? (I'm honestly asking here because I don't know.)<BR/><BR/>When I was a teenager it never occurred to me to try to use my sexuality as power. And my brothers didn't have a lot of respect for the girls who did. I don't know if that was because we were raised with more emphasis on our brains than looks, or something we just saw through, (or even a lack of confidence on my part? I don't know) or what. All I know is I'd like to figure whatever it was out so I can teach my kids to just be self-assured people. (Though I am heartened by the teenagers I know today who don't buy into any of this crap, either.)<BR/><BR/>You know, Desperate Housewives was originally written as a satire. I'm continually shocked at the number of people who take that show as a slice of anything approaching reality. So... how do I sign up for the Triclitoral Committee?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-87723106268021224602007-08-15T12:27:00.000-04:002007-08-15T12:27:00.000-04:00Adding to the chorus here, thanks for a lovely, t...Adding to the chorus here, thanks for a lovely, thoughtful reply to idiotic nonsense. Unfortunately, we need to respond to the nonsense because people believe it.clueless but hopeful mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11011524864788495788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29779089929753415182007-08-15T10:25:00.000-04:002007-08-15T10:25:00.000-04:00Anonymous (who knows his or her Machiavelli, hmm.....Anonymous (who knows his or her Machiavelli, hmm...) - I totally agree (and think - hope - that I've at least implied above) that Bratz and their ilk very well might be part of the 'effectual truth' of feminism. That's precisely why it's complicated - it's pretty straighforward to argue that Bratz (or Desperate Housewives) would not be possible without feminism having broken the sexual-liberation ground that it did. but nor would these be possible, I think, without liberalism and advanced capitalism etc, etc. - to single out feminism as the 'root cause' (and to single out an imagined matriarchy) is just sloppy.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-15369540402588195422007-08-15T10:11:00.000-04:002007-08-15T10:11:00.000-04:00Maybe feminism helped to unleash forces it was una...Maybe feminism helped to unleash forces it was unable to contain. So maybe Bratz aren't the truth of feminism, but maybe they are part of its "effectual truth".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80964605995430857012007-08-15T09:26:00.000-04:002007-08-15T09:26:00.000-04:00And? Glennia's the only one who laughed at 'Tricli...And? Glennia's the only one who laughed at 'Triclitoral Commission'? I was very pleased with that one. It took whole minutes to come up with.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-24208121970778521632007-08-15T09:24:00.000-04:002007-08-15T09:24:00.000-04:00Mo - thanks!!LisaB - I did send a letter, but it w...Mo - thanks!!<BR/><BR/>LisaB - I did send a letter, but it was little more ranty than this (I believe that I referred to Ms. Kay as an 'angry bear flailing and roaring in the dark.' They didn't publish. But then I thought - Hey! I HAS A BLOG!Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-57538246511713745462007-08-15T00:11:00.000-04:002007-08-15T00:11:00.000-04:00Awesome response to a half-assed article by Ms Kay...Awesome response to a half-assed article by Ms Kay. <BR/><BR/>I have boys, but I also worry about what the expectations of society are for them, and why they are taught to "tap that" and "hit that" by the media. I think the sexuality issue runs both ways, for male and female youth, more so for females definitely, but what it all boils down to is a lack of respect for each other and ourselves. (this is figuratively, not literally.)<BR/><BR/>You are much more articulate than I am, and thank you for your insight.<BR/><BR/>ShashShashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03998268292521913501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-62273480806836804512007-08-15T00:02:00.000-04:002007-08-15T00:02:00.000-04:00Wow.It seems all too ironic that the Mother is to ...Wow.<BR/>It seems all too ironic that the Mother is to blame for societies woes with "loose morals".<BR/>Wow.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53117939100745428562007-08-14T22:24:00.000-04:002007-08-14T22:24:00.000-04:00I hope you sent this letter to the editor.I hope you sent this letter to the editor.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-57668845627185727962007-08-14T21:04:00.000-04:002007-08-14T21:04:00.000-04:00The strongest human need is TO BELONG. Give your d...The strongest human need is TO BELONG. <BR/><BR/>Give your daughter something more to be proud of - give her a currency that is more than just her body - and she will not feel like she has to resort to her boobs and her butt to get a man's attention.<BR/><BR/>Involve her in sports, education, activities. Give her other ways to boost her self-esteem.<BR/><BR/>Her sexuality is something she will proud of ONLY if she's told when she's young that it is nothing to be ashamed of and that she controls it.<BR/><BR/>Most of all, give her good strong men in her life who will protect her and she will never yearn to know what it feels like to be noticed by a man.Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07334552523048470954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1783981112349897992007-08-14T19:50:00.000-04:002007-08-14T19:50:00.000-04:00Here I sit, in complete awe of your ability to rea...Here I sit, in complete awe of your ability to read this kind of an article and then turn around and create such an articulate response.<BR/><BR/>I want to be you when I grow up!<BR/><BR/>I recently found out I'm expecting a baby girl. When people find out that I'm terrified of having a girl, they often say things like "but they're so sweet" and "the clothes are so much more fun to buy". What they fail to realize is that I'm not terrified of a baby girl, a toddler, or even a pre-schooler. It's the pre-teen and older girl I'm terrified of ... and all she has to try to figure out in the world. <BR/><BR/>Yes, I'll try to be there for her. To guide her. To help her. But if she's anything like I was when I was a teenager, she'll think I have no idea what I'm talking about simply because I'm her mother.<BR/><BR/>Terrified. Truly terrified.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-12550142153582940562007-08-14T19:28:00.000-04:002007-08-14T19:28:00.000-04:00Even though I do believe that we need the extremes...Even though I do believe that we need the extremes, to a point, to keep our moral compass in check I'm having a very hard time wrapping my mind around how sexualized innocents and porn star lookalike dolls became the fault of the matriarchy. So, thank you for this. Thank you for articulating what I never could have.Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-3892997644375076902007-08-14T18:26:00.000-04:002007-08-14T18:26:00.000-04:00I had to come back to this post three times to rea...I had to come back to this post three times to read it, because I could not get past the "Triclitoral Commission." That. Was. Funny.<BR/><BR/>But seriously, excellent arguments and resounding smackdown of idiotic position by Ms. Kay.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-48594515285441769612007-08-14T18:05:00.000-04:002007-08-14T18:05:00.000-04:00Amen, sister. I'm quite certain that feminism for...Amen, sister. I'm quite certain that feminism for hyper sexualizing society is akin to blaming the victim here - in that it's the patriarchal society that leads to sexualizing women as objects, and that's just trickled down to younger and younger subjects.EUChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09781973571129021209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-43130622499072704362007-08-14T17:39:00.000-04:002007-08-14T17:39:00.000-04:00I can't say much that already hasn't been said, bu...I can't say much that already hasn't been said, but I can say thank you. Thank you for this and thank you for being an excellent example of a well educated woman <I>and</I> a mother.moosh in indy.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12536663032282865725noreply@blogger.com