tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post5798788341703114711..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: The Sound Of CrazyHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-48103063099411351882008-07-22T19:05:00.000-04:002008-07-22T19:05:00.000-04:00Has anyone tried Baby Einstein? It works smoothly...Has anyone tried Baby Einstein? It works smoothly!! I use it with my baby, a professional screamer!!! After seeing the puppets is all laughs, she seems hypnotised!! Then I can go to the bathroom... No need to wait for your hubby..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-56063483540032322552008-07-07T21:33:00.000-04:002008-07-07T21:33:00.000-04:00Oh, Catherine! I am having flashbacks reading this...Oh, Catherine! I am having flashbacks reading this! My little girl (now 16 months) was the same way. Could. Not. Put. Her. Down. Except in a swing, and then only at night, swaddled tightly.<BR/><BR/>I will join in the chorus of those suggesting the swing and the sling. Also, my sister lent me The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD, where he shows how to swaddle and shush and the other "S"s, which really really helped with ours.<BR/><BR/>Good luck getting through this! It totally will get better, but you know that.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37705233811135309192008-07-06T23:15:00.000-04:002008-07-06T23:15:00.000-04:00My son was also a b) " just really likes to be hel...My son was also a b) <I>" just really likes to be held ALL THE FREAKING TIME and is not afraid to say so."</I> <BR/><BR/>Among other pleasant quirks, for the first few months he would only sleep--if you could call shutting his eyes for 2 minutes sleep--while laying on his back, on my swollen, scabby leaky chest. And then he would somehow manage to kick my c/s incision. <BR/><BR/>It was hell. I secretly hated everyone else I knew for their easy, sleepy babies, and their fast recoveries. <BR/><BR/>He's still not an easy child, FWIW, almost 4 years later. <BR/><BR/>I'm genuinely sorry you're in this place right now.karriehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02296823423014444325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-32558215360943847602008-07-02T15:05:00.000-04:002008-07-02T15:05:00.000-04:00My son went through this as well.His swing and a s...My son went through this as well.<BR/><BR/>His swing and a sling were the only way I could do anything.ZDubhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17050000234750719978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-32136557625299973032008-07-02T01:37:00.000-04:002008-07-02T01:37:00.000-04:00Thank you for posting something so honest and genu...Thank you for posting something so honest and genuine and accurate about what all this is really like . . . I think it is so helpful for other moms going through similar stuff. i hope things get much, much better for you very soon!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-63150084955808575682008-07-02T00:02:00.000-04:002008-07-02T00:02:00.000-04:00I feel your pain. Little Miss had colic for 3 1/2 ...I feel your pain. Little Miss had colic for 3 1/2 months, hubby had back surgery, my dad had heart problems and I was all alone with it. Walk away is not an option, help is not available. All I can say is it does get better. It doesn't help now but sometimes just knowing there is hope helps! Good Luck and rest when you can.justmylifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11374379802087502624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-89585732060617088542008-07-01T12:38:00.000-04:002008-07-01T12:38:00.000-04:00That sounds so much like my son.Have you thought o...That sounds so much like my son.<BR/>Have you thought of going to an osteopath? We're going now (a special infant/children's one) and it's incredible.<BR/>It's gentle, but helps with gastro issues and also with the crying.<BR/>I wish I'd gone when Matt cried non-stop. So worth it.<BR/>Let me know if you want the info (it's in Toronto).<BR/>PS Sorry for the unsolicited advice, but really, if I'd known how great it was when he was a screaming baby I would have camped out there for an appointment.LDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14132834699208306395noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79891538971252698672008-07-01T08:25:00.000-04:002008-07-01T08:25:00.000-04:00You just brought it all back. ALL OF IT! I remem...You just brought it all back. ALL OF IT! I remember going to the dentist when my first was about 8 months old and he said in surprise, "What in the hell's going on with your teeth? They were always so nice before?" And I said I had no time. "Everyone has time," he said. But I didn't. I didn't! My baby was like an evil monkey stuck to my lapels and she was loud. Relentlessly loud. I feel for you. Yes, enjoy those few and far between golden moments.Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-54205610590404416312008-06-30T16:52:00.000-04:002008-06-30T16:52:00.000-04:00I remember putting Oliver in his crib and standing...I remember putting Oliver in his crib and standing out on the porch in the dead of winter, in the pajamas that I'd been wearing for four straight days, because I couldn't handle the screaming anymore.<BR/><BR/>Deep breath in, deep breath out. This too shall pass.mamatuliphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02692442843330582571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-24909179163499182392008-06-30T15:48:00.000-04:002008-06-30T15:48:00.000-04:00It is so hard. Your putting it to such beautiful ...It is so hard. Your putting it to such beautiful words may be the balm for another aching Mom. It will get better. But I know, having been the mom of the 2-year old and a newborn only 2 years back, that it doesn't make the present any easier. <BR/><BR/>Hang tight...exquisitely better times are coming.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17350861069153040567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-10005979648252057282008-06-30T14:38:00.000-04:002008-06-30T14:38:00.000-04:00On the bright side if you got a homeless guy to co...On the bright side if you got a homeless guy to come in and take over for an hour you could pay him in beer which is probably on sale this week, being the holiday weekend and all. Just sayin'...<BR/><BR/>In all seriousness though, this shit? It is hard. Why didn't anyone ever tell us before? <BR/><BR/>Hang in there.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494610442275567164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91398217953673292922008-06-30T13:46:00.000-04:002008-06-30T13:46:00.000-04:00You might try some massage, it can help relax baby...You might try some massage, it can help relax baby, and helps with passing gas that can cause the crying. even just resting him on your lap (on his back) and gently moving his legs up to his chest and stretching them out one at a time and both together, this helps them pass gas as well, which is really important for upset tummies, and babies that don't burp a lot! I know the crying is hard to take, but it is for a reason lie you said, don't give up!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42177624171190539642008-06-30T13:42:00.000-04:002008-06-30T13:42:00.000-04:00This may sound dumb, but almost every baby with st...This may sound dumb, but almost every baby with stomach/digestive issues (I've known lots of them in my years of nanny and daycare caring) can be eased if not eliminated, by diet. <BR/>HA HA you say, what can you feed a baby but breast milk, unfortunately at this point it's what you are eating.... After I had my son, I had to cut out the spicy foods, he didn't mind them when he was in my belly, but he did mind it in my milk. <BR/>Lots of babies are bothered when Mama eats dairy as well. I've known tons of women who found that baby's intense digestive pains were caused from breast milk made from a diet including dairy. When they cut out the milk, ice cream, cheese and yogurt they had much more content little ones. Keeping a food journal might help you figure out what upsets his tummy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65678743999632314412008-06-30T12:56:00.000-04:002008-06-30T12:56:00.000-04:00This shit its hard. And YOU.ARE.AMAZING. Hope the ...This shit its hard. And YOU.ARE.AMAZING. Hope the country trip helped, its hard to remember but you are succeeding at being a great mom to both your kids. YOU ROCK. wish I could fly across country for you.ScientistMotherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02540317551396323613noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-57498956266052955742008-06-30T11:41:00.000-04:002008-06-30T11:41:00.000-04:00oh no :( I know how hard it is. Your trip to the...oh no :( I know how hard it is. Your trip to the country will help a lot even if it is just to replenish your soul a bit.<BR/><BR/>And I think the ''experts'' that say to put your baby down and go take a break have CLEARLY never given birth. I read that too when my little one was newborn and had that eyebrow-raising WTF expression immediately take over my weary, tear streaked face.<BR/><BR/>And really, order a Babyhawk Mei Tai. Super duper easy to use, super comfy. It will take him from little bitty baby to toddler.<BR/><BR/>You and your beautiful little family are in my prayers.Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14187089876317175889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-73453227862843454722008-06-30T11:27:00.000-04:002008-06-30T11:27:00.000-04:00Colic, oh my colic. We are dealing with it and gas...Colic, oh my colic. We are dealing with it and gastro issues.. I am a mess. My PP check up got pushed back to 8 weeks.. if we arent on the upswing I'm going to be asking for some medicinal help. My 1st baby was colicky and i had severe PPD but I hid it and coped on my own- that sucked and I only had 1 kid to care for. <BR/><BR/>I hope the crying lets up.. 6 weeks is supposed to be the apex of colic.. I keep telling myself that. I have to have something to cling too; you know?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9741245101329499632008-06-30T10:16:00.000-04:002008-06-30T10:16:00.000-04:00I'm feelin' ya!I have a 3 and a half year old, a 2...I'm feelin' ya!<BR/><BR/>I have a 3 and a half year old, a 21 month old and a 6 week old. AND my husband is working full time and taking his fire fighter 2 class which means he is gone.....like all the time.<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I HAVE to let the little one cry.... otherwise my older two would be starving and covered in their opwn excrement... I mean how else am I supposed to accomplish a dinner, 2 baths, and bedtime when the evening is when Madison decides to "be fussy". I think after awhile.... I've just learned to tune it out to an extent. Luckily she sleeps well at night at least letting me maintain my sanity to get through the days.<BR/><BR/>But you're right. This shit is hard.Jeniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01307079683484637744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-51325812207428192982008-06-30T09:53:00.000-04:002008-06-30T09:53:00.000-04:00I don't know how they think is possible to "stretc...I don't know how they think is possible to "stretch and breathe and try to calm yourself down". My particular baby somehow didn't want to allow me to have a break, she was crying louder and louder and louder until I felt I was going crazy and was ready to start crying myself. Only thing that helped was to go to bed and have a short sleep holding her in my arms... everything I needed to do, was done only together, with no exceptions...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14367135015302442842008-06-29T22:05:00.000-04:002008-06-29T22:05:00.000-04:00i don't know what to say other than, "go for the z...i don't know what to say other than, "go for the zoloft." or effexor, or wellbutrin, or whatever else they'll give you. i've been there. it sucks ass. i hope it gets better for you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-11796406940626906492008-06-29T21:57:00.000-04:002008-06-29T21:57:00.000-04:00put baby in cribput in silicone earplugs - not the...put baby in crib<BR/><BR/>put in silicone earplugs - not the foam kind, they're crap.<BR/><BR/>Go sit on the toilet and breathe for 10 minutes.<BR/><BR/>repeat as needed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-62419207800771623622008-06-29T20:32:00.000-04:002008-06-29T20:32:00.000-04:00Hi, Catherine. Hope you enjoyed your getaway at yo...Hi, Catherine. Hope you enjoyed your getaway at your friend's house and that you are feeling somewhat restored. I will email you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-98040061974558982008-06-29T18:04:00.000-04:002008-06-29T18:04:00.000-04:00read my blog one day when you get a chance. I hear...read my blog one day when you get a chance. I hear ya sister, LOUD and CLEAR.....Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15985522830610197074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-12161626487750319262008-06-29T13:36:00.000-04:002008-06-29T13:36:00.000-04:00So, so, so hard.My second-born, also a boy, craved...So, so, so hard.<BR/><BR/>My second-born, also a boy, craved constant physical contact, too. He nursed endlessly, slept on my stomach, and screamed whenever he wasn't in my arms. And my daughter, who was two at the time, grew so resentful of her always-screaming brother that she eventually took to biting his head. Sigh.<BR/><BR/>Obviously, it will get better. Life improved for us, and it will improve for you, too. In the meantime, just try to keep from snapping, and don't be overly tough on yourself.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00876061554234290473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-69259128523883889892008-06-29T11:56:00.000-04:002008-06-29T11:56:00.000-04:00Get thee to a carrier lady, for serious! If the a...Get thee to a carrier lady, for serious! If the above commentor doesn't send you a Moby, I'll send you a Babyhawk or something. Once your arms are free your whole outlook will change, believe me.<BR/><BR/>As far as the babysitting goes...I don't suppose you're anywhere near Jersey?<BR/><BR/> - VAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-12032998786030803712008-06-29T06:40:00.000-04:002008-06-29T06:40:00.000-04:00I can't help but echo so many others, if only to l...I can't help but echo so many others, if only to let you know that, in some small measure, you're not alone.<BR/><BR/>"This shit is hard." Truer words have never been spoken, sista. I lived your <I>exact</I> situation four years ago and, with baby #2 in utero, am plagued with fears that I will be revisited with the crazies in about six months.<BR/><BR/>I keep reminding myself, however trite it may sound, that every pregnancy is different, every baby is different. And of course, my husband wonders whether he'll lose me again and for how long this time - it was <I>eighteen months</I> of darkness last go 'round!<BR/><BR/>I have another piece of advice I cling desperately to when the times get rough. It's from a friend who's intimately familiar with the crazies who I paraphrase: If they are honest with themselves, every woman, at some point, experiences the feeling that they'd like nothing better than to throw their screaming little poop-factory down a well. What keeps you from being a bad mother is that you don't actually follow through when so inclined.<BR/><BR/>If I was anywhere near Toronto, I'd be there in a heartbeat!Michelle Roebuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01543071027191047847noreply@blogger.com