tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post114349449467554433..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: A mommy by any other name would still smell like spit-upHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143655497816081502006-03-29T13:04:00.000-05:002006-03-29T13:04:00.000-05:00Ok, I did see that blog tag thing - what is it? I'...Ok, I did see that blog tag thing - what is it? I'm slightly naive when it comes to these things....what am I supposed to do with it? Is it like a game of tag? Explain!!!<BR/><BR/>By the way, where did you get your babe's shirt! I love itninepounddictatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674863124753947010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143609595651472022006-03-29T00:19:00.000-05:002006-03-29T00:19:00.000-05:00I like being called mommy. It makes me feel specia...I like being called mommy. It makes me feel special.<BR/>Sometimes the dictator calls me "becca" which I also think is cute....<BR/><BR/>Like your new look...very muchninepounddictatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674863124753947010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143605500726023102006-03-28T23:11:00.000-05:002006-03-28T23:11:00.000-05:00Wow, hit a nerve here, huh? As if we need to add t...Wow, hit a nerve here, huh? As if we need to add this to our other stresses as Mommies. What you are referred to, or what you refer to yourself as, really depends on a lot of things. What you called your own parents perhaps. What comes naturally to you once you are a parent. What comes naturally to your child.<BR/><BR/>My husband really wants to be called Papa, because he claims it sounds more European. But when a child's natural instinct is to say the sound Dadadada all day... well, his tune has changed. Plus I can't for the life of me remember to call him Papa instead of Daddy (what I call my own father) in front of Nate.<BR/><BR/>I like to be called Mama (as in Hot), but 9 times out of 10 I will find myself saying something like, "Yes! That's Mommy's nose!" Interestingly enough, I'm the only one Nate doesn't call by name. He just sorta grunts and whines in my general direction.<BR/><BR/>And for the record, no one ever refers to me as MILF, except me. I can't help it, it makes me laugh. MILF is like this imaginary character that appears during imaginary sex, of course, because who has the energy for the real stuff? Random hand jobs, however, those I can give in my sleep ;)<BR/><BR/>There was a point in here somewhere... Oh yeah. If someone would judge you because you call yourself a mommy, much like judging some based on their stroller, they are not worth your time. You are one funny mutha.scarbie dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067032043776994982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143600016744335622006-03-28T21:40:00.000-05:002006-03-28T21:40:00.000-05:00I'm the Mama here, with all that the name implies-...I'm the Mama here, with all that the name implies--the soother, the supper-maker, the kisser of boo-boos great and small, and the one to remind the boy to tack a "ma'am" onto the backside of that "no" (I mean, I will as soon as he starts saying 'no'--it's a Southern thing, you know).<BR/><BR/>I personally love how you've treated the etymology of our titles, and I like the notion that we might "grow into" more mature titles as we and our babies mature. I think the "Mom" days will be fun, but I'm not so much looking forward to the "Mother" or "Muh-therrrr" moments, which will undoubtedly be coupled with much rolling of eyes.<BR/><BR/>As always, E is absolutely beautiful. Won't it be a gas when our babies actually call us by name (be it Mommy, Mama, Mom, Mother, or whatever)?Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143579432117825822006-03-28T15:57:00.000-05:002006-03-28T15:57:00.000-05:00Jenn - I agree that it shouldn't matter. The fact ...Jenn - I agree that it shouldn't matter. The fact that it does matter to some people bugs the crap out of me. But I'm not really interested, at the moment, in figuring that one out. What I'm interested in is why *I* call myself what I do and why that matters to *me.* Once upon a time I would have choked on the thought that I might refer to myself in the third person as 'Mommy.' Now I love it. Wassup widdat?<BR/><BR/>Baby love. Puts pink fuzzy edges on the toughest of us (even we still wear black and put Baby in punk onesies).<BR/><BR/>Urban Mommy - you're right that it's not up to us what our children call us, ultimately, tho' I do think that we influence that (I do, after all, march around the house blathering on about Mommy this and Mommy that, so I figure she's going to pick up on that. Or, she's going to call me and everybody/everything else in her world Dude. Because, you know, that gets said a lot too.)<BR/><BR/>I'll be happy with whatever she calls me, so long as she does it - as I know she will - with love. But I'm calling myself Mommy, for now, and wearin' it proud.<BR/><BR/>(petite gourmand - WonderBaby does have one good long nap every day. But it still takes me a whole day, off and on in 15 minute bursts, whenever I can grab them, to get a post up.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143573134743489162006-03-28T14:12:00.000-05:002006-03-28T14:12:00.000-05:00I really think its comes down to the level of emot...I really think its comes down to the level of emotion you are willing to wear in public. For me, "mommy" is swimming in emotion and so that is exactly what I hope my little boy calls me. But when I'm in circles where babies are not the focus or parenthood is practically a foreign concept, I extract all the warm fuzzies and go with a simple description: I am a parent, I am a mother. On the blogs, I prefer to emote. That is part of the appeal. <BR/>On the other hand, maybe its not for us decide what we are called. My 2 week old son has a very agressive grandmother already lobbying to ensure he calls her by the title she deems to be best. Her attempts to control what my son calls her (and thus, as she sees it, assign to her all the qualities she believes are represented in the title) creep me out. It doesn't seem right to oblige kids to use names just so we get our desired reflection. What about what they want to project onto us? There's got to be room for that too, no?Baby in the Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01167558214100594817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143572633236943452006-03-28T14:03:00.000-05:002006-03-28T14:03:00.000-05:00I just don't get it. I really don't. Why does it...I just don't get it. I really don't. Why does it matter what I choose to call myself?<BR/><BR/>I'm a mother, yes. I call myself Mummy when I'm talking to my baby, just like I call my husband Daddy. Does that make me any more vapid than I was before my daughter came into my life? Um. No, not really. Does it detract from the value of what I think and feel? Nope. Not even a little bit. So, I am a Mummy, and I have a blog. <BR/><BR/>If the fact that I call myself Mummy makes you judge me, and not want to hear what I have to say, then I don't necessarily want you to be readng what I have to say anyways.Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01592312983008232386noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143568532671092772006-03-28T12:55:00.000-05:002006-03-28T12:55:00.000-05:00oops sorry for the double post.too much caffeine t...oops sorry for the double post.<BR/>too much caffeine today.petite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143568460682142502006-03-28T12:54:00.000-05:002006-03-28T12:54:00.000-05:00I'm just "mama"hey if it's good enough for ellen's...I'm just "mama"<BR/>hey if it's good enough for ellen's mama, it's good enough for me.<BR/>I don't have a problem with the term "mommy" though.<BR/>yummy mummy is a whole other story.<BR/>or M.I.L.F is just plain wrong...<BR/>you must have a good little sleeper on your hands to enable you to write such a long and "insightful" blog...<BR/>lucky you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143567873770980482006-03-28T12:44:00.000-05:002006-03-28T12:44:00.000-05:00I'm just "mama" at the moment.hey if it's good eno...I'm just "mama" at the moment.<BR/>hey if it's good enough for Ellen's mama, it's good enough for me.<BR/>I don't think being called mommy would bother me though,<BR/>yummy mummy is another story.<BR/>same with M.I.L.F. that's just plain wrong...<BR/>You must have a good little sleeper on your hands to be able to write such a long and insightful blog..lucky you.<BR/>your daughter is incredibly cute, <BR/>and could the "mutha sucka" tee be any cooler?petite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143567068610349712006-03-28T12:31:00.000-05:002006-03-28T12:31:00.000-05:00I'm just mama...I kinda like it.if it's good enoug...I'm just mama...I kinda like it.<BR/>if it's good enough for Ellen's mama<BR/>it's good enough for me.<BR/>you are lucky to have the time to write such a long and insightful blog, you must have a good little napper on your hands.<BR/>she is extremely cute by the way.<BR/>and love the "mutha sucka" onesie.<BR/>too funny.petite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143564523864031082006-03-28T11:48:00.000-05:002006-03-28T11:48:00.000-05:00wow.I love how you write. I am also a big fan of t...wow.<BR/><BR/>I love how you write. I am also a big fan of the WonderBaby now.<BR/><BR/>You ladies rock!The City Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819377234772187931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143564192978018072006-03-28T11:43:00.000-05:002006-03-28T11:43:00.000-05:00I am so enjoying your blog! I absolutely love thi...I am so enjoying your blog! I absolutely love this post! Didn't realize titles are so important?!<BR/>I should re-work my blog to be the mommy, doula, lactivist vbac-tivist rantings of a woman huh?<BR/>Thank you for your lovely writings! The pictures are absolutely adorable too... <BR/>KAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143550185080115182006-03-28T07:49:00.000-05:002006-03-28T07:49:00.000-05:00Wow, an argument in support of "Mommy"... That's h...Wow, an argument in support of "Mommy"... That's hard to come by these days. After this post I am now a disciple of the church of HBM!<BR/><BR/>Personally, I'm Mama. I have a very hard time calling myself "Mommy" if only because I didn't refer to my own mother as "Mommy" for very long - she was always "Mom". To me Mama has that sweet baby touch to it and I'm holding on to all things baby as long as I can.Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143537436486860972006-03-28T04:17:00.000-05:002006-03-28T04:17:00.000-05:00Nice blog make over and I loved the mutha sucka t-...Nice blog make over and I loved the mutha sucka t-shirt!<BR/><BR/>I read this topic posted on some other blogs and I have to admit I just didn’t GET it. What’s more, I couldn’t imagine that it mattered. I mean, why should I care about these semantics?<BR/><BR/>However, your insightful dissection of this debate made me see it in a different light and care enough to finally have an opinion. I too refer to myself using a variety of titles (mommy, mom, mother, parent, whatever). But I THINK of myself as a mommy -- for that is what my son calls me. I agree with your perspective about maturity and experience and I haven’t really earned my stripes to be his “mom” yet. I am still a mommy.<BR/><BR/>Your comment about the “cock-us” made me laugh because I work for a grassroots feminist organization where language is uber-important. It is suffocating sometimes and you have to tip toe around every sentence to insure political correctness and inclusively. Blogging and being a mom is a place where I don’t want to do that. Where I don’t have to do that.<BR/><BR/>Sure my childless friends think “mommy” is a silly term that would equate with calling myself a cutie pie or something equally saccharine. But these are the same people who will be calling themselves that one day when they cross over to the other side. The side where they'll talk and writ about only baby and diapers and spit up. The side of overwhelming but wonderful parenthood/mommyhood/motherhood.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143520701937387622006-03-27T23:38:00.000-05:002006-03-27T23:38:00.000-05:00You're rocking the Mommyness. That was very well p...You're rocking the Mommyness. That was very well put. I believe you may have inspired some lingering thoughts for me to post on. <BR/><BR/>Your sweetie is so precious!<BR/><BR/>Also it is very cheery around here. This new design is looking mighty fine.ms bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997925420763913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143517211789939142006-03-27T22:40:00.000-05:002006-03-27T22:40:00.000-05:00Darnit. I posted this LOONNNG fabulous response fo...Darnit. I posted this LOONNNG fabulous response for naught. Blogger ate it.<BR/><BR/>Bastards.<BR/><BR/>Generally, I think language matters. People choose how you say their name, titles, etc. and I think there is something to be said about how you are referred to as a parental unit.<BR/><BR/>I feel like a mommy - young, new, clueless... and honestly, I don't have a strong reaction to it - more so a strong reaction to people who write me off because they think ill of mommies from a prior negative experience.<BR/><BR/>But, then who cares if they read me anyway if they think like that?<BR/><BR/>PS Love the duds and the cutttie.<BR/><BR/>Erase this if my other one went through...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143517071552120802006-03-27T22:37:00.000-05:002006-03-27T22:37:00.000-05:00The new look? Fabulous! And your commentary? Even ...The new look? Fabulous! <BR/><BR/>And your commentary? Even bettah.<BR/><BR/>Aside from your cuuuttiee, I have to say that I believe that people don't just call themselves something and not care. You choose your own label - you choose how people say your name - you choose how people refer to you because words matter.<BR/><BR/>I'm with you on the mommy thing - I'm young, new, fumbling. I don't have a strong reaction to the word mommy like some folks - however, I do react strongly when people use it negatively and discard what I've done or written because they think it fits into some category they've created in their own heads.<BR/><BR/>Then again, maybe I don't want them to read my stuff anyway...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143516584063427632006-03-27T22:29:00.000-05:002006-03-27T22:29:00.000-05:00Awesome. Loved it!Awesome. Loved it!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.com