tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post114312971179780971..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Getting back to meHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143347122628581172006-03-25T23:25:00.000-05:002006-03-25T23:25:00.000-05:00Thanks for all of the support on these still-incoh...Thanks for all of the support on these still-incoherent thoughts on the issue.<BR/><BR/>One thing that I am clear on: writing through these things helps immensely. And having super-smart women (who are, not incidentally, also mothers) respond and react and give virtual back-pats helps even more. Because it helps affirm this tremendously important part of my new identity as a mom/mommy/shameless breeder - the thinking mother with thinking mother peers.<BR/><BR/>And Scarbiedoll? Thanks for Spanx tip! Cuz again, that ass...Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143325131967560872006-03-25T17:18:00.000-05:002006-03-25T17:18:00.000-05:00This is phenomenal - I'm with ggc. With so many il...This is phenomenal - I'm with ggc. With so many ill-conceived, hastily written troll comments all over the MIM posts, it's delightful to be reminded that there are still critical thinkers in the blogosphere. And hell yeah, your husband sounds extraextraordinary.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143255619370909342006-03-24T22:00:00.000-05:002006-03-24T22:00:00.000-05:00I just want to say that I have read several of you...I just want to say that I have read several of your comments today and was wowed by your perspective. I am indeed a badladies fan. You suckered my ass in, indeed.GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143233332192627422006-03-24T15:48:00.000-05:002006-03-24T15:48:00.000-05:00Great post. Really insightful and lovely and thank...Great post. Really insightful and lovely and thanks for your post on mine. xx.GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143182399691334042006-03-24T01:39:00.000-05:002006-03-24T01:39:00.000-05:00Well, I was one of those who didn't like my pregna...Well, I was one of those who didn't like my pregnacy body...I cried too when I looked at all my old clothes. I gained 47 pounds, which was a ton on my 5'2 frame...<BR/><BR/>I only regret going pyscho losing the weight after. I feel like I was an obsessed woman, which I don't think is entirely my fault. Hey, if all those celebs could do it, why couldn't I, right?<BR/><BR/>Then I went overboard and lost too much weight, even lower than I was before. And I looked gross. Really. The fiance thought I looked way worse being so skinny than when I had gained the 47 pounds.<BR/><BR/>It's stupid for women to worry, but it's hard to stop it. I do know one thing - the weight does come off - especially once you're running around with your kids.<BR/><BR/>I think I've always had body image problems - always thought I was too fat....But I think it took being pregnant, then losing to much, then getting back up, to finally realize it's such a stupid thing to worry about.<BR/><BR/>It's been two years since I've given birth, and for the first time I'm happy with where I'm at...<BR/><BR/>For all women trying to lose their baby weight, it really does come down to exercise and eating reasonably...it's so basic...<BR/><BR/>But, priorities change once you have a baby, right? You realize that you have such a wonderful thing in your life, and that somehow makes you happy, even in the bad days, doesn't it?<BR/><BR/>I do feel more happy now that I don't worry so much over those things. Now I work out only because I know it helps me sleep better.<BR/><BR/>Loved this post. Might have to steal it too!ninepounddictatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674863124753947010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143175116535555712006-03-23T23:38:00.000-05:002006-03-23T23:38:00.000-05:00What a great post! Well said.It took me more than...What a great post! Well said.<BR/><BR/>It took me more than a year after my son was born to look in the mirror and recognize myself. For even when I lost the weight, what was left had all shifted and nothing has fit the same again. The post-breast feeding boobs have been the most difficult thing to accept I'll admit.<BR/><BR/>But looking at it as part of a new "self" is much healthier. It is really all not too step of a price to pay for the dividends reaped from being a mom and so I've come to make peace with it. What is most important is how you see your self and not how your husband or anyone else sees you.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143151221138753332006-03-23T17:00:00.000-05:002006-03-23T17:00:00.000-05:00Good post.I went through two major hormonal freak ...Good post.<BR/><BR/>I went through two major hormonal freak outs with my body and wardrobe. Once when I was preggers, I Goodwilled a big bag of clothes while crying that I would never fit into them again. The second time, when my milk came in and I looked like I had implants. Suddenly all my flat-chest-friendly tops made me look fat. So I cried and threw out another bag of clothes. ( also bought some Spanx. A recovering preggy's best friend)<BR/><BR/>Now I am going back to work and I have nothing to wear. :( But at least I can finally afford that bikini wax...)scarbie dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067032043776994982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143150654645566822006-03-23T16:50:00.000-05:002006-03-23T16:50:00.000-05:00I think you hit the nail right on the head. It's o...I think you hit the nail right on the head. It's often about our entire new self, not just the body. It actually goes along with Mrs. Chicky's post on seeing her mother in the mirror. It's a little scary to look at yourself and see someone different than you were. <BR/><BR/>My husband is far more OK with the physical changes than I am. But for me it's because I worked hard before baby to lose a lot of weight, and now I see myself starting all over again.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143142649407357532006-03-23T14:37:00.000-05:002006-03-23T14:37:00.000-05:00THANK YOU! What an eloquent post...love the gratui...THANK YOU! What an eloquent post...<BR/>love the gratuitous baby photos.<BR/>kAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1143141633281278652006-03-23T14:20:00.000-05:002006-03-23T14:20:00.000-05:00This is the best take on this damn topic yet.I lik...This is the best take on this damn topic yet.<BR/><BR/>I like how you said it's not the acceptance of the new body moreso than the acceptance of the new self (of course, they are both connected). <BR/><BR/>It's not so much an issue for me anymore - I'm up about 10lbs than I'd like to be due to the two miscarriages. I just want to be able to fit into something comfortably. It seems like I can't find anything.<BR/><BR/>My husband - not so fond of the new body - but that's his issue, not mine. I think it will help when I stop complaining and start feeling good.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com