Her Bad Mother

Tuesday, July 11, 2006

Soothes the Soul

So - ironically? fittingly? - that last post just turned into a scuffle that had little to do with the topic at hand. Is HBM just a domineering beeyatch who veils her tendency to aggression behind a superficially sweet demeanour so that she will fit into the nauseatingly conformist blogosphere? At least one person thinks so, and in the spirit of preserving space for disagreement - even when the disagreement, such as it is, is somewhat off-topic - HBM decided to engage and debate the issue and now she has a headache. And is just a little bit sick of herself. Of the blah blah blah wherefore art I blah that persists in her head and sometimes makes it out onto the screen as psycho-babble narrated in the third-person. Of the big fat whatever that looms up sometimes and obscures whatever it was that she thought interesting a minute ago.

The antidote:

I'm hot, and tired. I'm worried about six thousand different things - will Husband and WonderBaby really be okay when I go to BlogHer at the end of the month? Will I ever sleep through the night again? Can we really afford for me to stay at home in perpetuity? What will I do if we can't? Will I ever feel physically strong again? Why am I stuck in a strange blogging feedback loop wherein I can only write about three things (sleep, penises and blogging - four things if you count blogging twice, as you should)? - and I'm sick of all the racing thoughts that can't or shouldn't be put to screen.

But then this:

This is like a cool, damp cloth pressed against a feverish forehead.

Sweet relief, for a moment. Thanks, baby.


Grab a bag of cookies and visit the Basement again when you have a chance. There's a new visitor with a new story - head down there and pull up a chair...


Blogger Major Bedhead said...

Ok, I think you have the cutest kid I've ever seen (except mine, of course). That grin is infectious.

I didn't comment yesterday because it would have been a me, too thing and those are dull (but you feel the need to do that now, julia. That's just great.) And I think I'm suffering from a touch of blog envy because your posts are so well-though out and make sense and mine, well, don't.

Where, where, where did you get that t-shirt that WonderBaby is sporting in the photo id? It's hysterical.

1:36 PM  
Blogger Mel said...

I just didn't feel like getting into a brawl. So I read your post, nodded or shook my head as the agree/disagree reaction took me, enjoyed your topic and point of view, and skipped the comments altogether.
HOWEVER - that doesn't mean that I don't think you're brilliant, and that you have a lot of really smart things to say about the blogosphere.

2:10 PM  
Blogger Bea said...

One question: Are those maternity capris?

The sight of that smiling WonderFace is cheering me up, too, on a day when I could really use it.

2:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Absolutely adorable baby. Fantastic photos. And a great outfit. What more can you ask for?

2:45 PM  
Blogger Peter said...

A smiling baby cures all ills. Smiling babies are the best medecine.

2:49 PM  
Blogger j.sterling said...

we should all just DO IT. together. one big mommy blogger orgy. LOL

3:55 PM  
Blogger metro mama said...

Sweet indeed.

Hope you guys had a good time this afternoon, wish we could have joined you.

4:22 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

what, you're going to BlogHer too? Herumph. Am feeling decidedly sulky.

I too need info on where you got the Mutha Sucka t-shirt.

4:48 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

Blogher will be a much needed relief for you. Just think - sleeping in! OK, I'm bringing earplugs for you, just in case I snore. Wouldn't want you to miss out on your first uninterrupted sleep in a long time.

The other stuff? The answers will eventually come. But worrying about them at the moment will do nothing to change them, so just look into Wonder Baby's face and melt away into a happy place.

5:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow- wonderbaby even made me forget about a few troubles just now.. thanks!

5:07 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have a little feeling that Blogher will do you (and ME and all of us) well.

It's why they are so cute, you know. To distract you from all the havoc they wreak in our lives. :)

5:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Whenever I am down or don't get why...I look at my daughter and it all melts away...Good for the perspective ya know?

5:23 PM  
Blogger Lady M said...

Entirely too cute! Cuteness is definitely the antidote to most troubles.

5:23 PM  
Blogger Silly Hily said...

Yup, those babies, like that most adorable one you have there, they work every.single.time!

5:34 PM  
Blogger Creative-Type Dad said...

Disagreement on a blog? I've never read such thing (*sarcastic*)

That sinister smile is great!

6:45 PM  
Blogger motherbumper said...

Oh I have so much to say but no time to type (Bumper is full blown sick now - good thing we stayed home). But I have to say: Is there anything WonderBaby can't do? She is the cure for all woes, bumps and bruises (even those to the intellect and the senses). And really now, you haven't blogged enough about penises lately. ahhhhh... whatever.... ;)

6:51 PM  
Blogger kittenpie said...

Oh yes, they do force us out of our own heads, don't they? Especially those sweet sweet big kisses she's handing out with lollipops. Good to see you both again. Another round soon?

7:47 PM  
Blogger Jerri Ann said...

I didnt' comment because I refuse to give "those" foolish people who make foolish statements about me and other folks and my motives for why I work or don't work any more limelight...I'm done with them, I read but I try to leave it be, now I've gone and commented again, argh

I like your cool damp cloth myself, what a cutie!

8:02 PM  
Blogger Namito said...

LOVE those eyes!

Didn't comment yesterday, as this is the first opportunity I've had to respond without a small Impling running amuck and the comment page going offline for maintenance.

Seems to me that you can only truly debate someone who actually has listened and responded to what you are saying, rather that what THEY WISH you had said.

OK that probably made no sense at all. I'm going to bed now.

8:43 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

Bloggy love is also sweet relief...

(Mutha Sucka - can be had at grassroots.com)

10:05 PM  
Blogger moplans said...

Girl your baby is so cute
and yes you will feel better one day. I did not think it would happen but it did.
and then you will be like me scared to have another bc you remember how shite you felt

as for yesterdays post I like what you said and I like how you said it
I feel much the same way

11:02 PM  
Blogger Cristina said...

I guess I missed all the drama on your last post. Dangit! Well, whatever mean comments were said (if any) forgettaboutem. You rock, HBM. And that is all.

Oh, one more thing. Wonderbaby is a wonder.

3:09 AM  
Blogger Sandra said...

Sweet releif has never presented itself in such a deliciously cute package.

The shite sucks but the anticdote - lovely.

7:02 AM  
Blogger Jezer said...

I enjoyed yesterday's post, but missed the scuffle. Honestly, I never feel quite qualified or comfortable engaging in serious discussions. Except for this one thing: That "...HBM just a domineering beeyatch who veils her tendency to aggression behind a superficially sweet demeanour so that she will fit into the nauseatingly conformist blogosphere?" WHATEVER, dude!

OK, now I'm gonna have to go read the comments from yesterday. And I reserve the right to kick some ass (i.e. throw around some "whatever"s and "y'all bitches are on crack") if necessary.

8:11 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Nothing like the smile of your child to calm your nerves eh? My son's giggle on a day when he keeps me up until 3 am reminds me that it is all worth it. I'm sure I will sleep again....when he's 18 or so. (your daughter is a cutie!)

10:37 AM  
Blogger crazymumma said...

Ok, I am thoroughly confused by all the layers, mamablogstoronto, Her Bad Mother, basements, truewife confessions...my synapses are self destructing....thanks ;), Anne

1:28 PM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

WonderBaby's delightful outfit is a wetsuit, BTW. Not a unitard. Not that there's anything wrong with unitards. Unitards are cool. But, still, not a unitard. Needed you to know that.

That's how superficial I am.

3:17 PM  
Blogger kittenpie said...

But HBM, I may still have a turquoise unitard left over from my dance troupe days, should you be looking for one...

4:49 PM  
Blogger macboudica said...

I missed the drams on your last post, but I thought it was really thought provoking, just as always.

5:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I just read the post before this one, and all the comments that came with it, and now this one. For me to add my two cents to an issue that's already gotten about forty bucks worth is kind of beside the point, so I'll say this instead.

HBM, I really enjoy your blog. You take a subject and look at it from many different points of view, offering the chance for many differing opinions to be brought to the table. I feel like, with each comment, you listen and consider what your readers have to say, and for me, as one of those readers, it makes me feel important to you.

So thank you.

6:07 PM  
Blogger Dawn said...

Yes, that is why the universe made them so damn cute. As mind erasers to all else.

I will hug you fiercely at BlogHer.

8:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wonder Baby is the salve for a sore spot, that's for sure. Thanks for the lovely pics. Can't wait to meet you at BlogHer!

9:11 PM  
Blogger Heather said...

Wow with the calming effect she has on the blogosphere, I wonder what she could do for Middle-east politics? (she is that cute)

9:30 PM  
Blogger The Domesticator said...

Nothing like some baby photos to ease the soul...love that last one with the water..it is so refreshing!

2:09 AM  
Blogger Gabriella said...

Thanks for the comment about Misty.
Wonderbaby has the cutest smile and the biggest bluest eyes!
Glad I found your blog.

11:21 AM  
Blogger Sharon L. Holland said...

Beautiful WonderBaby. She makes us all smile.

9:20 PM  
Blogger LBA said...

Your daughter is a *doll*.
Absolutely cheeky-gorgeous.

Lucky you ;)

4:29 AM  

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