tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post9070773410129309203..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Confession Of A Medicated MotherHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger47125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6576159755424660652009-02-19T03:16:00.000-05:002009-02-19T03:16:00.000-05:00My name is Thomas Kane and i would like to show yo...My name is Thomas Kane and i would like to show you my personal experience with Zoloft.<BR/><BR/>I am 57 years old. Have been on Zocor for 3 months now. My experience is that there is a minimal dose required to be effective, and that there is a maximum dose above which the effectiveness wears off. At the proper dose, the effect is darned near magic. Whoever said that the generic is not as good as the real Zoloft is exactly right. There is a profound difference, and it's not made up by increasing the dose. The drug acts very quickly, and the loss of sexual desire is almost immediate. I haven't gained weight yet, but I can see how it would be possible. I have a yearning for donuts and recommend an aggressive program. Also, the combination with alcohol is seductive...watch out.<BR/><BR/>I have experienced some of these side effects -<BR/>difficulty maintaining a quality diet; difficulty getting up in the morning<BR/><BR/>I hope this information will be useful to others,<BR/>Thomas KaneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-68973104236390836912008-09-07T17:46:00.000-04:002008-09-07T17:46:00.000-04:00Thank you for writing this. I needed it. I am alm...Thank you for writing this. I needed it. I am almost five months pregnant and I am stressed beyond belief and I truly do not know how to relax and stop this constant frustrating anger. The dr put me on Zoloft even while pregnant with the hopes that I can function. I'm scared to death of having the "baby blues" once this baby is born.......Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06676233496744797974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38761705894002905292008-09-03T12:35:00.000-04:002008-09-03T12:35:00.000-04:00I have tried so many different things in the last ...I have tried so many different things in the last 20 years to battle that looming black cloud. Finally after the birth of my second child (6+ months ago)I found the right happy pill combo for me...lexapro accompanied by welbutrin. Thank you for writing this post. I feel less lonely... You are a strong lady and a fantastic writer.<BR/><BR/>Happy pills and help are gooood.erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05663410299118208294noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-10610028369776280902008-09-02T21:39:00.000-04:002008-09-02T21:39:00.000-04:00No different than diabetes, simply putting in bala...No different than diabetes, simply putting in balance that which has fallen out of balance.<BR/><BR/>Strong, strong woman.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785403140233495009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-86856444312644419932008-09-02T11:56:00.000-04:002008-09-02T11:56:00.000-04:00my whole life has been shrouded by depression and ...my whole life has been shrouded by depression and the tremendous guilt of why should I feel so bad when I am so blessed? I am currently pursuing the help i need and trying very hard to be truthful about it. People don't always understand and yes the stigma is there. Thanks for this post. You have given me hope.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28887596974527880362008-08-20T22:38:00.000-04:002008-08-20T22:38:00.000-04:00Thank you, Julie, for sharing this. For helping to...Thank you, Julie, for sharing this. For helping to lessen the stigma of these issues. And good for you getting the treatment you need! It's been vital to me to find the treatment (including therapy) I have needed and to recognize that my treatments might need to be changed.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-31266484038328740032008-08-20T06:49:00.000-04:002008-08-20T06:49:00.000-04:00I've been on a variety of different meds for many ...I've been on a variety of different meds for many years and I'm not sure if I'd be alive right now without them. If it keeps me living, I'm okay with it. And I'm more than okay with posts like this that destigmatize what so many of us deal with.<BR/><BR/>You rock, Julie.Jenny, the Bloggesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13718481135182612620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-66225926181435017082008-08-20T01:50:00.000-04:002008-08-20T01:50:00.000-04:00PS - Mother guilt is a STEAMROLLER. Mother guilt w...PS - Mother guilt is a STEAMROLLER. Mother guilt when you've had (or have) periods of "poor" parenting due to depression/anxiety can feel insurmountable.<BR/><BR/>Some of the nervous "ha ha" around meds comes from a fearful place for me. I know someday it's going to be me, a rocking chair, and a mental scrapbook of all my pre-medicated parenting. I've got to pace myself with laughter on this one.Mom O Matichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00663817788501199975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-24058166323699691862008-08-20T01:35:00.000-04:002008-08-20T01:35:00.000-04:00Humor helps us diffuse what overwhelms us. Gives u...Humor helps us diffuse what overwhelms us. Gives us a voice to vocalize what we are insecure about. Sometimes being innapropriately funny is all that keeps us from going over the edge. Laugh or perish.<BR/><BR/>Though I think Sub. Turm. was insightful, I'm wary of any writing that might insinuate that joking about your med experience is the "wrong" way to talk about it. <BR/><BR/>That hypothetical mom that joked about taking Xanax could very well be the same mom that wanted to stick her head in the oven a month ago. But somehow talking about her meds with a group of peers, even in the guise of a joke, helps her to feel not so alone in it all.<BR/><BR/>We need to be be aware that casting any scorn around the "right" way to talk about depression/anxiety is dangerous. And can be just as powerful in driving people back under their rocks.Mom O Matichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00663817788501199975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-58671998148212777562008-08-20T01:22:00.000-04:002008-08-20T01:22:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mom O Matichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00663817788501199975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29567789643283254272008-08-18T12:42:00.000-04:002008-08-18T12:42:00.000-04:00I've blogged about about my mental health and need...I've blogged about about my mental health and need for antidepressants numerous times over the years and until recently, I thought I was the only one going through these things. I was never ashamed of what I couldn't control but there was always a stigma. It seems that stigma is, indeed, starting to fade as more of us pull back the curtain. Finally! And thank you, Julie :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-8581574581114905432008-08-15T14:38:00.000-04:002008-08-15T14:38:00.000-04:00Julie - I know of what you speak. I'm in the same...Julie - I know of what you speak. I'm in the same boat - that 50mg is a life-saver.Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-7050744558754564922008-08-15T00:39:00.000-04:002008-08-15T00:39:00.000-04:00Thanks for this post. I deleted my old posts abou...Thanks for this post. I deleted my old posts about depression and medication because I was worried who might find the blog, what they would think.<BR/><BR/>I guess I should be more open. I appreciate your honesty! It is very encouraging.<BR/><BR/>What I say is, "I will do whatever it takes to be the best mom possible. I can't be the best mom possible without this medication, so... gulp!" (that was me swallowing my pill)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65324687503175568582008-08-14T21:35:00.000-04:002008-08-14T21:35:00.000-04:00Well said, mothergoosemouse. I have struggled with...Well said, mothergoosemouse. I have struggled with these same issues, as have many women I know. Every time someone talks about it, it becomes easier for the next woman, wife, mother to seek out what she needs. Thank you.CaraBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04614627167922944626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-11541425845225855972008-08-14T21:21:00.000-04:002008-08-14T21:21:00.000-04:00I've said it before and I say it again - if help i...I've said it before and I say it again - if help is what you need to save yourself and your family from going to a bad place, it makes you a strong woman to admit that, move past the stigma about mental health, and get yourself back on track. Bravo, and I'm glad you have found the help that works for you.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-63564656941403264822008-08-14T21:13:00.000-04:002008-08-14T21:13:00.000-04:00Certainly no judging here, as taking a low dosage ...Certainly no judging here, as taking a low dosage of Celexa was exactly what I needed after the birth of my third (he's now 3 and I still take it.) For me, it's about managing that feeling of being SO OVERWHELMED and helpless to do anything about it.<BR/><BR/>I never really speak of this on my own blog, for fear of being stigmatized. Silly, yes. But also realistic? Yes.Sarahvizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07257891014401157085noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-34979494060930080552008-08-14T19:03:00.000-04:002008-08-14T19:03:00.000-04:00Good for you for talking about it and contributing...Good for you for talking about it and contributing to destigmatizing mental illness -- particularly as it affects women and mothers, etc.... Thanks for that. I definitely struggled with it -- similar to yours (anxiety and runaway horrific imagination) during my first pregnancy -- so I really relate to what you wrote. Thanks.... :)Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9639170376537575052008-08-14T16:53:00.000-04:002008-08-14T16:53:00.000-04:00Anything I try to compose here sounds self-indulge...Anything I try to compose here sounds self-indulgent. 5 mg of Lexapro a day and reading a wonderful, thoughtful, generous post like this makes life so beautiful. Thanks!!MLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15285638670031812559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-13648920323626479172008-08-14T13:56:00.000-04:002008-08-14T13:56:00.000-04:00me toome tooBritthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01836233504325584572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80254298169612288212008-08-14T13:45:00.000-04:002008-08-14T13:45:00.000-04:00I have Panic Disorder. I used to take Zoloft and X...I have Panic Disorder. I used to take Zoloft and Xanax for it. Thought I sometimes still rely on the xanax to keep the worst of the panic at bay, I've figured out how to deal with it without the daily meds. How did I do it?<BR/><BR/>Therapy. Lots and lots and lots of therapy. I just got back, in fact, from a therapy session.<BR/><BR/>No one above me at work has any idea. I don't need them thinking that I can't handle pressure. Sometimes I wonder, though, if they wouldn't understand me and my reactions to things a lot better if I told them. No one asks about my weekly 1.5 hour lunch break, though so I leave it be.<BR/><BR/>I hope I see the day where the people who insist they aren't crazy are the crazy ones we stigmatize.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38289563923858183902008-08-14T12:52:00.000-04:002008-08-14T12:52:00.000-04:00I'm applauding you Julie. Well written and frank.T...I'm applauding you Julie. Well written and frank.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing. The voices in my head also thank you.<BR/><BR/>(Might be a sign I need to up my meds, but hey, they keep me company.)<BR/><BR/>Wink.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-40983230082642531052008-08-14T12:38:00.000-04:002008-08-14T12:38:00.000-04:00I take antidepressants, an anti psychotic, a mood ...I take antidepressants, an anti psychotic, a mood stabilizer and 2 kinds of tranquilizers. You can't tell by looking at me that I am on these medications, nor can you tell by talking to me or interacting with me in any other way. That is good. It means the medications are doing their job. I would be in bad shape without them. Thank goodness for them, that's all I can say.Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16469247722475958222008-08-14T11:55:00.000-04:002008-08-14T11:55:00.000-04:00I've always believed that women judge other women,...I've always believed that women judge other women, because, well, it makes them feel better about themselves! And we all want nothing more than to be in control. And so, if we can not do it on our own, and need something to help us cope, well, then, we have failed in some way. And people love to point out other peoples failures. Again...makes THEM feel better. I believe this, because I used to judge. Because I needed help.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your story. Everyone has one...a story. And we are all different. And we simply need to do what is best for us, and our families. Enough of us needing to feel like we have to take it all on, and all on our own. <BR/><BR/>So good for you.No, GREAT for you.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15985522830610197074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-26131138137186117182008-08-14T11:31:00.000-04:002008-08-14T11:31:00.000-04:00Since high school I have struggled with depression...Since high school I have struggled with depression/anxiety issues off and on.<BR/>My biological mother suffered heavily from postpartum depression and eventually committed suicide.<BR/>Because of that I'm somewhat petrified to have children since it seems to run in the family (my aunt suffered from it as well).<BR/>I've always dealt with my issues on my own, saw a counselor for a while, thought about going on something.<BR/>I used to think I would be weak if I decided to take medication, but have since realized that if one day I decide it's something I need, that is simply not the case.Roaming With A Hungry Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16264483155409850473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38350791738156027752008-08-14T11:06:00.000-04:002008-08-14T11:06:00.000-04:00mothergoosemouse you are awesome.what an honest an...mothergoosemouse you are awesome.what an honest and soul baring post. thank you for talking about this. and you right we need to destigmatize mental health issues. anyone passing judgement on you would just be so wrong. be proud that you were intelligent enough to get help where a lot of others would never do so.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com