tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post8797688320176946921..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: A Wonderful LifeHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-24814598301843736352008-01-12T07:30:00.000-05:002008-01-12T07:30:00.000-05:00Why must fear and adversity set us straight?But it...Why must fear and adversity set us straight?<BR/><BR/>But it does. And we learn what we knew all along: it's all about (and only about) love. <BR/><BR/>Beautifully said. So happy for you all.Ruth Dynamitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161626814106717754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-19147486405260842712008-01-10T23:59:00.000-05:002008-01-10T23:59:00.000-05:00oh catherine beautful post...and am glad that spro...oh catherine beautful post...and am glad that sprout is alright....we all as mums have great and grand dreams for our offspring...they are all that we could never achieve...and also a wonderful reflection of us....LAVANDULAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-74758223614088307142008-01-10T18:20:00.000-05:002008-01-10T18:20:00.000-05:00So very beautiful, and so very true.So very beautiful, and so very true.Mommato2https://www.blogger.com/profile/13475207169746158064noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42486634247841775652008-01-10T14:04:00.000-05:002008-01-10T14:04:00.000-05:00why do i suck so badly?!?! WHY?!? LOL... well t...why do i suck so badly?!?! WHY?!? LOL... <BR/>well then YAY! that's great news. it's all great though- every bit of it (except my apparent reading and comprehension skills). i still love you and still adore you.j.sterlinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07704830625784773198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-33667314358106230262008-01-10T13:26:00.000-05:002008-01-10T13:26:00.000-05:00Isn't the love the best we can do for our children...Isn't the love the best we can do for our children? Isn't it all they really expect? It's true, I dream for my daughter and yet unborn son. But I decided that I would never push either of them to be better than the rest. Only to endeavor to the pinacle of their abilities. It's all I can expect after all. And it's what I would guide a disabled child to do too. If that brings my children to Everest's peak or to a brightly lit stage, it'll be their doing and they will have the confidence of knowing that they realized their own dreams themselves. Regardless of how big or small anyone else thinks those dreams are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79920078803218028372008-01-10T12:27:00.000-05:002008-01-10T12:27:00.000-05:00very beautifully said.very beautifully said.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10327991964710241536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-10467436867681024812008-01-10T08:37:00.000-05:002008-01-10T08:37:00.000-05:00Anon- EXACTLY.Mo - not teaching this term. Just wr...Anon- EXACTLY.<BR/><BR/>Mo - not teaching this term. Just writing.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9986464678819252592008-01-10T08:14:00.000-05:002008-01-10T08:14:00.000-05:00When the thought of a child circulated as an abstr...When the thought of a child circulated as an abstract concept, there emerged countless projections. Which mother has not imprinted upon her child her very own unfulfilled dreams and aspirations, whatever they be? As a tabula rasa, it can be mesmerizing, and personally vindicating: Where our foibles and flaws marred much, this pristine, new being can offer vindication, exemplifying a courage and strength under fire where we might have fumbled, navigating treacherous paths with greater self-confidence and assurance than we might have shown. Our griefs will not theirs, our struggles foreign, and our unrealized visions their lived experiences.<BR/><BR/>But then there is reality, beyond dreams, and the particulars of life will shape and limit their lives. Sometimes I believe that the best we can hope for is wonderous moments, a desire that when faced with the moral ambiguities of their lives they will do the right thing, that they navigate the perils of the world with some degree of dexterity, optimism and promise. <BR/><BR/>As their mother, I know I will suffer countless little deaths, the slings and arrows of fortunes beyond any control, but ultimately, I wish they lay me to rest with all the gratitude and sadness love entails.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-45633759612488833742008-01-10T02:10:00.000-05:002008-01-10T02:10:00.000-05:00It is a lot to think about... and it does change t...It is a lot to think about... and it does change things. A friend of mine just had his first child and I keeping thinking how good a job he'll do since he has this precious and inate orientation for human rights. Parenting is really about human rights and not about all the status that Fisher Price and Barbie try to make it about for us nowadays.<BR/><BR/>Looks like you are very much at home. Enjoy.<BR/><BR/>ps. are you working this term?mo-wohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934156423936866994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-41209894570052657002008-01-09T23:57:00.000-05:002008-01-09T23:57:00.000-05:00We have autism challenges here - he's the best lit...We have autism challenges here - he's the best little guy ever! Be amazed at all of the joy your child will bring to you - diagnosis or no diagnosis. If love is there, everything else will fall into place. :)<BR/><BR/>(Click on my name for the link to my autism YouTube video.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-77798928683763570732008-01-09T22:33:00.000-05:002008-01-09T22:33:00.000-05:00This was a beautiful post. I think that not enough...This was a beautiful post. I think that not enough of us consider these things, and it's great of you to put it out there for us to ponder. <BR/><BR/>Love is such a powerful and wonderful thing. It can make so much in this world bearable, and even enjoyable.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on the good news and the news that it's a boy!caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-84341441243459991412008-01-09T14:45:00.000-05:002008-01-09T14:45:00.000-05:00De-lurking to say that this post made me cry. I'm ...De-lurking to say that this post made me cry. I'm also pregnant with my second child so it could be all the hormones, but still. Very, very beautiful. And true.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28759066705991638152008-01-09T13:02:00.000-05:002008-01-09T13:02:00.000-05:00They will both have a wonderful life. :)They will both have a wonderful life. :)the dragonflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00910969956758977269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37900883065232387302008-01-09T10:39:00.000-05:002008-01-09T10:39:00.000-05:00For a "bad mother," you are pretty amazing. I hav...For a "bad mother," you are pretty amazing. I have nothing else smarter than what anyone else already wrote to add. All I can say is "ditto." And wow.MommyTimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860003098383600806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-82517620717492658882008-01-09T10:23:00.000-05:002008-01-09T10:23:00.000-05:00The beauty and wisdom of this post exceeds anythin...The beauty and wisdom of this post exceeds anything even YOU - the great writer of blogness, have ever done. Of course you're right - the life of a child and the adult he grows into is determined by how well his parents allow him/her to (as a friend once described it)unfurl -- to allow all that is best in each child to emerge and grow -- and you would certainly be gifted at doing that for any new person on this earth. <BR/>Maybe it's the philosopher in you but you have described all that so well. I suspected you had gotten good news because of a vague post on another blog but am so so so happy to see it confirmed here. Any child who shows up in your family is blessed - as are those of us with whom you share you thoughts and beautiful words. Happy New Year Catherine!Cynthia Samuelshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246114204964806957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-19231367556306505742008-01-09T09:25:00.000-05:002008-01-09T09:25:00.000-05:00You're exactly right--there are NO guarantees, eve...You're exactly right--there are NO guarantees, ever. Except for love.Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-44379590299143240982008-01-09T09:24:00.000-05:002008-01-09T09:24:00.000-05:00Tears running down my face...that is the most beau...Tears running down my face...that is the most beautiful post I have ever read. It truly put things in perspective. I am going to kiss my daughter right now and tell her I love her!Trishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13886241957311055380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-78821854364377627472008-01-09T09:05:00.000-05:002008-01-09T09:05:00.000-05:00That's a beautiful post, and I second the sentimen...That's a beautiful post, and I second the sentiments (or in this case 35th the sentiments?). My husband is (was?) like you in dreaming big for our girls, while I am content to see that they get love and care and are kept safe -- as safe as I can make them, for now, anyway.<BR/><BR/>It IS a wonderful life, after all.<BR/><BR/>ciao,<BR/>rpmAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-56259319409526090192008-01-08T23:28:00.000-05:002008-01-08T23:28:00.000-05:00http://tiredmummy.blogspot.com/2007/02/my-dream-ch...http://tiredmummy.blogspot.com/2007/02/my-dream-child.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-83395606461828097022008-01-08T21:11:00.000-05:002008-01-08T21:11:00.000-05:00City Gal - you're right: life for a person with di...City Gal - you're right: life for a person with disabilities, especially severe ones, isn't sunshine and roses, no matter how much they're loved. But that they're loved, and they love, is more important than whether or not they ever get to ski or climb Everest or become a movie star. The thing that I realized, deeply, was that the love mattered far more than the scope of the dreams.<BR/><BR/>Sweet Jennster - it looks as though our boy will likely *not* be special needs, at least not on the axis that we were worried about. it really looked that way for a while - hence the reflections here - but the amnio was negative for down's syndrome. It's not a golden ticket - there're no guarantees on what kind of hand he'll be dealt - but at least we've been able to put that worry to rest. <BR/><BR/>xoxoxoHer Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60082703419957758552008-01-08T20:59:00.000-05:002008-01-08T20:59:00.000-05:00Yeah! I can hear the love in your voice already. ...Yeah! I can hear the love in your voice already. He is a lucky little boy, and you a lucky mama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79682048117413346322008-01-08T20:40:00.000-05:002008-01-08T20:40:00.000-05:00Beautiful post.All I have to add is this:If one of...Beautiful post.<BR/><BR/>All I have to add is this:<BR/>If one of them decides not to go to college, or get married, or have kids, or decides to live a life you would normally consider 'sad' or 'unsuccessful'... Remember this post. <BR/><BR/>I wish my mom had let go of her 'dreams' for me sooner - I had to effectually shatter them in order to live my own life.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-58058904392871154682008-01-08T19:21:00.000-05:002008-01-08T19:21:00.000-05:00I had to read back through your earlier posts whic...I had to read back through your earlier posts which somehow I'd missed.<BR/><BR/>I'm so glad you have good news for the new year. I know that whatever the results of the tests, your little guy would be another Wonder Baby. How could he miss with a mother like you.<BR/><BR/>The commenter who talked about the sadness wasn't wrong though. It doesn't always work that way but it can.<BR/><BR/>Best wishes for the New Year and all it will bring.Grannyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283823157675990935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53507634277088118122008-01-08T18:58:00.000-05:002008-01-08T18:58:00.000-05:00wow... you really took my breath away... really. n...wow... you really took my breath away... really. nicely done. very nicely done.Rustihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17912613768193549878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28647766657582281122008-01-08T16:38:00.000-05:002008-01-08T16:38:00.000-05:00Nailed it.Love is what they need. Love, love, and...Nailed it.<BR/><BR/>Love is what they need. Love, love, and more love. The rest will come... happyness, joy, and more love.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.com