tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post7672094946997836141..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: HystericalHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-5571600407751843522008-09-12T23:24:00.000-04:002008-09-12T23:24:00.000-04:00i know this is massively late to the party, but re...i know this is massively late to the party, but reading this one hit home for me. I read your birth story - great zombie jesus, i thought MINE was fast at 3 and 1/2 hours from inital contraction to birth.<BR/><BR/>But, Ive been here, too. We were living in DEEP RURAL ALASKA while I was pregnant, 600 miles by air to the closest hospital, $600 a person to fly in and back.<BR/><BR/>I wake up one morning (25 weeks? maybe?) and Im having tons of Braxton Hicks. I know they arent real labor - they dont HURT, Im just having oh..1 every 2 minutes. All day long. <BR/><BR/>So, I call the doctor on call. "COME IN," she says. I say, "but.." she insists, COME IN.<BR/><BR/>So, my husband and i shell out an obscene amount of money to come in to Anchorage on the ONE FLIGHT A DAY from our village, just to be checked by another doctor who literally makes fun of me and tells me I am wasting his time. and no matter how many times I tell him, no matter how many times THE NURSE tells him that I was following medical advice, he continued to laugh at me in derision.<BR/><BR/>And, of course, when kiddo came (while i was in Anchorage, already) and they thought they might have to get him out quick, guess which doc was on call?<BR/><BR/>bastard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-32311683929996840182008-05-22T07:42:00.000-04:002008-05-22T07:42:00.000-04:00Nice blog. Thats all.Nice blog. Thats all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-54633789844172829582008-05-11T15:39:00.000-04:002008-05-11T15:39:00.000-04:00Just wanted to say Happy Mother's Day!Just wanted to say Happy Mother's Day!Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-52164456219845637242008-05-10T21:50:00.000-04:002008-05-10T21:50:00.000-04:00Thinking of you and wishing you well! I have my f...Thinking of you and wishing you well! I have my fingers crossed that you get the same "second time is easier" delivery that I did. I figure that since the pregnancy was harder, *something* should be easier!Lady Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13360693450146358247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-47050119492962829162008-05-10T14:49:00.000-04:002008-05-10T14:49:00.000-04:00I debated sharing this with you but it might help ...I debated sharing this with you but it might help take the urgency edge off. Your body might be doing what mine did with #2. I had painful contractions every night like clockwork from 5 pm to 8 pm for the last 3 weeks. I'd dilate every week a little more. The last week I was walking around at 5 cm's dilated and thinking the baby would just fall out and I pretty much hated life and anyone who dared come near me. I was not a happy camper. Good news is when the labor hit for "good" that last night I had a baby in my arms about 20 mn after that first big contraction. SUPER fast. So think about the positive!! :)<BR/>But I can honestly say I understand how horrible that early labor is especially when it is drawn out over the course of 3 miserable weeks... hang in there...<BR/>PascaleAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-77584366384510828632008-05-09T16:46:00.000-04:002008-05-09T16:46:00.000-04:00catherine i hope you used your superpowers and mad...catherine i hope you used your superpowers and made that silly condescending dotors head explode and not your own.sending you calming painfree birth vibes your way hugs LAVANDULAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-15702309984081818022008-05-09T15:53:00.000-04:002008-05-09T15:53:00.000-04:00Wrote an entire post on false labor, hope you have...Wrote an entire post on false labor, hope you have a chance to get over and read it. <BR/><BR/> My advice to you- treat yourself as if you are in active labor and do whatever makes you comfortable and helps you pass the time!<BR/><BR/> Best wishes and happy mother's<BR/> Day, hopefully sooner than later.Laurie of the Seven Storieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16260975589975026420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28738397079502637792008-05-09T09:00:00.000-04:002008-05-09T09:00:00.000-04:00AS IF!!!Seriously. That's so wrong! I went in when...AS IF!!!<BR/>Seriously. That's so wrong! I went in when I hadn't felt the baby move for about 12 hours and I remember feeling like a moron (especially because he started moving while I was waiting to see someone :P) but all they did was tell me I had done the right thing, that it wasn't worth the risk. And knowing people who have had things go wrong, this is DEFINITELY the kind of thing where you use the "better safe than sorry" motto. <BR/>I want to kick that resident in the head!Larahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15430670344569781188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-23020618020399459542008-05-08T21:25:00.000-04:002008-05-08T21:25:00.000-04:00You absolutely did the right thing. Trust your in...You absolutely did the right thing. Trust your instincts, no matter what that insipid, rude, ridiculously stupid resident said. You were in agony and concerned about Sprout's movements. Do not be afraid to call again. And if you get that same resident, I recommend starting your conversation with "Remember me? On a scale of 1 to 10, my pain is at freakin' 24. Kind of feels like this!" and then promptly rip her ear off. Also, this far along, a glass of wine won't due any harm - it'll help relax the muscle spasms. Good luck! Sending big hugs and virtual back rubs your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53052970965545411542008-05-08T20:46:00.000-04:002008-05-08T20:46:00.000-04:00Can I just say, reading this made me want to go in...Can I just say, reading this made me want to go in and start smacking people around? How DARE they treat you this way? Of all the sexist assholish bullshit! <BR/><BR/>I hope you and the little one really ARE ok, and that the real labor signals are so loud and clear as to be unmistakable, even by sexist jerkoffs who think that the pain is all in your head.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-72214292900333592972008-05-08T20:43:00.000-04:002008-05-08T20:43:00.000-04:00GATORADE? For serious?GATORADE? For serious?Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-90595037615762107732008-05-08T20:14:00.000-04:002008-05-08T20:14:00.000-04:00I dreamt about this post last night so had to come...I dreamt about this post last night so had to come back and comment.<BR/>First of all - Reproductive Life stages - they know me well. I still get weekly phone calls. But did you know that having them listed on your chart when you check in gets you bumped up the list to a private room? Seriously. (combine that with a c-section and you're golden)<BR/>Also, I had a similar experience with false labour. It sucks. <BR/>I'm sure you don't need all of the techniques to bring on full-on labour, but ... my doctor told me gatorade really helps.Laural Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08459584652802529868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21823470165404468162008-05-08T19:13:00.000-04:002008-05-08T19:13:00.000-04:00Oddly my youngling was watching an episode of Spon...Oddly my youngling was watching an episode of Spongebob Square pants where the hospital staff pushed a character out of the hospital...hmm.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00466265732291777624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-8907878095499648422008-05-08T16:00:00.000-04:002008-05-08T16:00:00.000-04:00Wow, what an ass...My condescending doctor just re...Wow, what an ass...<BR/>My condescending doctor just retired, thank god, so he will not be there for my delivery. Which is bittersweet because I wanted the chance to punch him in the face and blame it on hysteria.twelvekindsofcrazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15602513992459641210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-61161439363913905562008-05-08T14:49:00.000-04:002008-05-08T14:49:00.000-04:00I dealt with a nurse I called Mean Nurse, who caus...I dealt with a nurse I called Mean Nurse, who caused me to say adamantly to my husband, "I am not going back to this hospital until my water breaks." Thankfully, less than three days later my water broke. :)<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you...you can make it through!!the dragonflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00910969956758977269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49445679064050038912008-05-08T13:51:00.000-04:002008-05-08T13:51:00.000-04:00I'm only saying this because I am following Kate h...I'm only saying this because I am following Kate here but the RLS people don't seem to give a shit about my anxiety, I think I am going to have to ramp that up. Maybe I should show up at Trigage with you and slap that resident. That might get their attention.<BR/>Hello - baby not moving - mother worried? Ten to one that beotch has no kids.<BR/>Hope things either pick up or let up for you.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79140329041659386702008-05-08T13:06:00.000-04:002008-05-08T13:06:00.000-04:00Let me just say that I too had early labour with t...Let me just say that I too had early labour with this recent child for over two weeks before the real deal went down. And it was HELL ON EARTH, so I hear ya.<BR/><BR/>and also? I too belong to the Reproductive Life Stages club of crazy - I've been seeing them for awhile. Enough to have a social worker come see me hours after his birth to say "hey lady?! How crazy are you feeling now?"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14922361714149419742008-05-08T12:49:00.000-04:002008-05-08T12:49:00.000-04:00Where is that doctor so I can go over there and sm...Where is that doctor so I can go over there and smack her upside her head. Reading about your whole experience just made me cringe; I'm so sorry that in addition to all of this waiting you had to go through dealing with that nimrod.MyThreeBlogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07817857109007712976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6387087366689911022008-05-08T11:53:00.000-04:002008-05-08T11:53:00.000-04:00I came here hoping to read OH HAI, I HAS BABEE NOW...I came here hoping to read OH HAI, I HAS BABEE NOW, and instead I read about this stupid resident! What an awful comment for her to make. What are they going to DO with you? Um, see to it that you have a safe delivery and a healthy baby, perhaps?<BR/><BR/>GAH. I prescribe chocolate chip cookies. Or chips and guacamole, or whatever your comfort snack is. I'll be thinking about you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-71325716122620085252008-05-08T11:44:00.000-04:002008-05-08T11:44:00.000-04:00That doc was just a big stupid-head. Some people ...That doc was just a big stupid-head. Some people prey on peoples vulnerability. It made her feel superior to make you feel crazy. The best thing you can do is have her paged every 30 minutes with contraction questions. Show her what crazy is REALLY like!iheartchocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506809401305000430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91956871451794395852008-05-08T11:15:00.000-04:002008-05-08T11:15:00.000-04:00Sorry to hear you had such a bad visit. It's horri...Sorry to hear you had such a bad visit. It's horrible to be in pain and to be worried about your child. Hang in there!<BR/><BR/>And sometimes I think the medical community is a bit jaded. I once peeked at my former family doctor's chart and noticed that any time I had come in with a question or a concern about something she had written down Anxiety as the cause of my visit. I quit her pretty soon after that. (I'm surprised she didn't write Hysteria!)Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586323120994967027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14168633048312012482008-05-08T10:30:00.000-04:002008-05-08T10:30:00.000-04:00Ugh... I hate it when people treat you like you're...Ugh... I hate it when people treat you like you're a nutcase. Pain is enough reason to go to the doctor. Remember that you don't need permission to go to the hospital. If you are in what you feel is labor, then you do what you need to do. Some women never have extremely strong contractions, after all! (should we all be that lucky!) <BR/><BR/>Hope this is the beginning of the end for your pregnancy. Take it easy, and know that we're ALL behind you!!tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80507806017724576972008-05-08T10:25:00.000-04:002008-05-08T10:25:00.000-04:00False labor hurts, no doubt about it. Of course yo...False labor hurts, no doubt about it. Of course you're anxious! I would be, too, in your shoes! Virtual hugs and pats on the back from over here -- my children are 16 and 21, and I still remember.Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647906900944224234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-73433155465442847162008-05-08T10:08:00.000-04:002008-05-08T10:08:00.000-04:00Having lost a child before in part because I didn'...Having lost a child before in part because I didn't listen to myself when I thought something was wrong, I'm certainly in support of tossing the resident overboard. Listen to yourself no matter what anyone else says! With our second, I made many a trip to triage in my third trimester and no doctor was going to tell me I didn't do the right thing. Hang in there!Aidan Elizabeth's Updateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13513124184838399817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-87504134201828125112008-05-08T09:31:00.000-04:002008-05-08T09:31:00.000-04:00Many sympathies. I had an experience like this, on...Many sympathies. I had an experience like this, only it was the nurses who *also* made me feel like I was crazy. I was at almost 42 weeks, regular contractions had started (I didn't have pre-labour contrax at all prior to this), baby wasn't moving much or at all and I was in PAIN. I was only 1 cm dilated, but in so much agony, I was throwing up from the pain. And I have a pretty good pain tolerance -- I've got endometriosis, so believe me, I know abdominal cramping and pain.<BR/>They wanted to send me home. They all did. But I was in so much pain, I couldn't even imagine moving, much less getting dressed, standing up and walking to the parking lot with my husband. That may have been my fatal error because I ended up succumbing to demerol for the pain, a way-too-early epidural for the pain (which slowed contrax) and then complications and interventions that I never even imagined I would allow.<BR/>All the way along, I kept getting the impression that people thought I was crazy and unstable. No, I was in a sort of pain that seemed *wrong* for so early in labour and just knew something was happening. I'm not a panicky person, I don't overreact, but something was definitely wrong and different. I so would have appreciated some genuine understanding.<BR/>Hope you get some rest and that your baby arrives soon!lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10130816183448866952noreply@blogger.com