tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post7640217933031388676..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Gossip Girl And The Tummy Of DoomHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger61125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-55582238702458323162007-12-04T14:03:00.000-05:002007-12-04T14:03:00.000-05:00I think that people got way too up in arms about y...I think that people got way too up in arms about your post, but I am here to say that sometimes the baby weight does sort of just magically disappear. I am 28 and my first baby is 3 months old and I have not a stretch mark, extra pound or bit of flabby skin to show for it. And I have done NOTHING(no diet or exercise). I know I am lucky and that things will most likely be different next time around, but this celebrity magic can happen, even to real mothers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-15871360755056666382007-11-07T18:43:00.000-05:002007-11-07T18:43:00.000-05:00Wow, mom101 nailed it. Everyone has, but that one ...Wow, mom101 nailed it. Everyone has, but that one especially. I can't say it any better than that. So I'll say ditto, and that you're right on, literally and figuratively.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-46600766244209793042007-11-07T08:05:00.000-05:002007-11-07T08:05:00.000-05:00err... obviously i cant spell either.err... obviously i cant spell either.the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-35945956264613590322007-11-07T08:04:00.001-05:002007-11-07T08:04:00.001-05:00Its her job to look good as a celeb and she spends...Its her job to look good as a celeb and she spends thousands of dollars on it. so if you call the dietitian planned menus, the trainers supervising the pregnancy and hundred other things that go into it naturally, well its natural then. some of them schedule tummy tucks along with the cesarean. <BR/><BR/>its your job as a columnist to write snarky copy. and you do a great job. <BR/><BR/>its a commenter's job to disagree respectfully if they must. <BR/><BR/>its rather obvious who failed. <BR/><BR/>keep it up HBM. and chin up. i hate it when ppl are mean to pregnant women. its a hard enough time...the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9444285688090163682007-11-07T08:04:00.000-05:002007-11-07T08:04:00.000-05:00Its her job to look good as a celeb and she spends...Its her job to look good as a celeb and she spends thousands of dollars on it. so if you call the dietitian planned menus, the trainers supervising the pregnancy and hundred other things that go into it naturally, well its natural then. some of them schedule tummy tucks along with the cesarean. <BR/><BR/>its your job as a columnist to write snarky copy. and you do a great job. <BR/><BR/>its a commenter's job to disagree respectfully if they must. <BR/><BR/>its rather obvious who failed. <BR/><BR/>keep it up HBM. and chin up. i hate it when ppl are mean to pregnant women. its a hard enough time...the mad mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535453643548976883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6373390211867500822007-11-05T15:28:00.000-05:002007-11-05T15:28:00.000-05:00A good friend of mine is married to a plastic surg...A good friend of mine is married to a plastic surgeon who operates in Scottsdale, Arizona. He has LOTS of celeb clients, and a very popular procedure is the post-partum lipo and or/mini tuck. So you were right on, sister.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02086167716210736774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60245653147427826542007-11-05T14:13:00.000-05:002007-11-05T14:13:00.000-05:00Well Liz's comment above is far more eloquent than...Well Liz's comment above is far more eloquent than what I was supposed to say.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, you're brilliant and I wish that my degree in Political Science made me half as smart as you are. You wrote something snarky and it's THEIR fault for not understanding that. Some people are just unable to see something for face value and then move on which is rather sad and pathetic. I just received my first hate comment last week (shocking, I know) and despite my smarts and tough skin I got annoyed and then realized that I shouldn't be hurt and annoyed. The person who left the comment should feel like an idiot who needs to move the hell on. <BR/><BR/>My (really crappy) point is that you stated your opinion four people didn't like it because they have nothing better to do with their lives than give shit to people who write snark and so it's their problem not yours. The end.Heather B.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07931351971982028473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-8485035663574668572007-11-04T00:03:00.000-04:002007-11-04T00:03:00.000-04:00Here's a compliment disguised as tough love (Or so...Here's a compliment disguised as tough love (Or something like that):<BR/><BR/>You are an A-list writer reaching the lowest common denominator when you write for gossip sites. It may be fun and silly and even lucrative, but never forget that you are 100 times smarter than your average reader on a good day. These are the people with so little going on in their lives that they rise to the defense of People on The Teevee who they somehow think they know. And they are so invested in that fantasy relationship, that they will hurt someone else - someone probably a lot more like them than Eva Whatever will ever be - in the process. <BR/><BR/>Remember, if you're pinching your skin and hoping it might grow a few layers, that these commenters know you as well as they know her. Which is, to say, not at all.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-18214741667021174282007-11-03T21:40:00.000-04:002007-11-03T21:40:00.000-04:00i read (saw?) an interview with sarah jessica park...i read (saw?) an interview with sarah jessica parker once where she spoke about how it wasn't fair for other mothers to compare themselves to her, because keeping her figure up was part of her JOB and she could afford to pay a trainer to come to her house while she paid someone else to look after her son so she could stay in shape, and that it just wasn't reasonable for most people to do that, or even want to!painted maypolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06446625015003854710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-59514429972748792472007-11-03T20:58:00.000-04:002007-11-03T20:58:00.000-04:00I completely agree with you I think she is full of...I completely agree with you I think she is full of shit. I let nature take its course and my but is as big as the broad side of a barn. I am sure sooner or later a trainer is going to come out of the woodwork with a tell all " How I helped Eva loose the babyfat".Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13926927044921344005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-57683840113158169382007-11-03T18:29:00.000-04:002007-11-03T18:29:00.000-04:00Sorry you were pained dear one, but be happy. Thic...Sorry you were pained dear one, but be happy. Thick skin is scaley. <BR/><BR/>Hey - Bossy just found out she is a finalist for the Weblog Awards for funniest blog ha ha - come on over and cough up a vote. Or come on over and make fun of her thin skin.BOSSYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12137297805742498961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60132975938511958402007-11-03T17:08:00.000-04:002007-11-03T17:08:00.000-04:00I realize I'm late to the party but I gotta say, m...I realize I'm late to the party but I gotta say, my homegirl, my co-worker, that you need not even read the comments over there. I've had some really harsh ones in the short time I've been there, both toward me and toward whoever I'm writing about: the Miley Cyrus post was full of vile comments. You have to just let those comments go.<BR/>Now on with your snark-i-licious self. :)Karen Bodkinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02648840299789088421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-2094922789890926102007-11-03T15:47:00.000-04:002007-11-03T15:47:00.000-04:00What GGC said. Not only is it a celebrity's JOB t...What GGC said. Not only is it a celebrity's JOB to keep themselves in great shape, the culture is such that fitness and beauty are a way of life. It's quite different from the way most people live.<BR/><BR/>I've been accused of having thin skin when I didn't agree with dissenters. Thoughtless commenters are full of non sequiturs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-76071249914754884522007-11-03T15:14:00.000-04:002007-11-03T15:14:00.000-04:00I think it's important to combat misinformation ab...I think it's important to combat misinformation about what's normal and what's not when it comes to bouncing back after pregnancy. So you were doing women who struggle with body image after baby a real favor by trying to set the record straight. <BR/><BR/>Melbourne University Gender Studies professor Meredith Nash is doing some really fascinating work in this area (The Baby Bump project).Ann Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10287853845161180133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-34017161883227030492007-11-03T14:00:00.000-04:002007-11-03T14:00:00.000-04:00I second what Karen says...why does fat = bad? Bei...I second what Karen says...why does fat = bad? Being fat doesn't make you miserable, unhappy, etc.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01292347765475637473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-30026403094724828532007-11-03T11:37:00.000-04:002007-11-03T11:37:00.000-04:00She did a lot of women a disservice by implying th...She did a lot of women a disservice by implying that nature simply takes care of things. I'm sure her "nature" includes regular workouts and a special diet. How rude of people to presume that you must be jealous to call her on that statement!Daisyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11647906900944224234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-90988278957047149832007-11-03T10:21:00.000-04:002007-11-03T10:21:00.000-04:00You all have made me feel better and at total libe...You all have made me feel better and at total liberty to go have a candy bar.<BR/><BR/>Anonymous who asked about my due date - late May!Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-55404411485848909592007-11-02T21:04:00.000-04:002007-11-02T21:04:00.000-04:00Jeez, it's a celebrity gossip site, isn't what you...Jeez, it's a celebrity gossip site, isn't what you write supposed to be a little snarky?Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00567374243896229606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-52935785250144473862007-11-02T20:45:00.000-04:002007-11-02T20:45:00.000-04:00I always, always thought - prior to having kids - ...I always, always thought - prior to having kids - that people got fat because they were lazy, bad people. And then I gained 72 pounds while pregnant with The Girl. I lost most but certainly not all of it and it was hard, hard work. So hearing someone say something like that makes my eyebrow do that ironic "Oh YEAH?" thing.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91362438522547851542007-11-02T20:22:00.000-04:002007-11-02T20:22:00.000-04:00See, the thing is, the people who "search" for cel...See, the thing is, the people who "search" for celebrity gossip tend to buy into all the crap. And I would venture to step out on a limb and conjecture that, uh, in general these folks are young and naive and, oh, not the brightest bulbs in the bunch.<BR/><BR/>That kind of commenting reveals an utter lack of (a)understanding and (b) ability to empathize. It's the negative mental refrain of a very insecure kind of person.<BR/><BR/>Flush it. There - it's gone. You nailed the issue: Eva Whatsergova is full of it. Her "normal" consists of cigarettes from dawn to dusk and starvation. Yes, Eva. Nature finds a way!Ruth Dynamitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161626814106717754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38518800228534992642007-11-02T19:56:00.000-04:002007-11-02T19:56:00.000-04:00You were both right to call bullshit on what she s...You were both right to call bullshit on what she said, because if she said that nature would take care of it, she's an idiot, but you were probably wrong to call her a liar.<BR/>Some women do just snap back, even at 35, and it's like they were never pregnant. My very dear friend did that (at 35!), and if I wasn't such a horrible bitch to be mad and hurt because I miscarried and she didn't, I might be upset over that instead.<BR/>But to say that 'nature will take care of it' is a terribly ignorant thing to say. Some women change their activity habits when they're pregnant (I got told to stop walking a mile to work at only 10 weeks, which I consider patently ridiculous), some are sleep zombies postpartum and don't pick up to their old activity levels, some get put on bedrest, and lack of activity <I>will</I> slow one's metabolism. All sorts of things can happen during pregnancy that change one's basal body metabolism and that will affect how weight is lost.<BR/><BR/>Hell, I gained 15 pounds after I miscarried because I had to spend 10 days over Christmas miserable in the Rio Grande valley at my mother-in-law's who did nothing but bake me cookies the entire time to try and make me feel better. Cookies with lard. (The woman is a mobile heart attack, and you will die happy, or failing that, satiated.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-88347322348797091452007-11-02T19:05:00.000-04:002007-11-02T19:05:00.000-04:00and don't forget the most important unspoken messa...and don't forget the most important unspoken message of all: fat=bad<BR/>it's simply the assumption that if you HBM are fat, you must be sad and miserable about this and must be regretting your whole life on account of this one VERY BAD THING. <BR/><BR/>Truthfully, I am not sure if you were too snarky or not snarky enough, but I do know that I mystified completely by anyone making or defending the claim that their body came back as if by magic. Whatever "nothing" is to her, it is not nothing to the rest of us...if you have a gym in your house and use it, it may be "nothing special" to you, and you may feel like it's "nothing" but to anyone without that resource, with no place to take a baby while they exercise, while...it ain't "nothing. "Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09390898429089863816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-10099602016427657452007-11-02T18:26:00.000-04:002007-11-02T18:26:00.000-04:00Full disclosure: I walked out of the hospital the ...Full disclosure: I walked out of the hospital the same weight I was before I got pregnant. However, my body WAS NOT the same. Things had moved and shifted. But if I had a personal trainer who came to my house every day I'm sure I could have gone back to my normal size NO PROBLEM. And I wouldn't have had to stress myself over it.<BR/><BR/>And please don't give up the snark. What's the point in gossip without it?Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-78890927763287873802007-11-02T18:10:00.000-04:002007-11-02T18:10:00.000-04:00Honestly? Celebs DO bounce back. Very quickly. In ...Honestly? Celebs DO bounce back. Very quickly. In fact, most people in Hollywood do, famous or not. They're mainly vegans, eat only raw foods and work out twice a day so, yeah, it is natural for them. But not natural for the normal breathing human being. (And not for me) I struggled HARDCORE to lose my 50 lbs. I hiked backwards up hills LITERALLY next to Jessica Alba, Kate Bosworth and Orlando Bloom. I wanted to kill myself. But that's me. I don't have a daily personal trainer and food that arrives at my doorstep for every meal. Celebrities do. So what is natural for them IS natural for them. But not for us. Not for MOST of us. <BR/><BR/>And p.s. celebrity gossip is SUPPOSED to be snarky. You did fine, HBM. I did some celeb gossip writing for a bit. People get PISSSY. It's really weird... My advice? Don't read the comments. Not worth the funk. You're beautiful and fabulous and awesomely grand.GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-3028283885055696332007-11-02T17:59:00.000-04:002007-11-02T17:59:00.000-04:00A week after I had Amy you couldn't tell I had had...A week after I had Amy you couldn't tell I had had a baby. At least not when I had clothes on. My tummy bounced back okay, but the boobs? No hope left for them. Thankgod for awesome nursing bras.<BR/><BR/>But I have to mention that I was 17 when she was born, not in my mid 30's.<BR/><BR/>I totally would have called bullshit on her and I think the comments were unfair. Makes me wonder why they felt so compelled to defend Eva and run you down.Veronica Foalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05519401661788911341noreply@blogger.com