tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post710275789380375778..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Under The BlanketHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger213125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16055621682294058562009-03-25T12:55:00.000-04:002009-03-25T12:55:00.000-04:00RE: Angela 9:58 PMAre you sure YOU want to go ther...RE: Angela 9:58 PM<BR/><BR/>Are you sure YOU want to go there? Where? To the fact that you just made public what a hypocrite you are. For you it's ok for women to have a ton of cleavage bursting out of a skimpy top, push up bras, implants, tassels, you name it, everything to turn your boobs into sex objects. Then you turn around and say women should be able to go bare brested in public while breastfeeding and no one should think of your boobs sexually and the men who look are pervs! So YOU get to dictate when men can look at your boobs sexually and when they must turn it off... and YOU dictate they must turn it off when you flash your boobs in public with a baby sucking on them! What a perfect hypocrite you are!<BR/><BR/>I think we can see where you are headed. Men should think of your boobs to the degree that makes YOU comfortable according to the way YOU are thinking of YOUR boobs at any given time. You, no doubt, are a charter member of the Thought Police.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-17747273547348715042009-03-25T12:28:00.000-04:002009-03-25T12:28:00.000-04:00RE: Aqua's comment "when men can take off their sh...RE: Aqua's comment "when men can take off their shirts any time they please." Men who take their shirts off in public are disgusting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60757299931916614622009-03-25T00:39:00.000-04:002009-03-25T00:39:00.000-04:00Wow, some of the comments here have left me speech...Wow, some of the comments here have left me speechless. It makes me so angry that people have such strong opinions about what I should or shouldn't do with my breasts, when men can take off their shirts any time they please. <BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry you had this horrible experience. Sometimes, when I breastfeed in public (without a blanket because my son would pull it down anyway), I catch men staring. At first, when I was still new to this, I used to feel uncomfortable. Now I just stare back at them, until they get the message and look away.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-23711796153611097332009-03-24T21:58:00.000-04:002009-03-24T21:58:00.000-04:00Re: Anonymous at 8:34Are you really sure you want ...Re: Anonymous at 8:34<BR/><BR/>Are you really sure you want to go there? What exactly are you saying then. Women shouldn't be allowed to breastfeed in public, AND they shouldn't be allowed to wear clothes they want in public. <BR/><BR/>I think we can see where that is headed. Women should cover themselves to the degree that makes YOU comfortable. <BR/><BR/>Very Interesting. <BR/><BR/>And fortunately NOT something women have to worry about in this day and age in Canada, the US and many other countries.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10740564940180181887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42048986078263369312009-03-24T20:34:00.000-04:002009-03-24T20:34:00.000-04:00RE: Angela's comment: "It's ok to see a ton of cle...RE: Angela's comment: "It's ok to see a ton of cleavage bursting out of a skimpy top but if there's a baby getting food from it it's all the sudden icky?" No, it's not ok to see a ton of cleavage bursting out of a skimpy top either.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-88030465186158170182009-03-24T16:01:00.000-04:002009-03-24T16:01:00.000-04:00For what it's worth--I'm a breastfeeding mother wh...For what it's worth--I'm a breastfeeding mother who breastfeeds in public, with or without a shielding blanket--I read this recounting and thought that the flight attendant might honestly have been trying to help a tired, weeping mom traveling on her own with her babe. There ARE a lot of folks who would rather be covered up, for their own comfort and not for the sake of the people nearby. They're not ashamed of their bodies but may not like sharing the sight of them with other people. There are people who, weeping and exhausted, wouldn't have had the energy to seek out a flight attendant to ask for a blanket, even thought they'd have wished for one.<BR/><BR/>I can see myself gathering my courage to approach someone obviously in pain and offering the only thing I can think of that might possibly address some minor component contributing to her upset--"I brought a blanket, I don't know if it might help. I brought it 'cause some women prefer to have one and you didn't have one, and I thought maybe you'd like it even if you were too tired and discouraged to ask for one." She offered it. You take it as implied criticism and an unvoiced request that you cover up, but it is perfectly possible, by the story recounted here, that it was the only thing she could get you and so she did. It didn't help you. In fact, you're hurt at the thought. But it might simply have been compassion for you. I hate crying in public. I'd have been glad for any barrier shielding me from the world, and if the offer of one was prompted by me nursing my baby....it would still be an offer of something that would let me hide from the world while I wanted it to go away.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05231614892716223391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53873906382128458812009-03-23T22:08:00.000-04:002009-03-23T22:08:00.000-04:00(((hugs))) Catherine. If some of these comments ar...(((hugs))) Catherine. If some of these comments are making *me* angry, I can only imagine how out of energy you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-70383071149605113902009-03-23T17:49:00.000-04:002009-03-23T17:49:00.000-04:00Thank you, 'J' -- how so very right you are.Thank you, 'J' -- how so very right you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-86704444686761126802009-03-23T16:50:00.000-04:002009-03-23T16:50:00.000-04:00UGH! What part of "some babies don't like to be c...UGH! What part of "some babies don't like to be covered up" don't you people understand? My son is 10 months old and will do acrobats in order to get from underneath a blanket all while continuing to eat. I wouldn't have taken the dirty plane blanket either. I don't use them to cover my legs let alone my child's head. My son makes the decision to only breastfeed when he is with me, he will not take a bottle when I am there..that is not something I can control. Should I starve him as punishment for his preference? She was on a plane. You expect her to go to the bathroom and feed her baby while the plane is moving? The crew wouldn't even allow that if the seatbelt sign was on. You act like she was whipping them out and dancing around the cabin. She was sitting in her seat (that she paid for), feeding her child. Canadian LAW says that she can.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058431359810338958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-19770994249083803912009-03-23T16:17:00.000-04:002009-03-23T16:17:00.000-04:00Yes Anonymous. You're right. The issue IS being ab...Yes Anonymous. You're right. The issue IS being able to breastfeed in public uncovered, un-harrassed, and unashamed. (Not sure what you mean by "happening" though.)<BR/><BR/>The LAW is that women have the right to breastfeed in public without being told to go to the restroom, cover up, or anything else. <BR/><BR/>If you see someone breastfeeding you do not have to look. And I guarantee that in the VAST majority of cases you will not being seeing even HALF as much breast or nipple as you see in magazines and on television (not even talking about cable and porn here. Look at any fashion magazine or tv show these days). There is a big baby head in the way. <BR/><BR/>And what makes you so squeegy about it anyway? It's ok to see a ton of cleavage bursting out of a skimpy top but if there's a baby getting food from it it's all the sudden icky? Obscene? Dirty? What? It's not sexual. It's not gross. It's how babies eat. Get over it.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10740564940180181887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-71597038188300401772009-03-23T16:08:00.000-04:002009-03-23T16:08:00.000-04:00Chrissie - no one is out to lynch the flight atten...Chrissie - no one is out to lynch the flight attendant (although for the record, my sense of things was that the offer of a blanket was not made out of a desire to comfort me) - the larger issue here was that West Jet made a point of stating that its policy was to ask mothers to cover up if another passenger complained.<BR/><BR/>They've seen revised this, based on the feedback that came out of this story, but that was the larger problem.````````````Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-69771185325719854382009-03-23T16:02:00.000-04:002009-03-23T16:02:00.000-04:00....while I TOTALLY agree that you should be 100% .......while I TOTALLY agree that you should be 100% allowed to feed your baby in any way that is comfortable to you and the baby in ANY situation (which is like, never in a public bathroom like a lot of men like to suggest - ever eaten YOUR lunch in a BATHROOM?) I feel a need to go out on a limb and state that perhaps the flight attendent REALLY WAS TRYING TO help in the nicest way? Of course, I wasn't there, so she could have been giving you the evil eye for all I know. But I do know this, as a former children's librarian, I used to be asked for "some sort of blanket" ... we had a stash for this purpose, of hoodies, blankets, etc. We were a children's room, so of course we also didn't mind when moms didn't use one. Come into the Children's Room, expect to see boobs, or puke, or poop, or naked babies, etc. <BR/>Maybe this lady was one of those REALLY overly helpful people who don't know how to let something lie? I mean, she didn't take the blanket back (the fa) and stomp her feet and say, COVER YOURSELF trashy mom! You said you didn't see her face at all. Maybe she really was trying to be absolutely helpful. In case you did CHANGE YOUR MIND. In case the baby's head was cold, or your BOOB was cold or something? It is cold on those airlines. They didn't reprimand you. <BR/><BR/>Sorry, but I kinda feel for this woman who might have really had the best of intentions at heart, who really knew that it was your right to feed the baby as you saw fit, but thought, "Aw, shucks maybe this lady needs or wants a blanket. I'll help. Maybe she hung around because she saw you seemed upset initially? Maybe you were crying b/c you were embarrased not to have a blanket or something as a lot of mums I know are? I'm a mom myself, but I can see both sides. Maybe this fa is a mom, too, and was one of those moms who liked to have a blanket. <BR/>Let's not send out the lynch mob to this flight attendant. That's kind of unfair.Chrissy Johnsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18327104021278929499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-18759479843863509642009-03-23T15:44:00.000-04:002009-03-23T15:44:00.000-04:00Oh, yeh! Annoy a liberal, use logic!Oh, yeh! Annoy a liberal, use logic!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-4146702844641650592009-03-23T15:37:00.000-04:002009-03-23T15:37:00.000-04:00All those supporting this woman insist the issue i...All those supporting this woman insist the issue is "breast-feeding in public." If that were the issue, the woman would have accepted the blanket. The real issue is that you all insist you should be able to breast-feed in public UNCOVERED and you know it. The uncovered woman is mad about "what happened to her." She must grow up and admit that she "happens" to a lot of other people; especially to those who correctly identify the issue as being a CHOICE of public nudity. She CHOOSES to breast-feed UNCOVERED in PUBLIC. She believes this is her "right." She believes her "rights" should be exercised at the expense of the rights of others when she has a CHOICE to bottle-feed, or breast-feed UNCOVERED in private in the women's room. She clearly wants to breast-feed UNCOVERED in PUBLIC knowing she is "happening" to others who view this as indecent exposure.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-63989740019302618872009-03-23T15:19:00.000-04:002009-03-23T15:19:00.000-04:00Bob's ugly heart and soul offend me. Can we get Bo...Bob's ugly heart and soul offend me. Can we get Bob a blanket to hide under? Please?<BR/><BR/>Oh, and Bob? I want you to find someone who is treated poorly in a retail store because they are black or brown, or look poor, or are young, and stands up for themselves. When you find that brave soul, say this to them: <BR/>"Your disproportionate response to her polite request is not only unwarranted but childish."<BR/><BR/>See, that way? Bob? You'll get your eye teeth knocked out, and I won't even have to break a nail!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21760966358240836992009-03-23T14:50:00.000-04:002009-03-23T14:50:00.000-04:00Comparing feeding a child in public to having sex ...Comparing feeding a child in public to having sex in someone else's living room. Wow...just the fact that you said that, Bob, shows that you don't get it. Breasts are for feeding. Just because they have been turned into sexual objects by society does not change that fact. The penis is made for multiple purposes, one of which IS sexual. THAT is the difference.<BR/>And, it's already been said, but some babies will not eat while covered up or from a bottle. Something tells me that if faced with a screaming baby or a quiet baby the passengers and crew of any aircraft would pick the quiet baby even if it meant the mother of that baby had to breastfeed uncovered in order to achieve such quiet. In this case, Catherine didn't let it get to that point before feeding her hungry child.Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13058431359810338958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-51112370617091826532009-03-23T14:44:00.000-04:002009-03-23T14:44:00.000-04:00Peeing is natural too. Maybe I should just whip it...Peeing is natural too. Maybe I should just whip it out a pee in a bottle. I mean, that's what it was made to do and no one wants me to to be in pain or discomfort. Oh wait... they have provisions for using the restroom that is blocked from the the eyes of those who don't want to see me in action. I wonder if there are any simple provisions available for breast feeding as well... just a thought.<BR/><BR/>Oh, by the way, I'm a parent that doesn't mind breastfeeding in public. I just don't see full exposure as a right. If one person near by would rather not see it, I think it is only proper to make different arrangements.<BR/><BR/>This goes for most any subject, not just breastfeeding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-45914725967466290162009-03-23T14:37:00.000-04:002009-03-23T14:37:00.000-04:00anyone who does not have a baby, let alone a VAGIN...anyone who does not have a baby, let alone a VAGINA, should stay far away from this issue. you do not by any means have the right to decide the rights of others. this is what we call a tyranny of the majority. if the majority decided the rights of the minority, well... oh wait in america the majority DOES decide the rights of the minority. hello, prop 8? i assume all you anti-breast-feeding people are also pro-lifers? i hope one day you have YOUR rights taken away by someone who is completely removed from your situation. the fact that a man has an opinion about this disgusts me. <BR/><BR/>hey bob, fuck you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-43971117762292570832009-03-23T14:34:00.000-04:002009-03-23T14:34:00.000-04:00I never breastfed my child in public because I was...I never breastfed my child in public because I wasn't comfortable. However I fully support other mother's rights to do that. I figure when I have my 2nd child there will be some public breastfeeding happening and I will stand up for my rights and my baby's if I have to. Breastfeeding in public is 100% legal in my state as it should be.<BR/><BR/>Breasts were made to feed babies. How in the world do you think babies were fed before formula was created?!?! The haters on here need to move on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-88628082914519792762009-03-23T13:53:00.000-04:002009-03-23T13:53:00.000-04:00Hey Bob, Have you ever visited a strip club, or vi...Hey Bob, <BR/><BR/>Have you ever visited a strip club, or viewed Playboy magazine, or watched any movie/television show featuring nudity, or admired the beauty of the female figure in any of the numerous famous paintings? If so, you've certainly seen much more exposed breast than can be seen in a glance of a feeding. Get over yourself and the thought that breasts are to be kept covered until men such as yourself desire for them to be shown. The intention is to nourish our young and if doing so makes you uncomfortable, WHO CARES!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-77576648994996835122009-03-23T13:44:00.000-04:002009-03-23T13:44:00.000-04:00I'm sorry but sex in someone else's living room co...I'm sorry but sex in someone else's living room could not be further from feeding your baby. Wtf?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-82332185529670646212009-03-23T13:35:00.000-04:002009-03-23T13:35:00.000-04:00Ah, Bob. That PRIVATE aircraft is still governed b...Ah, Bob. That PRIVATE aircraft is still governed by Canadian law, which states that I have the right to breastfeed wherever I please. You know why? Because my child's right to nourishment trumps your right to not be bothered by the sight of a woman breastfeeding. <BR/><BR/>And I was childish to respond by...not responding? Or by writing about it?<BR/><BR/>*SIGH*Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6840265698273362112009-03-23T13:12:00.000-04:002009-03-23T13:12:00.000-04:00Your and your baby's right to feed in a way that b...Your and your baby's right to feed in a way that best serves you? What kind of nonsense is that? Your rights end where the next person's nose begins. You weren't in your house. You were in an aircraft belonging to a private company. You were on another's PRIVATE property. If they want to ask you to cover up - thats the perogative. You wouldn't say I have the RIGHT to come over to your house and have sex with my wife in your living room, would you? The flight attendant made a very simple, polite request that would have allowed you to continue feeding in peace. Your disproportionate response to her polite request is not only unwarranted but childish. You may think that those offended by public breastfeeding are silly (and I'd largely agree) but your childish response to the flight attendant's request is just as bad, if not worse.bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01585637475569561366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-44307935653739945202009-03-23T13:04:00.000-04:002009-03-23T13:04:00.000-04:00I'm sorry, but I'll just choose to laugh at these ...I'm sorry, but I'll just choose to laugh at these anonymous commenters here. "cover up or bring a bottle" LOL. Obviously someone who hasn't been a parent yet. <BR/><BR/>Guess what, come back after you've had a child. It's amazing the perspective you'll gain when you realize a baby just isn't the same thing as a doll. They're not all willing to be covered up or bottle fed. <BR/><BR/>Would you really rather we just let them scream on the plane? Would that make you more comfortable?Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10740564940180181887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65868028669489568002009-03-23T12:52:00.000-04:002009-03-23T12:52:00.000-04:00I sent a letter to WestJet applauding the flight a...I sent a letter to WestJet applauding the flight attendants actions. Cover up or bring a bottle. Some people are offended by exposure and it is entirely to easy to cover up or bring a bottle.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com