tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post6770799609795817227..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Tried To Make Her Go To Rehab; She Said No, No, NoHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger87125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-20920861897524474902008-12-02T00:57:00.000-05:002008-12-02T00:57:00.000-05:00OMG! Maryn, too! Though - thank God - she never th...OMG! Maryn, too! Though - thank God - she never thought to stash the stuff. She's a serious rule follower, though, which is probably what saved us. I've discovered several things - 1. refined/processed sugar/flour/dyes/preservatives have a NOTICEABLE affect on the kids. This has just been confirmed by our Thanksgiving trip to my sister's house. Other than this annual trip, we tell the kids they are allowed to have occasional ice cream, good dark chocolate (preferrably organic), organic fig newmans, or stuff I've made for them with honey, molasses, or organic sugar, juice, etc. It works. Mainly we stick to the fig newmans as our treat. It's hard to lose your mind on fig newmans. And we've done a lot of talking about what happens to our bodies when we fill them with junk, which may not work for everyone, but does for Maryn. She hates to get sick.SMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17986540464794429363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-73003804494825341462008-11-30T22:04:00.000-05:002008-11-30T22:04:00.000-05:00Keep one type of candy - no variety. It will lose ...Keep one type of candy - no variety. It will lose its appeal after a while. As long as she eats well at meal time, a piece now and then won't hurt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-50642952637044428552008-11-30T20:56:00.000-05:002008-11-30T20:56:00.000-05:00I have this problem, but for myself. But, serious...I have this problem, but for myself. But, seriously, what if you tried to replace it with good sugar - i.e. fruit. Find something that she really likes - for my daughter that would be watermelon, blueberries or clementines. Call them candy and let her have as much as she wants. I would bring home some type of new fruit - maybe a kiwi or something and tell her it's "candy" and let her have some...it's worth a try...Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12823571693640400878noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65043679358759691402008-11-30T19:20:00.000-05:002008-11-30T19:20:00.000-05:00Seriously, I have a JAR of candy sitting in my kit...Seriously, I have a JAR of candy sitting in my kitchen...my kids barely give it a second glance. If I put in something new or interesting, they'll go for a splurge, but otherwise, they really could care less. They know they can have it any time so they don't really care, and I use it to reward, so they get a little now and then anyway. You're really right that the more you fight it, the greater the allure and it becomes this great big freaking holy grail of all foodstuffs.<BR/><BR/>My mother in law? Perhaps she and Emelia can share a room at rehab...the screaming should be epic.Anissa Mayhewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01637783862251849189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16823501241378241482008-11-28T16:48:00.000-05:002008-11-28T16:48:00.000-05:00I'm all about the sugar bribe.If it works it works...I'm all about the sugar bribe.<BR/>If it works it works.<BR/>Bonus that they get a second set of teeth when the first set turn black and fall out before the age of five.<BR/><BR/>kidding..I hope.<BR/><BR/>Now, where's that Hello Kitty toothbrush?<BR/><BR/>Love the costme btwpetite gourmandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14390555269928625967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6145218538390500042008-11-28T13:09:00.000-05:002008-11-28T13:09:00.000-05:00My daughter wasn't going to be allowed sweets unti...My daughter wasn't going to be allowed sweets until she was two, but a few months before then she was underweight and didn't much care for most dairy, so we allowed some vanilla ice cream from time to time. Now she's almost 3 and has treats a few times a week, but they're mostly (but not always) limited to home-baked (by my mother or myself with her "helping" us) goods and, in the summer, ice cream. She got a few pieces of candy all at once at Halloween, and at visits to the grandparents all bets are off, but the rarity is what makes it special. <BR/><BR/>Diet is important to us so we found a home day care that cooks food from scratch and doesn't give candy or junk food to the kids. I have a feeling that our bigger challenges are coming though, since we haven't had to deal with the food-at-school situation, and we don't intend to let our son have any sweets before two either, and that'll be hard when his sister is eating them. <BR/><BR/>But we figure, they have their whole lives to eat food that's bad for them, why not start them out right for the first couple of years? After all, our job as parents is to do what we think is best for our kids, not just what makes us popular with them, right? And what we think is best (within our family - your mileage may vary) is a mostly healthy diet with the occassional treat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-27950674432807674962008-11-28T11:02:00.000-05:002008-11-28T11:02:00.000-05:00Great post! I can totally relate.We have gone col...Great post! I can totally relate.<BR/><BR/>We have gone cold turkey--a few times. The problem with this approach is that the freakin' candy keeps coming back.<BR/><BR/>It's not like an illicit drug addiction which requires a complete change in lifestyle. Hopefully, once you quit, you're not in places or with people that have access to your drug of choice.<BR/><BR/>But sugar is EVERYWHERE. It never goes away. <BR/><BR/>I get my kid off it for a week, and they give them <B>lollipops at school</B>. And I know the teachers take silent glee in sending them home to us all wigged out and bouncing off walls, as revenge on the parents who put <B>CANDY in their lunchboxes!</B> Problem is they can't discriminate, so my kid comes home all buzzed up and wanting candy all over again.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12354794418331152374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38514497807141511702008-11-27T18:37:00.000-05:002008-11-27T18:37:00.000-05:00Reality is -- it isn't about the sugar.....or cand...Reality is -- it isn't about the sugar.....or candy....it is about getting what you want by SCREAMING. Don't cave. It is okay to give her candy or sweets but it should be you deciding when. She isn't old enough to decide how much sugar is good for her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-34942238626695954692008-11-27T11:27:00.000-05:002008-11-27T11:27:00.000-05:00Laural: Purple tablets? SUGAR BUGS? Now I'm scared...Laural: Purple tablets? SUGAR BUGS? Now I'm scared of candy...Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-43916156811862212542008-11-27T08:12:00.000-05:002008-11-27T08:12:00.000-05:00We had to go cold turkey at our home because Matt ...We had to go cold turkey at our home because Matt was having some major problems with hyper-activity.<BR/>Around that time we took him to his first dentist visit with pediatric specialist. They taught him all about sugar bugs. from that moment on he was scared of sugar.<BR/>They used the dissolving purple tablets to show him the sugar bugs.<BR/>We now buy that blue mouthwash.<BR/>He still loves his candy thoughLaural Dawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08459584652802529868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-3937732895634969362008-11-27T05:38:00.000-05:002008-11-27T05:38:00.000-05:00Another spin on the fruit/ caramel sauce idea - me...Another spin on the fruit/ caramel sauce idea - melted chocolate or chocolate sauce to dip in. I don't know a toddler who doesn't like dipping things and if the only way to get the chocolate is on that strawberry then it's a means to an end isn't it?<BR/><BR/>My son is also a cheese addict, so, we cover everything in cheese. Broccoli and cauliflower baked in cheese sauce or grilled with grated cheese on them. Pizza's (we eat so many pizzas) that we top ourselves, he gets a sprinkle of cheese for every veggie he puts on. Want more cheese? Then stick another pepper on there kiddo. Home made pizzas are the answer to everything, I'm convinced.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80705322900337002642008-11-26T15:16:00.000-05:002008-11-26T15:16:00.000-05:00I find an introduction, without preamble, to unswe...I find an introduction, without preamble, to unsweetened baking chocolate, tends to leave scars that temper the sugar craze, or at least begin a new stage of, "Let me test it with my tongue," before the characteristic inhaling of the candy at hand.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06785403140233495009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-89353128178613459062008-11-26T13:26:00.000-05:002008-11-26T13:26:00.000-05:00sounds like my 9 yr old daughter. we decided if le...sounds like my 9 yr old daughter. we decided if less is around the house, then less for her to get & hide away. she's gotten quite good at finding candy & chocolate hidden around the house - got her sweet-tooth from me :) she gets treats after something healthy (meal or fruit) & has to brush after. but we have no control over her snack trading at school or when we are not around. sometimes we have fun with her, once we found a ziploc sandwich bag filled with chocolate chips, we replaced them with raisins giggling the whole time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-61181728697049073292008-11-26T13:16:00.000-05:002008-11-26T13:16:00.000-05:00Wait...is your daughter dressed like the guy from ...Wait...is your daughter dressed like the guy from Clockwork Orange?<BR/><BR/>You should try taping her eyes open and making her watch Barney being beat up while putting M&Ms in her mouth.<BR/><BR/>Just kidding. I don't know what to do. I've given up. I let them gorge themselves on candy when they have it and then blend Brussels Sprouts and inject veggies into everything else they eat.josetteplank.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790825543155685363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-72197040932805544152008-11-26T12:51:00.000-05:002008-11-26T12:51:00.000-05:00sugar free ice popsbowl of berries with sugar free...sugar free ice pops<BR/>bowl of berries with sugar free whipped topping and a few chocolate chips sprinkled on top<BR/><BR/>I also like to add the word "candy" to the end of every food...<BR/>"Hey, Annie, how about some turkey candy?"<BR/>"Jack, try it...it is meat loaf candy"<BR/>"Belle,would you like more spinach candy?"<BR/><BR/>Yeah, sorry..I am not a real help..but you are asking the woman who has a naked two year old holding a box of Christmas cookies at this very moment...Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15985522830610197074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-85837295538260642152008-11-26T12:00:00.000-05:002008-11-26T12:00:00.000-05:00My son was the same way and I made a deal with him...My son was the same way and I made a deal with him that after a candy treat he had to brush his teeth. If he refused, I refused the candy. It worked genius! He was so tired of brushing he eventually figured it wasn't worth it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-41924718794002975702008-11-26T11:38:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:38:00.000-05:00Ursula - awesome idea. I know our kids will scrape...Ursula - awesome idea. I know our kids will scrape around the outside of an apple and say it's done, eat half a banana, aren't too big on any kind of berries... But if I take frozen strawberries and grape juice and put them in a blender and call it a smoothie like the kind they get at Frullati, they will drink it all and ask to lick the blender-cup. <BR/><BR/>And these are BIG kids that technically understand about ingredients... But they're so excited to be using the blender and making something, they just don't think about it, and they don't notice that it's not anywhere near as sweet as the mall smoothies. It's a smoothie! It's here in my hand! There's MORE of it over there!<BR/><BR/>Reading some of the other comments also reminded me that another favorite at our house is pumpkin muffins (15 oz can of pure pumpkin, 1 box duncan hines spice cake [the betty crocker stuff tastes wrong in this recipe]... mix, put in muffin tin, bake at 375 for about 20 min, they're done when they bounce back after poking.) <BR/><BR/>It's got sugar from the cake mix, yeah, but you've also got vitamins and fiber like crazy from the pumpkin. In fact, for special occasions, we treat these as cupcakes and put frosting on them... so then when you get to have them for breakfast it really feels like you're getting away with something.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-69641676240524785032008-11-26T11:23:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:23:00.000-05:00Hey, what does she think of fruit smoothies? My s...Hey, what does she think of fruit smoothies? My son isn't a big fan of either fruit or milk, but every day we mix up a big shake with bananas, frozen mangoes and berries, orange juice, soy milk, and sometimes some flax seeds (for fiber) or avocado (for good fats). Now THAT he loves. Again, I think lending a hand and watching it get made are part of the appeal for a toddler.Ursulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04821791959855170035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14199343071734426322008-11-26T11:18:00.001-05:002008-11-26T11:18:00.001-05:00I should add - she's a skinny little ectomorphic f...I should add - she's a skinny little ectomorphic fast-metabolism speed demon. We don't have a weight concern - but blood-sugar imbalance and displacement of 'good' calories ARE a concern.<BR/><BR/>All these suggestions are awesome, including the ones that suggest chilling out about it. I feel better just knowing that we're not alone ;)Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-84931060980711150332008-11-26T11:18:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:18:00.000-05:00We started giving Roslyn a little chocolate around...We started giving Roslyn a little chocolate around her first birthday, and that has morphed into a stash of mini-M&Ms that we treat her from after dinner. She seems to have gotten the idea that "ca-cao" (she can't say "chocolate," and I was tired of her yelling for "cock!" at the table) isn't for breakfast, but she'll sometimes still try to pull a pathetic "Ms?" after she finishes. <BR/><BR/>I'm seriously of the mind that, fuck it, dude. We're 70s kids, which means we ate tons of candy at Halloween & every other time, and we had cereals that still had sugar in the NAME, like Sugar Smacks and Super Sugar Crisp and Frosted Flakes, which were "GrrreeeEEEAAT!" None of my friends are Type-2 diabetics from this, so I gotta think that giving Rozzle chocolate, even on a daily basis, ain't gonna hurt.Animalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14011608269211715910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-44783242717701065552008-11-26T11:12:00.001-05:002008-11-26T11:12:00.001-05:00i love love love love chocolate!!!!!!!!! it has ne...i love love love love chocolate!!!!!!!!! it has never stopped and never will! Even tho i'm allergic. I cant help it... its so addicting!!!! <BR/><BR/>i've eaten less and less as the years go by, just for the sheer fact off...the complete and utter Blah feeling.<BR/><BR/>We never had a restriction on candy when my siblings and i were little... not sure if it helped or what...i really have no advice, except that i would have to agree with not quitting it cold turkey, considering when you allowed her candy, she ziploc'd it away!!! <BR/><BR/>I honestly see no end to it! if you chore it, like one person said, it'll just get into negotiation after negotiation, if you healthy food it, she'll just associate it with candy, and likely negotiate that as well..<BR/><BR/>Maybe try talking to a doctor...or a child specialist on addictions?! *if there even is such a thing...sounds like there should be!!* <BR/><BR/>Or just see how it pans out?Mrs. Sawatzkyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09620488392106471591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-67739005468488588872008-11-26T11:12:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:12:00.000-05:00We had a sugar problem with my stepkids; when we h...We had a sugar problem with my stepkids; when we had them all week and their mother/grandparents got them on the weekends, they would give the kids everything (sugarwise) that they asked for - and even things that they didn't. This, in turn, made us want to limit them more during the week, knowing that both kids were overweight and how bad it would be on the weekends. <BR/><BR/>As you can probably guess, this quickly broke down into a vicious cycle, with their mother tsk-tsking about how their evil other parents wouldn't ever indulge them, and then she'd indulge them even more "to make up for it".<BR/><BR/>After a few months of misery, we instituted a candy debit account system. We picked a number of treats per week that seemed reasonable. (I think it was 9 since we had them for 4.5 days a week... came out to about 2 per day.) ANY crazy sugary item counted from this list - including pop [pardon me, that's soda for the non-midwesterner], dessert, party snacks, and so on. <BR/><BR/>So, they were "in charge" of the sugar. If they wanted to blow it all in one day (never happened), they would have a miserable week! Granted, our kids were 7 and 8 at the time so they were a little more logical about it.<BR/><BR/>The nice things about this system are:<BR><BR/>1) It sets a limit without removing sugar entirely.<BR><BR/>2) It lets the kid feel they're in charge.<BR><BR/>3) It teaches kids about savings, limiting portion sizes, reasonable limits in general, even fractions and proportions in a way (figuring out how to divide up their allowance to have an equal amount each day, or how if you get more on one day you get less on another).<BR><BR/>4) It makes you feel less like a bad guy, and gives you logic on your side, when a day comes up without any candy. (She can't blame you if she made all the choices!)<BR/><BR/>It really did work for us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9580167121779674972008-11-26T11:10:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:10:00.000-05:00You know, now that's a thought. (Parent Club's com...You know, now that's a thought. (Parent Club's comment above) <BR/><BR/>4pm is tea-time right? What about instituting a tea-time for a small treat and "tea?" Wouldn't necessarily have to be at that time, heck I'm at work then, but something like that might make it a special, ritualistic, memory-building kind of thing.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10740564940180181887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-72134693091242853822008-11-26T11:05:00.000-05:002008-11-26T11:05:00.000-05:00I've battled the same tragic addiction, it's plagu...I've battled the same tragic addiction, it's plagued by two kids. The intervention was a calamity. Halloween is a real binge, too, so we let them go nuts that night and then throw it out as soon as they go to sleep. And we don't buy any for the house. They go nutso at Grandma's, but the its not that big a problem here. They know its not gonna happen at the house.Shonda Littlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14411603868888972136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-2615049945032477012008-11-26T10:39:00.000-05:002008-11-26T10:39:00.000-05:00kgirl - just THREE? You are a NINJA.kgirl - just THREE? You are a NINJA.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.com