tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post650181547882473996..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: That's Me In The CornerHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger108125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-70148500373059611332008-08-03T14:40:00.000-04:002008-08-03T14:40:00.000-04:00Thank you for this post. I was getting all worked ...Thank you for this post. I was getting all worked up about the BlogHerDrama, then your Balm of Gilead writing put me gently, softly, quietly at rest. <BR/><BR/>Having said all that, there are not enough serotonin-reuptake-inhibitors in the world that would have helped me cope with the intensity of BlogHerDrama. As I mentioned on Jennster's, perhaps we need another natural disaster to blog about so we can get our stuff in perspective.<BR/><BR/>(And HAVING SAID THAT that natural disaster will probably be an earthquake in my neighborhood. So, everyone outside Northern California, start setting up a disaster blog for me so I can maintain my daily piece of anti-oxidant in the form of chocolate. We will need many bars of those - along with diapers, drinking water and ice for medicine and cold beer - when we head into the shelters)<BR/><BR/>Peace love and respect to you HBM<BR/>xoAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91215710505023683032008-07-31T18:48:00.000-04:002008-07-31T18:48:00.000-04:00Man I go away for week and miss the best post eve...Man I go away for week and miss the best post ever. <BR/><BR/>I heart-love you back. <BR/><BR/>And as I told you, I was int he same baby boat last year, only with a mama to help me out so I can only imagine how sidelined you felt. If it's any consolation, you seemed perfectly present and attentive and wonderful. It's only on looking back that you think shit, I was totally out of it wasn't I. <BR/><BR/>Motherhood. Bitch that she is.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-84992542577358953642008-07-30T16:31:00.000-04:002008-07-30T16:31:00.000-04:00Your post has me realizing how dumb it is that I d...Your post has me realizing how dumb it is that I didn't approach you. Every time I saw you, you looked absorbed in discussion, and I wasn't sure how to break in to what I was sure was a deep and meaningful encounter. Next year I hope to do better, not just with you, but with anyone who looks too busy to be bothered.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37480767888337199472008-07-29T23:14:00.000-04:002008-07-29T23:14:00.000-04:00Wish I would have come and said Hi to you.Mary, mo...Wish I would have come and said Hi to you.<BR/><BR/>Mary, mom to 10Owlhavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08914960326214046859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14546447257570062052008-07-28T11:47:00.000-04:002008-07-28T11:47:00.000-04:00I'm wishing I had not pushed my own insecurities o...I'm wishing I had not pushed my own insecurities on my own conversations with you remembering my own transition to two babies. I'm wishing I was just able to say all those things, you're beautiful, you're amazing and oh my hell what a wonderful job you are doing because I mean all of it. I wish I was able to say those things to you without feeling my own guilt of people long long ago that I got upset with and I'm wishing I could sit at the pool with you because sometimes It's ok to not say anything at all but hug.<BR/><BR/>You're awesome and even if I ever so briefly and ever so awkwardly was able to meet you, I'm thankful for it.Mrs. Flingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05709633089269330834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21289609602461607102008-07-28T01:54:00.000-04:002008-07-28T01:54:00.000-04:00I found your blog because of the NYT photo (Maria ...I found your blog because of the NYT photo (Maria from Immoral Matriarch posted it the other day). I gasped when I saw it, because I have vowed not to miss BlogHer next year, even though I will be swinging a 7-month-old from my boob in many public places. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for capturing the magical and less-than-perfect moments of BlogHer. They remind me a lot of the magical and less-than-perfect aspects of blogging, motherhood and life, in general.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13850825844277186930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-8948053491811399702008-07-27T17:21:00.000-04:002008-07-27T17:21:00.000-04:00I feel like for the next few weeks, I have to qual...I feel like for the next few weeks, I have to qualify my comments for blogHer-relate posts, by saying I was not there. :)<BR/><BR/>Nonetheless, I have been in the same situation at a conference for my career-field, which is all women (Deaconesses). And, I felt most if not all the emotions you did. You words ring true. <BR/><BR/>I appreciate your candor and your son is blessed to have you as his mommy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60194383462250246202008-07-27T13:28:00.000-04:002008-07-27T13:28:00.000-04:00Great post. How do you write with such power? ("...Great post. How do you write with such power? ("<I>Being a mother in real life is not the same thing as playing one one the internet</I>" and "<I>all of the vulnerabilities that roll onto the screen so easily don't play so comfortably on a real life stage</I>." <BR/><BR/>Your voice is so true, and dead-on-target.<BR/><BR/>I think going to Blogher really is an act of courage in a way, for just the reasons you mentioned. And going with a newborn, after traveling with one, well that makes me quail just to think of it.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for being willing to be vulnerable, and then to write the truth about it.excavatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12977971829976807873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-276318187477608022008-07-27T03:43:00.000-04:002008-07-27T03:43:00.000-04:00This was just an exquisite post.I wish that I had ...This was just an exquisite post.<BR/><BR/>I wish that I had stopped to speak with you during the conference. I remember you so well with your baby boy draped across your shoulder. I kept wanting to say BRAVO for you coming with your child - albeit a very different experience from your last BlogHer conference.JCKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04582581376724478366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-13348489026985801102008-07-27T01:23:00.000-04:002008-07-27T01:23:00.000-04:00I could have written huge portions of this post (w...I could have written huge portions of this post (well, who am I kidding, I would have done so far less eloquently!). I felt THE SAME. Exact same. Except I missed so much more. I was actually in AWE of you for being there, for pushing through and going to all the sessions and parties and not letting the "having a baby" keep you from it, like I did. Still, I walked away from BlogHer feeling the same, like I was on the outside looking in. But yet, also loving everyone in the community and my buds best of all. <BR/><BR/>BlogHer rocks. <BR/><BR/>(WHY didn't I say hi?? I'm still kicking myself.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42596957736497205662008-07-27T00:36:00.000-04:002008-07-27T00:36:00.000-04:00Every time I saw you with your little Jasper I tho...Every time I saw you with your little Jasper I thought about this. How hard it would be for me to be in your situation. It made me think of times I've brought my children to office picnics, etc... But then I thought "But HBM looks so calm and collected." Now I am kicking myself for not plopping down beside you and spilling my guts.<BR/><BR/>xoxoLawyer Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06819273107327846943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-27703755096552609512008-07-27T00:28:00.000-04:002008-07-27T00:28:00.000-04:00Amazing post. Thank you for the reminder to be a ...Amazing post. Thank you for the reminder to be a lover not a hater. I wanted to come over and talk to you more at Blogher but you were taking care of the baby or you had a crowd of adoring people around you----if I saw you alone or relaxing, I honestly did not want to ruin the moment for you. You are a rockstar in my book, page 204. Thanks for reminding all of us to play nice.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-85214572698658242008-07-26T21:25:00.000-04:002008-07-26T21:25:00.000-04:00Hey you, I love you. I'm so glad you and Jasper b...Hey you, I love you. I'm so glad you and Jasper bit the bullet and made the trip.Julie Marshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386446012443269817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-40912532731177649502008-07-26T17:11:00.000-04:002008-07-26T17:11:00.000-04:00Meagan - I so wish that you had.Meagan - I so wish that you had.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-23516065117294949042008-07-26T17:06:00.000-04:002008-07-26T17:06:00.000-04:00Okay, perception is such a funny thing. SEVERAL ti...Okay, perception is such a funny thing. SEVERAL times, I wanted to walk up to you, HBM, and introduce myself and coo over your baby's ridiculous level of cuteness, but I felt like bringing a baby had made you super-conspicuous (kinda like how when you're pregnant everybody wants to rub your belly and after a while, the attention gets old) and that you were probably being approached by a zillion of other fans of your blog or your baby and I just didn't want to...overwhelm you. FWIW, every time I did see you, you seemed incredibly poised to me. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42585987784299318972008-07-26T11:32:00.000-04:002008-07-26T11:32:00.000-04:00Beautifully done, HBM. I'm sorry I didn't get to ...Beautifully done, HBM. I'm sorry I didn't get to speak to you more at BlogHer - although we did briefly bond over our love of Grover. <BR/><BR/>For what it's worth, every time I saw you, you looked like a confident, wonderful mother. And you needn't worry about how your mothering in public looks - you were surrounded by other mothers who know what it's like to be in that situation. We support you. I thought you were so brave to even bring Jasper- I didn't attend last year because I had a wee baby.<BR/><BR/>Your kindness radiates from this post. I really enjoyed myself and it's upsetting to me that some people have been so hateful after the conference. Thanks for being so sweet. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-5687026309979995312008-07-26T11:06:00.000-04:002008-07-26T11:06:00.000-04:00I am one of those incredibly shy, shy people who f...I am one of those incredibly shy, shy people who feels strangled and swallowed up at big events like these. But I'm glad I had enough courage to come say hi to you twice and some of the other bloggers that I love to read. I loved this post too, like so many above have commented.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14586323120994967027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-19328413183337057132008-07-26T10:42:00.000-04:002008-07-26T10:42:00.000-04:00Whuh?Whuh?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39127318323635163312008-07-26T10:31:00.000-04:002008-07-26T10:31:00.000-04:00*blushing at Stefania's words**blushing at Stefania's words*Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-51909203937380769522008-07-26T08:59:00.000-04:002008-07-26T08:59:00.000-04:00Let's just all move on from BlogHer, kay?Let's just all move on from BlogHer, kay?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38626714811294129482008-07-26T01:01:00.000-04:002008-07-26T01:01:00.000-04:00If we could have voted on BlogHer heroes that very...If we could have voted on BlogHer heroes that very weekend, I would have chosen you. You and Nina of Charlie and Nina. To do what you (both) did--not just observing but participating in community-building while being so sleep deprived while having to scrape coherent thoughts together while focusing on someone else...I don't know how you did it, but I am glad you did. We all benefit from the wise words you share on your blog and in person. I really mean that.Stefania/CityMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01949057289956579802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-20714959529132375482008-07-25T22:29:00.000-04:002008-07-25T22:29:00.000-04:00Anon - I'm really sorry if my vagueness came off a...Anon - I'm really sorry if my vagueness came off as insidery and exclusive - it wasn't meant that way. I just didn't want to engage in she said/she said. And the deets of what happened really weren't central to my point. But I hear you.<BR/><BR/>There's a live-blog account here - http://gwendomama.blogspot.com/2008/07/live-blogging-closing-keynote-blogher.htmlHer Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42179865350407999522008-07-25T22:08:00.000-04:002008-07-25T22:08:00.000-04:00Clinging to that love is really hard sometimes but...Clinging to that love is really hard sometimes but oh my god I never want to let it go even when it tries to flip me off.motherbumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053978199395919666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14103434442747032082008-07-25T20:17:00.000-04:002008-07-25T20:17:00.000-04:00I*'m trying to.I*'m trying to.jenBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05422055949931141453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-27262297424120593362008-07-25T18:32:00.000-04:002008-07-25T18:32:00.000-04:00catherine beautifully heart felt writing yet again...catherine beautifully heart felt writing yet again.i myself would never attend blogher as i never ever fit in anywhere.not even as a child did i fit in i am odd and quirky and extemely uncomfortable with crowds and strangers.so i think you are incredibly brave and super awesome.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com