tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post3402409185345068497..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: DeliveranceHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger87125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16481622991659459912008-07-29T22:00:00.000-04:002008-07-29T22:00:00.000-04:00I have a thumb sucker who will likely never be bro...I have a thumb sucker who will likely never be broken. Kinda karma since pre-baby I made fun of my husband for his lengthy thumb sucking career.Shonda Littlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14411603868888972136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-18067903502378327502008-06-28T04:29:00.000-04:002008-06-28T04:29:00.000-04:00I was from a non-binky family, and quite proud/rel...I was from a non-binky family, and quite proud/releived that my first two kids 'found' a finger or thumb within hours of giving birth, that comforted them until, well, they quit sucking it. <BR/><BR/>But baby #3 was clueless about this, and I reluctantly introduced a dummy (I'm in UK, so...) at about 6 months of age. Heaven. He can have it as long as he wants. Though I hope by this time next year, just after his 2nd birthday, when we go home to a big family wedding, that he will have given it up. You know, just to save ME the hassle of disapproving family members. cause it's all about me, right?Nil Zedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17520824032188190823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-64650177630856380852007-10-06T23:39:00.000-04:002007-10-06T23:39:00.000-04:00What a picture! Wonder baby's eyes in that pictur...What a picture! Wonder baby's eyes in that picture are so intent and almost sad, as if she knows what you are contemplating.<BR/><BR/>My 22 mo old has her attachements, "miniiiii" is blanky and she's got to have it. If I took her somewhere, I would make sure to take it in the car...just in case. I JUST broke her of the bottle recently. It was not nearly as bad as I thought. Hopefully this won't be so bad for you. ;)iheartchocolatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506809401305000430noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-3530419342353739662007-09-12T14:25:00.000-04:002007-09-12T14:25:00.000-04:00My boys never really cared for pacifiers, but they...My boys never really cared for pacifiers, but they loved their bottles. I let them drink out of the bottle till they were 3. Then the bottle fairy came and took it away. Then they switched to sippy cups and my older son was in third grade before he decided he didn't need his warm chocolate milk in the morning sippy cup. My younger son is 8 and just started 3rd grade, and he's still drinking from a sippy cup. Okay, the rubber stopper thingy is gone from the lid, but it's the best way for me to get a good serving of milk into him each day. It's not that he CAN'T drink from other cups, but since he still gets his milk in bed in the mornings, I'd rather he use the cup with the lid.<BR/><BR/>I'm an educated woman. I read child-rearing books, my older son is well-adjusted, well-behaved, in the gifted program, and kind to his classmates. Letting him have a bottle till he was three and a sippy cup till he was 8 did not hurt him one bit. <BR/><BR/>WB will give it up eventually. So for now, relax and let her have it since it seems she really needs it. Hey, I sleep with a stuffed dog and I'm 43. If I don't have the damned thing, I'm not getting any sleep that night. Substituting my husband just isn't the same.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-85215527508921803822007-09-12T09:42:00.000-04:002007-09-12T09:42:00.000-04:00In my pre-children days I'd internally tsk when I ...In my pre-children days I'd internally tsk when I saw older toddlers running around with pacifiers. I swore my kids would never use them.<BR/><BR/>Well, yeah, you know how that goes. Mimi gave up the paci around 2 1/2, but sucks her thumb. We stopped giving Rosie the paci about 3 months ago -- went cold turkey at night (she wasn't using it at naptime, so we knew she could sleep without it). One night of hell, a second night of half-hearted protests, and she's fine.<BR/><BR/>So it's doable. But if you don't want to go that route, WB will surely give it up when she's ready.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-86474921075973834222007-09-11T12:55:00.000-04:002007-09-11T12:55:00.000-04:00There's 81 people above me who have shared their o...There's 81 people above me who have shared their opinions, I'm sure. But I still thought I'd add mine in. <BR/><BR/>I'd let her keep it and don't say anything about it for awhile. My best friend, who's a nurse let her kids keep them until they were three and by then they were old enough to understand giving them up. At not yet two, WB wouldn't get it and it would be horrible for you.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780589302319316351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53695496400539369642007-09-11T01:44:00.000-04:002007-09-11T01:44:00.000-04:00I'm sorta the pacifier.. and that attracts some cr...I'm sorta the pacifier.. and that attracts some criticism. HEck what's a parenting day without a little fear of society's ambiguous expectations?mo-wohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934156423936866994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80591400778873920212007-09-10T08:36:00.000-04:002007-09-10T08:36:00.000-04:00My oldest gave his dummy up on his own at 3. I wa...My oldest gave his dummy up on his own at 3. I was fine with it. He needed it. He is 6 1/2 and still has "oral" issues -- he sucks his t-shirts, licks his fingers, chews his nails.<BR/><BR/>My youngest (almost 3) never needed a dummy like the older one. We took it away at 12 months and he wasn't bothered.<BR/><BR/>It is difficult because there is a bit of social stigma attatched. I say just do what works for you! She won't have it forever!Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07459462647391788643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1196389661421350192007-09-10T06:47:00.000-04:002007-09-10T06:47:00.000-04:00At two and a half, Q hasn't given up his "pup" yet...At two and a half, Q hasn't given up his "pup" yet, but he only gets them at sleeptime. We keep them in the fridge, because he can't open the door and get to them. Chilly pacifiers, the world's latest fad.Lady Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13360693450146358247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28301585687527027332007-09-09T23:53:00.000-04:002007-09-09T23:53:00.000-04:001.) I think pacifier attachment is quite common at...1.) I think pacifier attachment is quite common at this age, and although WB's behavior is obviously annoying you at times, I don't think you should feel guilty about it. It's one of those things that sneaks up on you.<BR/><BR/>2.) Be thankful that she is attached to things you can one day take away.<BR/><BR/>My son refused all pacifiers and loveys as a baby, and instead chose to soothe himself by sucking on his right index finger. <BR/><BR/>As a matter of fact, I am convinced that his blurry ultrasound picture shows him sucking on that finger. <BR/><BR/>He used to do this eagerly whenever he was frightened or tired, and as a result, he developed a permanent callus on his finger, and he disdained to use it for pointing or picking things up with, even though he is right-handed, which means, of course, that he was constantly flipping people off. <BR/><BR/>He sucks on the finger less often these past several months, and he has gotten a bit better about using the index finger, but only through constant reminders. <BR/><BR/>He still does it now to get to sleep at night, and I've no way of stopping him, ever. I've tried putting soap on his finger to make it taste bitter; it doesn't work. <BR/><BR/>I can't chop his finger off, for heaven's sake.Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21568086757487923452007-09-09T15:01:00.000-04:002007-09-09T15:01:00.000-04:00I hate pacifiers. Really hate them. Especially o...I hate pacifiers. Really hate them. Especially on 5 year olds in the mall.<BR/><BR/>That being said, The Happy Boy did have one - i needed it to preserve my sanity when he was 2 months old and crying all the time.<BR/><BR/>He was so attached to it. We eventually got him down to bedtime and naps. ANd then, when he was just over 2, he decided to give it up. Just like that.<BR/><BR/>So there is hope!<BR/><BR/>(never did give one to the baby boy, though. He just used me!)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-45747904146065907562007-09-08T09:52:00.000-04:002007-09-08T09:52:00.000-04:00Soothers saved our sanity. I held out at first, b...Soothers saved our sanity. I held out at first, because our initial trial with them interfered with Sacha's ability to nurse. But after his marathon nursing sessions that made my breasts raw and my husband seeing me wince everytime he latched on, we went for it. Now, Sacha is hooked. He's 1 now, and in NO rush to give up his suce. In fact, he likes to have one in his mouth and one in each hand for good measure. I'm not going to worry about it until he's 2...lol!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-26445356310806032802007-09-08T04:07:00.000-04:002007-09-08T04:07:00.000-04:00I was never going to do binks.Then it came time to...I was never going to do binks.<BR/>Then it came time to take them away. (Not for any reason more than I was judging myself)<BR/>I will avoid all binks next time around.<BR/>Oh, and I have all sorts of posts about the binky bye bye trauma. I'd be happy to share.moosh in indy.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12536663032282865725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-24966024107857842752007-09-07T23:15:00.000-04:002007-09-07T23:15:00.000-04:00Oh, Catherine. I could've written this post (thoug...Oh, Catherine. I could've written this post (though not nearly as eloquently as you).<BR/>The binky was the first of many things on my Things I'll Never Do When I'm a Parent list. As in, 24 hours at home and with bleeding nipples, I put a cork in Henry.<BR/>He loves his "innnnkey" and we try to only allow him it for the crib (which is only for sleeping) and the car. And since we're rarely in the car (YAY city living!), it's mostly just at bed. And we say "Bye bye binky! See you at nap time" as he uncorks himself and pitches his Nuk to the mattress. He even waves.<BR/>But lately? He's been asking to go to his room, and we think he's sleepy and ready for a nap. Not so much. He'll go and have Binky Time for a half-hour, happy as a clam in the dark.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79606686622515917202007-09-07T22:40:00.000-04:002007-09-07T22:40:00.000-04:00My daughter did not care for the "binkie". She use...My daughter did not care for the "binkie". She used it a handful of times as an infant, then only as we went into Wal-Mart as a toddler (who can blame her?).<BR/><BR/>My son loved his "ginkie" <BR/><BR/>http://coolzebras.blogspot.com/2007/01/my-son-loves-his-ginkie.html<BR/><BR/>He gave it up fairly recently.<BR/><BR/>http://coolzebras.blogspot.com/2007/07/another-good-and-bad-day.html<BR/><BR/>But I have all sorts of things that I do my own wrong way!<BR/><BR/>http://coolzebras.blogspot.com/2006/06/confessions.html<BR/><BR/>Do things your own wrong way!Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91347180555246362342007-09-07T17:03:00.000-04:002007-09-07T17:03:00.000-04:00I gave into the sucky once I gave up on getting a ...I gave into the sucky once I gave up on getting a latch. Before that, I had avoided anything that might invoke the dreaded nipple confusion. But I did enjoy her having it, and once she went to daycare, she had it for naps and bedtime, but it was there if she needed it for comfort at other times. She didn't need it much, and they kept it out of reach unless she needed it. Then, gradually, they stopped giving it to her for naps. A little while later, we started "forgetting" it at bedtime, and after two days, she didn't even ask. done. if it had been harder, I may have let her keep it a bit longer, but she was about 2.5 when I took away the bedtime sucky.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-13974992931722487552007-09-07T14:31:00.000-04:002007-09-07T14:31:00.000-04:00I LOVE that last photo. Laughed out loud and actua...I LOVE that last photo. Laughed out loud and actually spit some of my soda onto my screen. I love those big, blue eyes. And that Soovy. AWESOME.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08527762200993175239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-58355673804507083542007-09-07T14:30:00.000-04:002007-09-07T14:30:00.000-04:00P&B - would it disturb you if I told you that Toad...P&B - would it disturb you if I told you that Toadstool - aka the Phallus - is sometimes hanging out of her mouth? She sometimes likes to chew on the long end.<BR/><BR/>Yeah, I know. Nice.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-56604532072667153762007-09-07T14:05:00.000-04:002007-09-07T14:05:00.000-04:00That is hilarious. At least the giant phallus isn...That is hilarious. At least the giant phallus isn't the one she wants to have sticking out of her mouth. That would be troublesome.<BR/><BR/>Jane, Pinks & Blues GirlsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-48426555760525670352007-09-07T11:44:00.000-04:002007-09-07T11:44:00.000-04:00We called them a mimi. We were around 2 years old...We called them a mimi. We were around 2 years old, we got to put the mimi under our pillow one night and the mimi fairy came and left us a toy on the end of the bed and the mimi was gone. I think it helped my parents because when we got tired of the toy and asked for the mimi, they could say they were sorry, but the mimi fairy took it. I wanted to use that on my kid, but she is a finger sucker and never wanted the mimi. I wished for the plug some nights though.Kendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08357784359637572152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49528997089265125502007-09-07T11:41:00.000-04:002007-09-07T11:41:00.000-04:00I lost the pacifier battle too, although it took a...I lost the pacifier battle too, although it took a month for me to give in to the inevitable. <BR/>Now I keep telling myself that we'll be getting rid of it when Myles is old enough to self soothe. I'm living in fantasyland, aren't I?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-60898381627836181742007-09-07T11:07:00.000-04:002007-09-07T11:07:00.000-04:00I had a mostly unhappy, hard-to-soothe infant. Bef...I had a mostly unhappy, hard-to-soothe infant. Before she was born, I had no plans to introduce a dummy. It took us 3-4 weeks after she was born to change our minds and see it as the holy grail. Sure, she became addicted, but it did help life and save our sanity. (It's called NukNuk in our house, after the brand name.)Around the age of 2, we tried (not always successfully, but it was easier than we expected) to limit its use to bedtime and long car trips. She is 4 now and still uses it to fall asleep, but she spits out soon after. Her dentist expresses mild concern, but I think it's mostly harmless and, in my house, it saved lives. I say: don't fight the Soovy and make a huge issue of it, but try to find ways, if you can, to limit its use.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-81378763829408155652007-09-07T10:46:00.000-04:002007-09-07T10:46:00.000-04:00My son's pediatrician told me that he needed to le...My son's pediatrician told me that he needed to learn to self-soothe at 6 weeks. Sh#t! I'm in my 30's and can't self-soothe... that's why we have art and literature and music and liquor. So the Soovy and the Toadstool? I say they stay. :)anniemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12459244306667636923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29629138708244983742007-09-07T10:34:00.000-04:002007-09-07T10:34:00.000-04:00Hysterical picture!Hysterical picture!Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-90605080143580371332007-09-07T09:43:00.000-04:002007-09-07T09:43:00.000-04:00When my youngest son was 3 he developed an attachm...When my youngest son was 3 he developed an attachment to a small kitchen plunger. It was a love affair no one understood. He took it with him everywhere...preschool, the grocery store, grandmas house (who, incidentally found this the most amusing.) We were always prepared for any kind of impromptu sewage emergency, but honestly, one never arose. He is over the plunger now...at age 6...but still has an affection for them that no one understands.chickenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09920276594254258988noreply@blogger.com