tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post3396875496429256652..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Arms And The MomHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger88125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-10695721417435519962008-06-26T18:55:00.000-04:002008-06-26T18:55:00.000-04:00i forgot to mention, the jersey material wraps are...i forgot to mention, the jersey material wraps are hard to get tight enough (like a moby), they tend to sag and be too loose, also very bouncy when baby gains weight. Better to use a woven fabric that stretches only when pulled diagonally (from the weave). <BR/>Once you've tied Jasper on snug for the first time and are able to have a "normal" day of doing whatever you want with your hands you will never go back!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-43891762871104998322008-06-26T18:41:00.000-04:002008-06-26T18:41:00.000-04:00OMFG go to mamatoto.org it is a great babywearing ...OMFG go to mamatoto.org it is a great babywearing learning site.<BR/>Just go buy 6 yards of a light weight natural fabric ( linen or cotton gauze) and make sure it is 30-40 inches wide. It's called a wrap, and so much better than a sling. You can tie baby on just the way you hold him so he is nice and snug and you have both hands free, he can nurse in the wrap hands free as well. The mamatoto site will give you good instructions on age appropriate carries. When he can hold his head up well and has a good strong neck (and nurses less) he can go on your back, nice and high to see over your shoulder.<BR/>It's the way people al over the world have been toting babes since forever and still you know able to hunt and gather:)<BR/>If you'd prefer something ready made, get the Ergo baby carrier with the neborn insert, it's much better than those weird baby bjorn things, it has much better support and coverage, kind of like a puch for baby, and straps on very securely. I've seen people use on on the back for a big kid like wonderbaby and one on the front for a newborn.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38963185951933322582008-06-25T15:09:00.000-04:002008-06-25T15:09:00.000-04:00that sweet little candy baby head. so sweet. And...that sweet little candy baby head. so sweet. And you look pretty good yourself, mom of two.<BR/><BR/>love,<BR/><BR/>jenjenBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05422055949931141453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65790203703917176472008-06-25T10:22:00.000-04:002008-06-25T10:22:00.000-04:00Oh man. My little D was the same way. I got a fron...Oh man. My little D was the same way. I got a front pack carrier, but it too was difficult to use. I just got used to doing everything one-handed. Then got used to my mom saying I spoiled him, and my husband's family calling him a momma's boy :) He's still clingy at almost 3. My little girl B - same as yours... she actually shoves me away :( After my experience with D I bought a couple of slings so I was prepared with baby B, but pretty useless as she's happiest off doing her own thing :)Kmommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06331299132081697023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-33637993433882790972008-06-24T21:55:00.000-04:002008-06-24T21:55:00.000-04:00i hear you. my #2 is also a cuddler, and wants to...i hear you. my #2 is also a cuddler, and wants to be held ad nauseum. most of the time i am happy to oblige him, but tonight--our air conditioning has shot craps, we've had much rain and as a result, it's hotter than hell in this house and i'm pretty sure i could wring out every room like a sponge. so the last thing i want to do is hold another sweaty human, even if it is my sweet fantastic wonderful love of my life baby.<BR/><BR/>oh, and he also hurts my arms. seriously. i'm developing cubital tunnel in my left as a result of his rapid weight gain.Mitzi Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04924366481274530148noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-46600882269678502772008-06-24T13:56:00.000-04:002008-06-24T13:56:00.000-04:00You are the most beautiful writer. Your writing a...You are the most beautiful writer. Your writing about my life as well! Only good thoughts going your way...Alexahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14783483937679134268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1400293761148571872008-06-24T02:54:00.000-04:002008-06-24T02:54:00.000-04:00Ok, so I was just about to lend my expertise, cuz ...Ok, so I was just about to lend my expertise, cuz I have a 7 month marsupial. But i see that you have that covered :) It took me a long time to figure out my ring sling, but my babyhawk mei tai was a LOT easier (got that one down pat in 2 days), and more comfy.<BR/><BR/>Just know that I sympathise... with everything. I wish i could shower more often, or pee by myself, or eat when I am hungry. But I know that I would not trade it for anything in the world :)Theresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14187089876317175889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-18997608285956695452008-06-22T22:31:00.000-04:002008-06-22T22:31:00.000-04:00The upright position in the sling is a good place ...The upright position in the sling is a good place to start. Just expect that the baby will look like 1)his head is going to roll off or 2)he is going to suffocate from buring his face into the sling. Babies love to be crunched up and contained, in their own special favorite fetal position. It will be great, and you will have one arm free. Once you're good at this, you will also have the hand on the arm that is behind the baby's shoulders.<BR/>My sling, my very first for my fourth baby, was a pink and white striped percale bedsheet torn down the middle lengthwise. I tied a big knot in it, adjusted it until it was just right, and my restless little dude lived in there from about age 5 weeks to four months. He loved to eat on the go, as it were, and I had no time to shop for a "real" sling. We went everywhere with it. He was just like a little !Kung, and nursed about every 20 minutes, lol.We graduated to a strip of gold, double knitted cotton material, sewn together. It looked like a pillowcase, but open at both ends.<BR/>I find commercial slings much harder to use, and always seem to put them on backwards. (But the baby grandsons didn't care.) I DID love putting my daughter in the old, traditional Snugli on my back, but her three brothers hated the Snugli. (Except for the time we went for a walk, and I came home pushing her in the Umbroller, and carrying her two-year-old brother on my back in the Snugli.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-31611220609064039522008-06-22T20:23:00.000-04:002008-06-22T20:23:00.000-04:00I agree with the 1st commenter, I liked my sling -...I agree with the 1st commenter, I liked my sling - The Ultimate Baby Wrap. It's a long piece of jersey fabric with a buckle thing, also with a convenient pouch in the front for storing pacis or burp rags. It was super comfortable and super easy to put on, and came with a video to show you, and a handy website. It held my baby super close, warm and comfy with his little face on my skin while totally freeing my hands. Good luck - your arms need help! :-)Rachaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00318376427752604367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-28731013345391782422008-06-22T17:20:00.000-04:002008-06-22T17:20:00.000-04:00I'm not much help on the sling front, my little on...I'm not much help on the sling front, my little one is riding around in a 25 yr old snugli - that he adores. But I know that EvyMama (Jane & Annette, north of Bloor west village has a Thursday morning Baby carrier walk where you can go to the store any they'll help you try out oneo f their sample carriers with your little one and then you go on a walk with other mothers around the neighbourhood. They are also very breastfeeding friendly and have some really cool nursing clothes (Sorry, do I sound like an ad? I don't work there or anything, just live arou8nd the corner!)<BR/><BR/>I'm also blessed with a little marsupial, and I know the exhaustion of the arms that you speak of very well. My favourite is at 4:00 in the morning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-22698217150075578012008-06-22T13:53:00.000-04:002008-06-22T13:53:00.000-04:00get different slings-- if you have a high needs ba...get different slings-- if you have a high needs baby, he'll like a different sling every month or so-- or day-- mine (now at 12 mos) swears by the bare-bones cotton rebozo-- it's easy enough to use while sleep deprived, and you can use it many different ways. I couldn't live without my sling!Elisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12164510599664182381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79526944790533214302008-06-22T12:37:00.000-04:002008-06-22T12:37:00.000-04:00I had to use different wraps/slings/holds with dif...I had to use different wraps/slings/holds with different kids. You'll figure it out. I did find it easier to have someone who knew what they were doing help me the first few times. I'm helpless when it comes to following printed directions.<BR/><BR/>And those photos are gorgeous. What a sweet, beautiful baby.josetteplank.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790825543155685363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-50077075249268817612008-06-21T20:23:00.000-04:002008-06-21T20:23:00.000-04:00My now two-year-old has made an attachment parent ...My now two-year-old has made an attachment parent out of me, against my will.<BR/><BR/>I never learned the wrap, either. Avid Bjorn user here. <BR/><BR/>You get really, really used to it. I appreciate it far more this past week as her canines are coming in than I ever did before she could say "uppy". <BR/><BR/>The Child Who Wouldn't Be Put Down is one of the things no one tells you about. <BR/><BR/>But you can definitely pee while Bjorning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49235743232390466712008-06-21T10:55:00.000-04:002008-06-21T10:55:00.000-04:00You GOTTA get a wrap. Yes they're long, yes it's a...You GOTTA get a wrap. Yes they're long, yes it's a bit of work to learn, but the 2-3 days of learning is soooo worth it. My girl was colicky and I swear that's where my PPD started. My boy- might be colicky too if we didn't use some sort of baby-wearing device. The Kangaroo pouch, the sling and BabyBjorn all work fine, but hands down, the wrap is IT for endurance and comfort. It's like wearing a tight tee with your little guy snuggled inside and because it distributes the weight over your entire back you can go for so much longer than something with straps. If you have a friend with one, ask them to try it or go to a store with them and try it out. I had my doubts the first time around- looked way too complicated and kinda granola, but my bro-in-law had one a year later. I tried it and was instantly sold. I just wish I had had it the first time around.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-33818982760632065982008-06-21T10:51:00.000-04:002008-06-21T10:51:00.000-04:00I'm wondering, if he likes to bne high and right u...I'm wondering, if he likes to bne high and right up against you, if a wrap might work better than a sling for you? I only had a bjorn last time and Pumpkinpie was not into it, this time I bought a sling and hope it works out, but they are not as snuggled then as it seems a wrap does. <BR/><BR/>And you may find, too, that E gets nugglier as she grows a bit. Pumpkinpie wasn't a snuggler when she was two-ish, but more so at three, and even more so at four. This past month, she's constantly patting, hugging, and kissing, while declaring her love and that we are her favourite people. (And yes, I am lapping it up!)<BR/><BR/>If all else fails, just think how strong your arms will be!kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-9731452653763305822008-06-21T10:05:00.000-04:002008-06-21T10:05:00.000-04:00I second and third the Moby wrap. Never could get...I second and third the Moby wrap. Never could get my kid to like a sling, but he loved the Moby, for about the first five months. I would put it on in the morning over my bra and not worry about a shirt if I were at home. Didn't need to take it off. Could put him in and out of it with ease.<BR/><BR/>Looooved it.Kimberlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18167296198042569211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65022800591515263032008-06-21T01:16:00.000-04:002008-06-21T01:16:00.000-04:00I don't think you need to switch to any other kind...I don't think you need to switch to any other kind of sling, we all end up prefering what we get used to, for me it was maya wraps but that was what I used and knew. I find the instructions here http://www.taylormadeslings.com/instructions.html to be really clear and helpful, for newborns I've always found that the vertical hold is best since it's how they usually want to be held as newborns anyways. Keep his head off your boob when you're slinging or he'll fuss and want to nurse instead of cuddling :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-88604878566090917952008-06-21T00:25:00.000-04:002008-06-21T00:25:00.000-04:00I really have no suggestions but I also have snugg...I really have no suggestions but I also have snuggler. At 9 yo she still wants to crawl back in my belly. I just enjoy it while I can, it won't last.Kim/2 Kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04207007871205869080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-89378297532434332422008-06-20T23:56:00.000-04:002008-06-20T23:56:00.000-04:00I'm sure you've had a ton of suggestions (and unfo...I'm sure you've had a ton of suggestions (and unfortunately I can't re-read all of them) but I loved my Hotsling. Buy the right size, and then no adjustment necessary. I'm *still* using it with Peanut in hip carry now.<BR/><BR/>The key is to hold him cradled in one arm, open the sling with your other hand, and then (and I know this sounds awkward) jam him in butt first. Then let his legs drop into the sling, and lastly use your other hand to help ease his head off your arm and into the sling up around your boob/shoulder area. Voila! He's in. Try it a few times in front of a mirror, it really helps.<BR/><BR/>I hope that helps. Peanut needed a lot of cuddling when she was little, although now she's quite the tornado herself.b*babblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17494191160073990465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39200533500392268362008-06-20T23:43:00.000-04:002008-06-20T23:43:00.000-04:00My snuggler loved a baby Bjorn and so did I. I us...My snuggler loved a baby Bjorn and so did I. I used it for ages. And your hands are free. Also- he used to fall asleep on top of the boppy pillow and I could sometimes slide him off my lap but still on the cushion to rest on the couch. So I could escapse to go potty or grab a snack.Annie, The Evil Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585283486191306521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80066771444546240112008-06-20T19:27:00.000-04:002008-06-20T19:27:00.000-04:00That exquisite head is worth it all, is it not?That exquisite head is worth it all, is it not?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-64554661854272303122008-06-20T18:16:00.000-04:002008-06-20T18:16:00.000-04:00I can relate. My girl never wanted to be put down ...I can relate. My girl never wanted to be put down for a second (and never wanted anyone but me to hold her). She also craved motion, and cried if I sat down (it's making me tired just to remember it!). I too could not get the sling to work in the early months, but I've heard great things about the kangaroo pouch style carriers. I couldn't find the kind I was thinking of, but check out this site, their stuff looks great and possibly easier to use than a sling? http://www.goo-ga.com/<BR/><BR/>I kept a bouncy seat in the bathroom so I could pee without holding her, lol! She still protested but at least I could get the job done. We tried getting her used to swings & bouncy seats in general, but she was not having it. She became happiest when she was old enough to ride in a Bjorn facing forward. It's an intense time, amazing closeness but can become suffocating at times. ((Hugs))Kazahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04953977625325499626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-33506741009429403352008-06-20T17:51:00.000-04:002008-06-20T17:51:00.000-04:00Email Stephanie at www.adventuresinbabywearing.com...Email Stephanie at www.adventuresinbabywearing.com<BR/><BR/>She knows more about slings than anybody else I can think of, possibly because she seems to own and have tried every style imaginable. She has plenty of information on her website and links to different websites with information as well. She also has some pictures of the different types of slings. I guess a blog based on wearing/slinging your baby would be a good place to start, right?<BR/><BR/>That's where I started when I had to choose, anyway. I think that everybody has to find the system that works best for them, but there are some great resources out there so just keep plowing ahead and you'll figure something out soon! =)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-73510301786531708952008-06-20T16:06:00.000-04:002008-06-20T16:06:00.000-04:00UGH...that brings back memories. I had some major...UGH...that brings back memories. I had some major biceps when my big bear of a son was that age. (We had to completely stop carrying him around age 4--even with a sling--because he was 60lbs and nearly 4 feet tall.)<BR/><BR/>Took us a bit of time to learn to use the sling...but it was really the only choice for my wife, because Bjorns etc. were not available for large women back then. I used a store-bought one, and she made some really interesting larger ones.<BR/><BR/>Can you find someone nearby who uses a sling and who can help you get it to work? (Try shooting an email to your local La Leche leader.)<BR/><BR/>Best of luck!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-75131160446938310232008-06-20T16:04:00.000-04:002008-06-20T16:04:00.000-04:00Probably the one true thing that Rebecca Eckler ha...Probably the one true thing that Rebecca Eckler has ever said that didn't make me throw her books across the room was that whenever she was away from Rowan, her strongest urge was to pick her up again, hold her in her arms. And then, inevitably, 10 minutes later, to be desperate to just put her down.<BR/><BR/>Dude, I've been there. I carried colicky and clingy Munchkin around nonstop for about four months. I loved it, but god, what I wouldn't do for someone else to just hold her for 10 friggin minutes, so I could stand up straight and just swing my arms ....<BR/><BR/>But oh, it's sweet to snuzzle them, isn't it?Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.com