tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post2738684246513525333..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: If Truth Is A Woman, She Wears A SkortHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-20252033156236200212007-06-25T14:05:00.000-04:002007-06-25T14:05:00.000-04:00This is the first post of yours that I have ever r...This is the first post of yours that I have ever read and I have to say that I enjoyed it.<BR/>It made me slightly uncomfortable, but that's just me and my background.<BR/>I find it interesting that so many people have had very similar experiences. <BR/>Very well written.<BR/>http://TastesLikeCrazy.blogspot.comAmy @ Taste Like Crazyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14995376153991220879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37992578301967358652007-06-24T01:44:00.000-04:002007-06-24T01:44:00.000-04:00Beautiful post -- and I would totally vote for it...Beautiful post -- and I would totally vote for it if I was smart enough to figure out how to do it.the mystichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11536278508991059301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-5569807449220335302007-06-22T16:31:00.000-04:002007-06-22T16:31:00.000-04:00uhm. i had this same experience, at about the same...uhm. i had this same experience, at about the same age too. several crucial differences. i was the one showing my parts, largely unprompted as I remember.<BR/><BR/>some things never change.gingajoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01356643079413822527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29534294111231093112007-06-21T10:26:00.000-04:002007-06-21T10:26:00.000-04:00This post brought back many memories for me, and b...This post brought back many memories for me, and brings up such wonderful food for thought.<BR/><BR/>I saw my first "dink" at a family reunion when I was about 5 or 6. And I don't recall showing my cousin anything in return. I remember immediately after seeing his goods, hearing his dad shouting his name, wondering where we were hiding. I had no time to react, and I think perhaps this experience peaked my curiosity.<BR/><BR/>In the future, all my experiences with playing doctor involved boys revealing to me, but me never revealing anything in return. This is usually how things go to this day, as a matter of fact. I'm a tease in that way.<BR/><BR/>When I remember my own experiences, it terrifies me to know it's possible (and probable) that E will have her first "show and tell" before she's 7. And of course it's this terror that has to remain secret if I'm to allow her to grow in her own way, within reason of course.Nicholehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05959914034833564529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38150932419829200582007-06-20T13:28:00.000-04:002007-06-20T13:28:00.000-04:00I should have said: *little* dinks always do. Cont...I should have said: *little* dinks always do. Contrary to what one might think.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-30265440951349604022007-06-20T13:27:00.000-04:002007-06-20T13:27:00.000-04:00Liz: dinks always do.Liz: dinks always do.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-45814497655521717402007-06-20T13:20:00.000-04:002007-06-20T13:20:00.000-04:00This reminds me of David Sedaris - in that I'm alw...This reminds me of David Sedaris - in that I'm always amazed when someone can write so beautifully and in such vivid detail of something that happened so long ago. That little dink must have made quite the impression.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-64023467931001987242007-06-20T13:08:00.000-04:002007-06-20T13:08:00.000-04:00I am reading "The Secret Lives of Girls" by Sharon...I am reading "The Secret Lives of Girls" by Sharon Lamb right now so your post is poignant and timely in my life. I am most impressed with your position of power and control in the story rather than becoming a victim. Ahh, if only we would have had "Girls Rule" t-shirts back then...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-14624443613250992612007-06-20T08:33:00.000-04:002007-06-20T08:33:00.000-04:00Lovely, perfect. And you are fortunate to have dis...Lovely, perfect. And you are fortunate to have discovered early (I'm assuming you're a young mom) one of the most destructive forces in all the world: parental fear that can alter a child's life forever.<BR/><BR/>Thus, my personal favorite line: "Fear that I'll cause her to lose that openness, because I want her, in some dark corner of my heart, to lose that openness, because I am afraid of that openness."<BR/><BR/>Looks like maybe you're a good mom after all.Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17578288091007729306noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-74690386879310755392007-06-20T05:53:00.000-04:002007-06-20T05:53:00.000-04:00Incredibly well written and thought provoking.Incredibly well written and thought provoking.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-91185811867783769472007-06-20T02:43:00.000-04:002007-06-20T02:43:00.000-04:00I never flashed my equipment to girls when I was l...I never flashed my equipment to girls when I was little.<BR/>I can't say that I knew any that did either.Creative-Type Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13594687030412942701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-29005829214284297522007-06-19T22:53:00.000-04:002007-06-19T22:53:00.000-04:00When I was four or five, my best friend felt the n...When I was four or five, my best friend felt the need to "show me his." He was very insistent on it - he really, really had to show me. So, I let him. It was boring. I didn't feel the need to show him anything back. Then I walked away.saviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08108928771098986012noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-27894721394479036852007-06-19T22:37:00.000-04:002007-06-19T22:37:00.000-04:00Julie - totally missed your comment ealier - what ...Julie - totally missed your comment ealier - what brought this to mind? Quite literally, watching Wonderbaby lift her skirt and spin in the dirt. Thoughtlessly, carelessly.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-5322008502141769392007-06-19T21:40:00.000-04:002007-06-19T21:40:00.000-04:00I like this. Very creative, very well said. Hmmm...I like this. Very creative, very well said. Hmmm.Catherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07316677018586769316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-34944958095769903932007-06-19T21:36:00.000-04:002007-06-19T21:36:00.000-04:00And as I was reading this, the radio was playing D...And as I was reading this, the radio was playing Don Henley's 'End Of Innocence'...<BR/><BR/>Lovely bit, Catherine.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17308665452575511461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-73765058158132706612007-06-19T19:02:00.000-04:002007-06-19T19:02:00.000-04:00Catherine, this is my favorite thing I've read thi...Catherine, this is my favorite thing I've read this week. It's beautifully put. <BR/>I don't know what to add, except to say that I sometimes find myself hating those same philosophers for their decrees... that it was decided long ago that our genitals would define not only who we are, but how we act, and whether we should be ashamed about showing our cleft in general.<BR/>/flag-wavingMelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07332126804455557046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80815416835640830122007-06-19T16:20:00.000-04:002007-06-19T16:20:00.000-04:00Ah, HBM, such a tease! ;)Ah, HBM, such a tease! ;)Damselflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00139191935886860839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-48231758516671630382007-06-19T15:46:00.000-04:002007-06-19T15:46:00.000-04:00Personally, I always prefer to lift my shirt. Alt...Personally, I always prefer to lift my shirt. Although, I guess after breastfeeding two kids, no one really wants to see what is under there.<BR/>I love that you were expecting something different. My son always seems to think that a "gina" is just another version of a tushy, so I bet he'll be awfully surprised some day when he's seven and he plays doctor.<BR/>Lovely language.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39575465548672156272007-06-19T14:04:00.000-04:002007-06-19T14:04:00.000-04:00MGM - I should have said in this post that I had a...MGM - I should have said in this post that I had already seen wee dinkies many a time - my cousin's, to be exact (my age, and a close companion, we shared many a bath). So it was no surprise. I suppose I was maybe expecting to see something different, something new. <BR/><BR/>But then again, don't we always?Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-41468027852011155872007-06-19T13:20:00.000-04:002007-06-19T13:20:00.000-04:00I didn't even know about penises until Jr. High.Go...I didn't even know about penises until Jr. High.<BR/>Goes to show how often I played with boys.moosh in indy.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12077275788790896224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-41718698493329857402007-06-19T13:18:00.000-04:002007-06-19T13:18:00.000-04:00I love this, it's a great post. Very insightful.N...I love this, it's a great post. Very insightful.<BR/><BR/>Now me, I not only showed, I initiated. Gotta love 7 year olds who play doctor with the neighbor boy. But to me, it was never a big deal, never scary nor odd, just normal I guess. <BR/><BR/>By the way, I adore the picture of Wonder Baby from Sunday.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780589302319316351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-46731075960002769442007-06-19T12:18:00.000-04:002007-06-19T12:18:00.000-04:00Mimi,I wouldn't characterize Catherine's writing a...Mimi,<BR/><BR/>I wouldn't characterize Catherine's writing as the product of an overthinker. I think that it shows a mind that confronts memory and the present in a splendid synthesis. Her narrative makes me think, unlike what I usually read in The Globe and Mail. It's a tonic, filled with the joy of living and being conscious of it. It's all a matter of choices, innit?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-62752182034330363482007-06-19T12:06:00.000-04:002007-06-19T12:06:00.000-04:00Written like a true overthinker. Seriously. Hm. ...Written like a true overthinker. Seriously. Hm. I hadn't quite considered whether I care too much about my loss of lack of care. But of course you're right. I was always, though, very protective of my skirt and what was under it (a fundamentally timid child) and have learned to care less. Because I care to make myself not care? <BR/><BR/>But I love the baby skirt hoisting. The baby belly smacking. Love it.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-76566456098643288752007-06-19T11:58:00.000-04:002007-06-19T11:58:00.000-04:00I don't think I ever 'shared' as a child... Seems...I don't think I ever 'shared' as a child... Seems odd, now that I think about it.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-63019924498223200792007-06-19T11:20:00.000-04:002007-06-19T11:20:00.000-04:00I think I would have been traumatized for life if ...I think I would have been traumatized for life if I'd seen a dink at that age.<BR/><BR/>And you don't want to be too careless, especially if there are cameras around. Ask Britney.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com