tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post2325982827692896159..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Falling Out Of TreesHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39011907114752987342008-04-26T01:53:00.000-04:002008-04-26T01:53:00.000-04:00New to your blog, so have just read the initial po...New to your blog, so have just read the initial post. Wow - so powerfully written. It will stay with me for a long time. Your blog always makes me think...even in the wee small hours as I read blogs and hear my family waking up. <BR/><BR/>I would love to think I could be so open and honest with my kids, but I think I would be too scared to...yet I think being so open and honest is the best gift we can share with our kids.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for making me think (I think!).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06833388514253606318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49798728609170420262008-04-25T03:18:00.000-04:002008-04-25T03:18:00.000-04:00"making a choice that I still regret to the very b..."making a choice that I still regret to the very bottom of my soul and yet do not regret at all"<BR/><BR/>i could never think of a better way ti explain how it feels.<BR/><BR/>i remember reading the initial post, and i wasn't brave enough to say anything. so, now? i want to make sure that i say thank you.<BR/><BR/>thank you, thank you, thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-22351145511430121462008-04-21T19:59:00.000-04:002008-04-21T19:59:00.000-04:00thank you for opening up to this. You know this s...thank you for opening up to this. You know this story needed to be told because there are some of us who HAVE understanding because we've been there and there are some of us who NEED understanding because we haven't.<BR/>Your truth can guide both sides of that...~Kat~https://www.blogger.com/profile/13910327288366042238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-23434514159940094972008-04-21T16:54:00.000-04:002008-04-21T16:54:00.000-04:00I don't know that it's about bad versus good. Not...I don't know that it's about bad versus good. Not when it comes to small kids. I think kids make bad judgment calls sometimes. I was a pretty dam nice and kind kid the majority of the time (baby brother teasing aside), but I once did something similar to what you did and I have no idea why. But I was six years old and kids don't always understand consequences like we do as adults. Last year my niece didn't help out her baby sister when she was in pain and we were all worried what might be wrong with her emotionally. In reality, she just hadn't ever been in a situation like that and kind of froze instead of getting an adult. When she realized that she might be in trouble, she hid. Not what an adult would do at all, but right on par for a five year old.<BR/><BR/>That all being said, I think you'd be better off to tell WB your story, when you feel the timing is right. Maybe just so when she's an adult, if she's done something like this, she won't feel ashamed to tell. Maybe knowing she wasn't the only one will take away the shame. The shame is what I think makes us not share certain stories. Maybe I'm wrong in that, but that's what I think anyway.Phoenixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10780589302319316351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-77203076065128675472008-04-21T10:02:00.000-04:002008-04-21T10:02:00.000-04:00Wonderful post. And I agree with so many others th...Wonderful post. And I agree with so many others that stories that don't have an apparent reason behind them are still very valuable. The point of sharing them is to show that you are human and you make mistakes and are still a good person.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37091658260457239442008-04-20T20:23:00.000-04:002008-04-20T20:23:00.000-04:00This is one of the deepest quandries for parents, ...This is one of the deepest quandries for parents, one that is decided when we decide if we are parents, or friends, or mates of the soul. And we are all these things at different times, which is why it's so difficult to choose just one answer, one resolve. Nicely written. Intriguing, too.Woman in a Windowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14747858840088922077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-54724559417418908812008-04-20T18:50:00.000-04:002008-04-20T18:50:00.000-04:00I hope I'm brave enough to admit my frailties so m...I hope I'm brave enough to admit my frailties so my kids can learn from my mistakes. Thank you for sharing, definitely makes me think about what I would share and say.Angelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03298099759296161682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-25399749196442611022008-04-20T12:04:00.000-04:002008-04-20T12:04:00.000-04:00Suebob - that's exactly the kind of story that is ...Suebob - that's exactly the kind of story that is so tricky. Where wrong maybe turns out right, for someone. But where there's still a wrong involved, one that can't be erased.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-38159839657924940422008-04-19T20:02:00.000-04:002008-04-19T20:02:00.000-04:00In my wildest daydream fantasies...* I sing like P...In my wildest daydream fantasies...<BR/><BR/>* I sing like Paul Stanley<BR/>* I compose like Arthur Honegger<BR/>* I teach like Charles Ruggiero<BR/>* I write like HBM<BR/><BR/>I recognize of course the importance of individuality and being happy with who you are. Still...you do give me something to aspire to. Thank you.Animalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14011608269211715910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37942655546135059122008-04-19T17:20:00.000-04:002008-04-19T17:20:00.000-04:00I think they are perhaps the most important storie...I think they are perhaps the most important stories with the risk that perhaps there is no moral to the story, no happy ending either way.<BR/>I've been thinking about your last post on your story and how you really didn't feel you had any other choice. I grew up feeling the opposite way, yet both of us believe we should have the choice.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Ps your titty shot on redneck's site is wic.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-58902588175031073022008-04-19T15:25:00.000-04:002008-04-19T15:25:00.000-04:00I love the part about how much guilt you feel so m...I love the part about how much guilt you feel so many years after. It's like the heat that still rises to my cheeks when I think of some of the idiotic things I did in the past. It's real and it effects you for life. Strange, isn't it?Mrs. Flingerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05709633089269330834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-92054038609738262482008-04-19T13:44:00.000-04:002008-04-19T13:44:00.000-04:00Why did I do it?That's the question I'll struggle ...Why did I do it?<BR/><BR/>That's the question I'll struggle with myself when I share those stories in years to come.Julie Marshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05386446012443269817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-87265284506381652572008-04-18T22:35:00.000-04:002008-04-18T22:35:00.000-04:00I was with some friends when their son, who was ab...I was with some friends when their son, who was about 11 at the time, asked about their first date. My friend truthfully told that she had been married when she went out for the first time with her now-second husband and son's father. He said "But you aren't supposed to go out with other people when you are married." She said "Yes, I suppose that was wrong of me. But we don't always do the right thing, and sometimes it works out ok in the end." I was amazed that she would be so honest.SUEB0Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16301963922769609715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53406050274707181742008-04-18T21:49:00.000-04:002008-04-18T21:49:00.000-04:00I covet your courage. Brilliant. Inspiring. The te...I covet your courage. Brilliant. Inspiring. The tears have never been so thick, so large. Thank you for sharing.Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13494610442275567164noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-63149483555968231312008-04-18T21:42:00.000-04:002008-04-18T21:42:00.000-04:00I guess I've never really thought about the storie...I guess I've never really thought about the stories I wouldn't share with my kids. That's powerful stuff.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-42566951787750376782008-04-18T20:57:00.000-04:002008-04-18T20:57:00.000-04:00This was a powerful post, thank you for sharing. I...This was a powerful post, thank you for sharing. <BR/><BR/>I keep telling myself I'm going to share everything, it'll just be age appropriate. But at the same time I think it'll have a lot to do with my two boys and their individual personalities. I agree with Redneck Mommy, I like the idea of them knowing that I have many sides to the whole.Dawn Johnson Warrenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17384705577929824190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39486809535746815742008-04-18T19:45:00.000-04:002008-04-18T19:45:00.000-04:00I often wonder just what stories I should and shou...I often wonder just what stories I should and shouldn't share.<BR/><BR/>I'm torn between filtering too much and filtering too little.<BR/><BR/>I want them to know me. Not just mom, but Redneck and Tanis and everything that falls in between.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-79421767238760589682008-04-18T18:05:00.000-04:002008-04-18T18:05:00.000-04:00I think that story from your childhood may come in...I think that story from your childhood may come in handy when your daughter is a parent. Her own child my do something inexplicable that she doesn't know how to handle as a mother. Kids sometimes do mean things just to feel out the limits of what they should and shouldn't do.<BR/><BR/>I can't think of anything I wouldn't tell my daughter in the right time and context.Steph(anie)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01345590378662641435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-64706972317797744162008-04-18T17:44:00.000-04:002008-04-18T17:44:00.000-04:00Really an incredible post, thank you.Really an incredible post, thank you.Fran Loosenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13901936001658736763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16591049725709493472008-04-18T14:38:00.000-04:002008-04-18T14:38:00.000-04:00Wow indeed. And what a great point that most stori...Wow indeed. And what a great point that most stories can be great teaching points... but some... are just... I don't know... I guess not worth sharing. <BR/><BR/>I will be thinking about mine, but I'll bet I've blocked most of them out.caramamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02327695885346537321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-43877910506068609272008-04-18T14:20:00.000-04:002008-04-18T14:20:00.000-04:00The story about being a mean child, even if only f...The story about being a mean child, even if only for a moment, would be something to share when she makes a good choice in a hard situation. Or when she is confused about what IS the right thing to do. Or, can be used to show that Mommy is NOT perfect, and that small decisions like letting go of a hand CAN haunt you for the rest of your life. Also, that even people who make deliberately mean choices can change. They can feel remorse, and become a good person.tracey.becker1@gmail.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09606831315390042198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-71305894201200737912008-04-18T13:03:00.000-04:002008-04-18T13:03:00.000-04:00Oh, you hit it right on the head: I'll tell prett...Oh, you hit it right on the head: I'll tell pretty much any story as long as it has purpose or meaning or something ... more to it. No postmodernist, I like things with a beginning, a middle, and an end: when is Godot going to show up? It can't be about nothing: I mean, in some ways, having children is about denying that there's more than just ... what it is.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10812707312289852258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-37646924749256618402008-04-18T12:23:00.000-04:002008-04-18T12:23:00.000-04:00Your courage and the honesty with which you write ...Your courage and the honesty with which you write continues to be an inspiration. WB is lucky to have a mom who can articulate such difficult thoughts and emotions so well. I think the stories that you have shared with us today demonstrate that we are not defined by single events in our lives, but that it is the culmination of the choices that we make and how we deal with the consequence of those choices that makes us who we are. Letting your friend fall did not make you mean or evil. What did you do after she fell? did you apologize? You feel remorse and shame, did you do it again or learn from your actions? That is what defines you more than a lapse in judgement. We are all human and therefore imperfect, which may be the best lesson for WB to learn. Perfection is impossible attain and trying to be perfect can make a person miserable if they constantly strive for something that is unattainable. HUGS to you and WB.<BR/><BR/>PS. I know you do not want comments from yesterday but do not feel guilty for not leaving comments. I left only 2 anonymous comments in 15 months before delurking last week and am sure there are many other lurkers that appreciate your wisdom.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-26440718578600215282008-04-18T12:01:00.000-04:002008-04-18T12:01:00.000-04:00Wow. I think that will be the first word in most ...Wow. I think that will be the first word in most comments on this post. The honesty and self-reflection in this post is awe inspiring. It made me think of the stories I don't want my children to know, the ones I don't want to even acknowledge to myself.CPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07841906187579085920noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-39854979877793457892008-04-18T11:52:00.000-04:002008-04-18T11:52:00.000-04:00Wow, Bad. This post just did me in. So honest, t...Wow, Bad. This post just did me in. So honest, thoughtful, true.<BR/><BR/>Thank you.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05602868040771218507noreply@blogger.com