tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post1852373342323764152..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Bad Mother BluesHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-72676544228811494662008-04-16T17:29:00.000-04:002008-04-16T17:29:00.000-04:00Those last few weeks are horrid, aren't they? Gla...Those last few weeks are horrid, aren't they? Glaring at strangers in the supermarket who were giving me "Oh, how lovely, you're pregnant!" looks made me feel better. Stupid and petty, I know, but true. So did brownies, and one of those rice bag things you can microwave and then put on your back. You're doing a great job. Eat some brownies. Try to cut yourself some slack.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-49497735102761430632008-04-15T13:27:00.000-04:002008-04-15T13:27:00.000-04:00Thank God for Dora... You're a great Mom, that nee...Thank God for Dora... You're a great Mom, that needs a break. Hope you're doing better today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-4676320264235185332008-04-15T12:07:00.000-04:002008-04-15T12:07:00.000-04:00UGH. I am 38 weeks pg and if I have to take one mo...UGH. I am 38 weeks pg and if I have to take one more hike in the woods to look for tigers, I am going to leave a small someone there.<BR/><BR/>Not really.<BR/><BR/>His energy makes me SO TIRED. SO TIRED. I can get about half an hour of TV, then it's all over and running must happen.<BR/><BR/>Cheer up, the babies HAVE to come out soon, right?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-19169879763766603162008-04-14T23:47:00.000-04:002008-04-14T23:47:00.000-04:00You're so almost there, Catherine. Hang in there. ...You're so almost there, Catherine. Hang in there. It gets better when the new one arrives. I remember these feeling well. Dora is YOUR FRIEND. Rest....Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-53199189519449471382008-04-14T11:26:00.000-04:002008-04-14T11:26:00.000-04:00oh HBM have i been there self-loathing exhausted n...oh HBM have i been there self-loathing exhausted nothing going right days.and darling toddlers can really wear one down.but you are a great mum and tomorrow will be a better day. LAVANDULAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-74678825499566156762008-04-14T00:05:00.000-04:002008-04-14T00:05:00.000-04:00I ditto Finding Nemo. You're doing a great job.I ditto Finding Nemo. You're doing a great job.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80101950437266588272008-04-13T17:47:00.000-04:002008-04-13T17:47:00.000-04:00Oh man.You DON'T have to say how much you love the...Oh man.<BR/><BR/>You DON'T have to say how much you love them.<BR/><BR/>The fact that you didn't run, naked and screaming from the house is evidence enough.<BR/><BR/>I'm using the term run loosely, you know, for the bigly pregnant.the new girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02947910641549198688noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-86055266871506664082008-04-13T14:18:00.000-04:002008-04-13T14:18:00.000-04:00Wow. I could have posted this... right down to Dor...Wow. I could have posted this... right down to Dora as my final hope. <BR/><BR/>Somewhere along the way I picked up the idea that being a "good mom" means that not only will I be good at it, but that I should enjoy it too. Only, not so much sometimes, you know? <BR/><BR/>I probably spend a bit too much time playing the "what the hell was I thinking / how did I get here" game. Usually somewhere around the 4th hour of a never-ending tea party or picking playdough out of my hair.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, thanks for the co-miserying.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-27039075437282268902008-04-13T02:21:00.000-04:002008-04-13T02:21:00.000-04:00You are NOT a bad mother.I let my son watch too mu...You are NOT a bad mother.<BR/><BR/>I let my son watch too much TV at least one day a week, and I'm not even pregnant.<BR/><BR/>Older siblings have had to put up with exhausted cranky pregnant mothers since the dawn of time, and yet oldest children still wind up with superior IQ scores and leadership skills. So it can't be too permanently devastating to have one's mother's attention diverted by the creation/arrival of a sibling. <BR/><BR/>(If that were the case then I, as the oldest of three kids, separated from my sister by less than two years, and subjected to a younger brother right as I hit puberty, would probably be much more of a basketcase than I am.)<BR/><BR/>I'm sorry you're having to put up with so many tantrums, though. I wish I could watch Wonderbaby for you for three hours so you could take a nap.Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-86714414991165817462008-04-13T01:05:00.000-04:002008-04-13T01:05:00.000-04:00I just want to point out that all those times you ...I just want to point out that all those times you were able to do everything WB wanted to do and going above and beyond the call of motherhood because you love her so much — those times are like redeemable tokens for the times, like now, in which you're feeling so bad about not being able to such things. Pop in a DVD — hell, have your husband pick up an armful from Blockbuster or Target or whatever and let her revel in the joy of something new and exciting while you take a much-needed rest. I promise she won't hold it against you when she's 25. Hang in there :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-64356774703535133022008-04-13T00:55:00.000-04:002008-04-13T00:55:00.000-04:00I don't know which is worse kids at 3 or teenagers...I don't know which is worse kids at 3 or teenagers...I have both. Arghhhh...Hanging in there. Before you know it your children will have thier own and all you have to do is spoil your grandchildren and it's payback time...LOLAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-80194076756212383572008-04-12T23:44:00.000-04:002008-04-12T23:44:00.000-04:00I just have one thing to say, thank god for TV. I...I just have one thing to say, thank god for TV. I remember when my girls first noticed ads on TV and wanted everything they saw. Mommy, I want the pregnant transexual barbie, I want the carcinogen laden Froot Loops and I want to lumber in the flame inducing pajamas.<BR/><BR/>Just enjoy an afternoon of TV and deal with the repercussions later.Kim/2 Kidshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04207007871205869080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-34074223360391779252008-04-12T17:45:00.000-04:002008-04-12T17:45:00.000-04:00Our 2 year old loves books on tape...Winnie the Po...Our 2 year old loves books on tape...Winnie the Pooh. We make a nest on the floor of pillows and blankets and turn on the CD. She will lay there for more than an hour just listening and making up the visual story in her own mind. She often asks for this and it holds her attention for longer than a animated video. 'Just an example of something that works for us to buy the adults a little down time. It is exhausting to be responsible for the saftey of a toddler 24/7 especially when you are feeling tired and close to overwhelmed. There is a fine line between challenged and overwhelmed. Use every tool available to you to reduce the frequency of feeling overwhelmed. Make a list of, and call in, the reinforcements. You have to take care of yourself before you are any good for anyone else. That is hard to do when you are ultimately responsible for the safety of an active toddler. Do you have anyone you can call to spell you off? I find people are basically good and they want to help you if you ask for it. I do think there is a reluctance to involve yourself with other people's children so that means you are going to have to ask, instead of waiting for people to offer. Do you have a list of paid personnel, babysitters, who can come over and do some kind of activities that she likes such as playing, crafts, baking, anything where they run the session, and clean it up, so you can do whatever you need to recharge your batteries. A friend once told me you are a pitcher of juice and every time you do something for someone you pour out a glass of juice and that's okay, and you can do that ALL DAY LONG just as long as you remember NEVER to pour out the last glass before you make more juice. Taking care of yourself is making more juice. You need some down time. It's not a crime, its normal. Give yourself permission to take it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-65697325390295187902008-04-12T16:15:00.000-04:002008-04-12T16:15:00.000-04:00Honey, you're not a bad mother, you're a human bei...Honey, you're not a bad mother, you're a human being. I tired, hugely pregnant human being. with a toddler. Of course you are tired and want to plug her into something so you can rest. Do NOT make this about you being a bad mother, because it's not that at all. It's about meeting the most basic of need right now, and as long as she's fed and occasionally bathed, you're doing fine. It'll get better later, and she'll have lived.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-6809761013548390842008-04-12T12:19:00.000-04:002008-04-12T12:19:00.000-04:00Oy, Catherine. We've all been there, you're in the...Oy, Catherine. We've all been there, you're in the worst of it now. Seriously. I hope Dora did the trick, and if it didn't, may I suggest, if you get it, the entire viewing lineup of Noggin. There's bound to be something in there she likes. It saved my sorry, tired ass numerous times.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16173114142826196492008-04-12T12:09:00.000-04:002008-04-12T12:09:00.000-04:00Oh honey. I know.And the damn weather. But there i...Oh honey. I know.<BR/><BR/>And the damn weather. But there is tonight, tonight will be fun.crazymummahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04663148723513574331noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-70698875385113721882008-04-12T11:33:00.000-04:002008-04-12T11:33:00.000-04:00One day last year, I think, BubTar said, "Hey Mom,...One day last year, I think, BubTar said, "Hey Mom, remember that time I was SO hungry and you wouldn't get me a snack? You said, 'No, I just want to lay down and rest right now.'"<BR/><BR/>And I said, "No, I don't remember that...when was it?"<BR/><BR/>And he said, "When you were SO BIG with a KayTar in your belly."<BR/><BR/>And I thought, that explains it. It is hard to be miserably pregnant and keeping up with a toddler. But it gets easier soon. It does.Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03311014761113076785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-62669889982019929712008-04-12T10:31:00.000-04:002008-04-12T10:31:00.000-04:00Hang in there, this to shall pass. I find that ch...Hang in there, this to shall pass. I find that chocolate peanutbutter swirl ice cream with M&M on top helps.Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08547213725995448861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-15253042325225478292008-04-11T23:30:00.000-04:002008-04-11T23:30:00.000-04:00I'm hoping that little Dora worked her charm so yo...I'm hoping that little Dora worked her charm so you could get a little downtime.the mama bird diarieshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04248352454666306821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-51954291578779758422008-04-11T22:11:00.000-04:002008-04-11T22:11:00.000-04:00We all have those days. Today is particularly poi...We all have those days. Today is particularly poignant for me in that regard, as my daughter will be two tomorrow -- and two years ago today I was sooo tired, and sooo uncomfortable, and sooo convinced that adding another child to the household that contained my son was crazy. And then tomorrow happened -- and the world was beautiful in my daughter's eyes.<BR/><BR/>Although I know you are not due tomorrow, you will most certainly have a pair of beautiful eyes to look into soon. And today's feelings are normal. And so are tomorrow's. And that's what being a mother means.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there.<BR/><BR/>And rely on Dora (or the Backyardigans!) as much as you need to right now.MommyTimehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860003098383600806noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-16060965416307134032008-04-11T22:08:00.000-04:002008-04-11T22:08:00.000-04:00wow, it's good to hear that I'm not alone. I have ...wow, it's good to hear that I'm not alone. I have 2 1/2 year old boy and I'm 8 months prego with twin girls. We went to the park today and now tonight my body feels like I just got back from a fight club session. I have started to have groceries delivered. Good luck to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-31082045168392592932008-04-11T21:40:00.000-04:002008-04-11T21:40:00.000-04:00Dora saved my butt more times than I care to count...Dora saved my butt more times than I care to count when I was on bedrest for the last 2 months of my 2nd pregnancy. She was the only thing that kept my hyperactive 4 year old entertained. I hope she worked for you today! Sending sleepytime vibes to your little one, along with "stop beating yourself up with the guilts" vibes to you. You're a great mom and we all know it, even if you doubt it today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-74761708651391447232008-04-11T21:27:00.000-04:002008-04-11T21:27:00.000-04:00You might be on to something there - perhaps world...You might be on to something there - perhaps world peace could be found if we harnessed the power of the toddlers and use them to threaten any resistance to peace, love, and nappingness.motherbumperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16053978199395919666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-32246805872175250812008-04-11T20:09:00.000-04:002008-04-11T20:09:00.000-04:00Poor baby. Hope Dora worked.Poor baby. Hope Dora worked.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-21729810853283522992008-04-11T19:38:00.000-04:002008-04-11T19:38:00.000-04:00Tranq dart, my eye. It's called Benadryl.I'm only...Tranq dart, my eye. It's called Benadryl.<BR/><BR/>I'm only joking.<BR/><BR/>Kind of.<BR/><BR/>Maybe.Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17691876103706372760noreply@blogger.com