tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post116883372513032034..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: And then came the awkward silence...Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1169001332161026232007-01-16T21:35:00.000-05:002007-01-16T21:35:00.000-05:00Sleepless?? Welcome to the party (you know, the on...Sleepless?? Welcome to the party (you know, the one where you'd really like to pay attention but you totally can't keep your eyes open??). My first son started sleeping through the night (really, not that technical 5 hour crap) when he turned 2. He still wakes about once a night, tho now he doesn't really need us. Son #2 is 16 months, had a few spurts of sleeping through, but is up at least 2x a night still. LAtest development? He wants daddy ONLY at night. Bothersome? Kind of - since I can't soothe him, nice since I don't have to always get up. <BR/>I bring him (baby, not hubby) back to bed with me in the middle of the night sometimes. Doesn't bother me at all, but hubby has a hard time sleeping with him there. Figure it can't last forever - I keep reminding myself that when they're teenagers we'll get to wake them up!!! <BR/>Hang in there!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168993945708389552007-01-16T19:32:00.000-05:002007-01-16T19:32:00.000-05:00I haven't read through all the comments, though I ...I haven't read through all the comments, though I should in case someone has a brilliant idea about the sleep thing. We're hurting here, too. Does sleep-deprived-lunacy like company? If so, here I am. <BR/><BR/>As for Britney, well, I guess we're just going to have to see how it ends (oh god, please let this end!) to know which mask she'll be wearing.mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01804113244825043303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168993332004297552007-01-16T19:22:00.000-05:002007-01-16T19:22:00.000-05:00I hear you on needing some more sleep! As for tod...I hear you on needing some more sleep! As for today's 'hot topics'...<BR/><BR/>1. Well, you might consider knocking out the nap if it's not working. Might get her to sleep through the night...? <BR/><BR/>2. Nope. I refused to co-sleep. MF had to be able to put himself to sleep and sleep by himself. Otherwise, I figured we were all screwed. But that's just me.<BR/><BR/>3. Liquor! Well, for you. Sadly, I'm still pregnant. (out!out!)<BR/><BR/>4. Both. A constant trainwreck - of a train full of clowns.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168991243357879772007-01-16T18:47:00.000-05:002007-01-16T18:47:00.000-05:00I have the 1am problem too. "Put the boob in or I...I have the 1am problem too. "Put the boob in or I'll go nutso on you by ramming my head into my crib rails again and again!" Then again at 3am and 5am. I have a 14 month old newborn, that throws fits in the night. By day, perfect angel!<BR/><BR/>I am sorry I have no advice as I am in the same sorry boat!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168988310187235692007-01-16T17:58:00.000-05:002007-01-16T17:58:00.000-05:00And if that doesn't force out the lurkers I don't ...And if that doesn't force out the lurkers I don't know what will :)Scribbithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03178711182424809035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168987551214281412007-01-16T17:45:00.000-05:002007-01-16T17:45:00.000-05:00I wish I'd never have sleep. I would get so much d...I wish I'd never have sleep. I would get so much done...<BR/><BR/>Britney is on crack.Creative-Type Dadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13594687030412942701noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168987231126623622007-01-16T17:40:00.001-05:002007-01-16T17:40:00.001-05:00I thought I had the sleeping thing down until last...I thought I had the sleeping thing down until last night. (The canines are coming! The canines are coming!) I'm thinking pills plus booze. One for you, the other for the kid.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168987207018579812007-01-16T17:40:00.000-05:002007-01-16T17:40:00.000-05:00I got nothin' on the sleep issue. But tragedy. All...I got nothin' on the sleep issue. <BR/><BR/>But tragedy. All the way. Shakespearean levels. Poor Brit-Brit, and worse off, Bit-Bit, her dog. I can't even get into her kids or I'll cry.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168985887227530892007-01-16T17:18:00.000-05:002007-01-16T17:18:00.000-05:00This is my first ever comment on a blog! Wow!As fo...This is my first ever comment on a blog! Wow!<BR/>As for sleep deprivation, well, I have a 5 yr old daughter who sleeps as soon as you put her in her bed, and an almost 3 yr old daughter who is driving me insane and turning me into a totally bad mother - I try being gentle like her doctor suggested, but that doesn't work at all. It's only when I get really angry (shouting in a whisper so as not to wake her sister) that she stops squawking. It was 10pm tonight when the screaming stopped. She won't nap at all here at home and is currently a truly Terrible Two.<BR/>Can't think what would help me, other than 2 weeks' holiday with no kids in some kind of spa resort. Can't bear alcohol, Squawker won't accept anything resembling warm milk, baths make no difference, we've used a routine since she was born and just have to face it that she's hideous about sleeping (and eating vegetables, not getting her way...*sigh*).<BR/>Am seriously praying that things will improve when she turns 3 in April!<BR/>Love this blog - makes me feel less evil, less of a failure!<BR/>Hope I'm not too late to avoid the brimstone and fire promised to undelurked lurkers!<BR/>Kirsty<BR/>British living in the south of FranceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168975081854739812007-01-16T14:18:00.000-05:002007-01-16T14:18:00.000-05:00The sleep thing - one of those "it depends" items ...The sleep thing - one of those "it depends" items - depends on their temperament, depends on the developmental stage, depends on whether the Canucks make the playoffs. <BR/><BR/>I read recently that half of toddlers are still not sleeping through the night - that can be ENcouraging or DIScouraging!<BR/><BR/>Monkeygirl started waking up again once a night recently and I have been working at that. YMMV, etc. I go in and pat her and reassure her and tell her that it is still sleep time. I don't pick her up. I then wait five minutes and go in again and do the same thing. You get the picture. It took initially three nights and then she was fine. The most she cried was for 25 minutes.<BR/><BR/>The whole idea is to reassure them that you are there while also helping them get themselves to sleep. Monkeygirl REALLY wanted to nurse still and it was all about cuddling rather than hunger or thirst. <BR/><BR/>It's explained better in Harvey Karp's toddler book (he of the 5 s's). I also really like Ann Douglas' Sleep Solutions book. Both carry you through toddlerhood. The former has other topics in addition to sleep.<BR/><BR/>Good luck HBM - I know you will figure out the right formula for Wonderbaby. We are all just feeling around in the dark.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03185856683761789420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168971952000651162007-01-16T13:25:00.000-05:002007-01-16T13:25:00.000-05:00This *is* a fun party.1)Baby 1 slept through the n...This *is* a fun party.<BR/>1)Baby 1 slept through the night on his own; Baby 2 not sleeping through night, so what I thought was *my* good technique, clearly isn't.<BR/>2) I can't co-sleep either.<BR/>3) Warm bath--who has time for that?<BR/>4) Britney was a comedy until kids became involved.Mommy-Like Dayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04549962058495476502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168967874551176472007-01-16T12:17:00.000-05:002007-01-16T12:17:00.000-05:00I read all the comments hoping for answers... Jake...I read all the comments hoping for answers... Jake goes to sleep after the "routine" then around 2:30am realizes he is alone and makes a beeline for the parental bed.<BR/>Where he stays because we are MUCH to tired to argue.<BR/>I figure... he won't want to do that when he's a sullen teenager... so I'll tough it out.<BR/><BR/>britney? Poor babies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168964176591441632007-01-16T11:16:00.000-05:002007-01-16T11:16:00.000-05:001) Stop trying. Be content (and ENFORCE) that she...1) Stop trying. Be content (and ENFORCE) that she is in her room and relatively quiet during set hours. Sleep will come when it will.<BR/><BR/>2) See above. Purchase earplugs to drown out sorrowful weeping/vengeful howls of rage. She'll settle after a bit.<BR/><BR/>3) Alcohol. Definately alcohol.<BR/><BR/>4) Unfathomable mystery.MrsEvilGeniushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02222509804838734889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168955882657444372007-01-16T08:58:00.000-05:002007-01-16T08:58:00.000-05:00Britney Spears is a tragedy that makes me laugh. S...Britney Spears is a tragedy that makes me laugh. Sorry I've been scarce lately. Sick as a dog. I'm better now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168923638051498012007-01-16T00:00:00.000-05:002007-01-16T00:00:00.000-05:00Hmmm.... Britney Spears, comedy or tragedy? Excell...Hmmm.... Britney Spears, comedy or tragedy? Excellent question.... Well, as always, you got me thinkin'! ;)Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168917750458317002007-01-15T22:22:00.000-05:002007-01-15T22:22:00.000-05:00Mmmmm? What happened? Did I miss the party?Mmmmm? What happened? Did I miss the party?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168917633897201982007-01-15T22:20:00.000-05:002007-01-15T22:20:00.000-05:001. Am kidless, and will accordingly save ass-vice...1. Am kidless, and will accordingly save ass-vice to the people who can more appropriately give it. <BR/>2. Am not so big a jerk as to have laughed at the Hi! Cat! part. Definitely not. Have you tried the kick husband to take over method?<BR/>3. All four.<BR/>4. A little from Column A, a little from column B.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168915988084224972007-01-15T21:53:00.000-05:002007-01-15T21:53:00.000-05:00I'm about as far from a granola-vegan-nature perso...I'm about as far from a granola-vegan-nature person as you can get, but the only sleep-aid that truly works for me is a huge cup of chamomile tea with a teaspoon of vanilla (non-alcohol kind is fine.) Go figure.<BR/><BR/>(I seemed to have totally missed de-lurking week, as I do most things...)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168906241802205112007-01-15T19:10:00.000-05:002007-01-15T19:10:00.000-05:00Don't remember if I delurked before, and I guess t...Don't remember if I delurked before, and I guess technically it isn't true delurking because I've posted before, but hi! I can only have sympathy for the sleep problems but no solutions, because when you take reflux out of the equation my monsters are great sleepers, as long as I wear them out during the day. Sunny does still do nightime visits, but I just pick her up and put her back in her bed and she goes right down. On the rare occasion that doesn't work, I just go sleep in her bed. My SIL has resorted to benadryl after a particularly bad week, though. Your choice who you give it to.<BR/><BR/>Definitely a tragedy for Britney.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168903687133481862007-01-15T18:28:00.000-05:002007-01-15T18:28:00.000-05:00Hello Bad Mama! Or is it Professor Bad Maam?Hello Bad Mama! Or is it Professor Bad Maam?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168901213121787202007-01-15T17:46:00.000-05:002007-01-15T17:46:00.000-05:00Oh, poor Britney Spears. Clearly a tragedy. That...Oh, poor Britney Spears. Clearly a tragedy. That girl just needs a friend to shake her.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168900401197464752007-01-15T17:33:00.000-05:002007-01-15T17:33:00.000-05:00De-lurking to share my sympathy and to say that we...De-lurking to share my sympathy and to say that we suffered through the wake-up-in-the-middle-of-the-night-thing with my first. Finally, after several weeks of mommy not sleeping (and snarling at my husband every time he looked at me), my husband turned off the monitor after I had fallen asleep and shut our bedroom door. I woke up in the morning sure that the Noodle had slept through the night. In actuality, she had been up screaming for about 45 minutes (according to The Husband, who had felt so much guilt and apprehension that HE couldn't sleep) and I had slept right on through it. I was pissed as hell at The Husband, but at least I was well-rested (and far, far easier to be around.) The next night, she screamed for about half and hour, the next night, for an hour and then....(drum roll please) not at all. I'm not advocating this method necessarily, but it worked for us.<BR/>Brittany Spears: tragedy. Who, as someone else said, cracks my shit up.NoodleMonkeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09824544045755442491noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168899055015799342007-01-15T17:10:00.000-05:002007-01-15T17:10:00.000-05:00my only suggestions in the baby sleep department a...my only suggestions in the baby sleep department are prayer and childcare. <BR/>for #3 I promote all of the above<BR/>Spears I will have to ponder a little longer. We don't sleep much around here either. My first thought was both.moplanshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16998309937928231527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168898310373756512007-01-15T16:58:00.000-05:002007-01-15T16:58:00.000-05:00I'd leave a witty comment about exhaustion, but I'...I'd leave a witty comment about exhaustion, but I'm just too exhausted. Seriously.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1168895701049347692007-01-15T16:15:00.000-05:002007-01-15T16:15:00.000-05:00Delurking again... a new record!I say hot milk for...Delurking again... a new record!<BR/><BR/>I say hot milk for mama, and a shot of something stronger for the baby :)<BR/><BR/>I am impressed that the swearing is <I>sotto voce</I>. I have to admit that if my baby were to start speaking tomorrow, her first words would likely not be as benign as mama, dada or cat... It is amazing what several nights of little-to-no sleep will turn you into :)<BR/><BR/>Oh, and Britney - definitely a tragi-comedy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com