tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post116568462175569550..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Another View of Distance...Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1166023724288774532006-12-13T10:28:00.000-05:002006-12-13T10:28:00.000-05:00I lost my sister and both my parents at a relative...I lost my sister and both my parents at a relatively young age.<BR/><BR/>My mortality is always on my mind.<BR/><BR/>I miss the comic Bloom County, because the character Opus was always confiding his fears....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165884358446859832006-12-11T19:45:00.000-05:002006-12-11T19:45:00.000-05:00This is a wonderful reminder about what we should ...This is a wonderful reminder about what we should focus on, love and life. Yes, death will always be with us, lurking in the background. It's inevitable. In fact, it's part of life. But we can celebrate love and life and the wonders of the world daily in all the little things. In our little ones.<BR/><BR/>Cheers.ewe are herehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13339650361453626546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165877109774732292006-12-11T17:45:00.000-05:002006-12-11T17:45:00.000-05:00It's a shame, in a way, that we need to be brushed...It's a shame, in a way, that we need to be brushed or touched by death to fully appreciate how important it is to keep death in its place.<BR/><BR/>Thank you all so much for your thoughts.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165874278748676832006-12-11T16:57:00.000-05:002006-12-11T16:57:00.000-05:00we have been living in the spectre of death oursel...we have been living in the spectre of death ourselves - my grandmother has had so many near misses. And then we also have several chronic (but not fatal) illnesses to cope with daily.<BR/><BR/>Like you, we are trying to live our lives more fully.<BR/><BR/>I'm happy I was able to donate something for the auction, and my daughter loved writing a Christmas card to your nephew.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165872266990587122006-12-11T16:24:00.000-05:002006-12-11T16:24:00.000-05:00You're so right - instead of dwelling on death, we...You're so right - instead of dwelling on death, we should celebrate the life and love we have around us at the present. <BR/><BR/>I learned this lesson when we lost a friend to a sudden brain aneurysm at 30 years old, just days after the birth of his first child. The fragility of life, at any age, came into focus, and many of his friends realized how much we needed to enjoy the time we had together and not worry so much about the parting we know must come. Our friend had lived his life that way, and many of us hope we can do the same.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165864371419521032006-12-11T14:12:00.000-05:002006-12-11T14:12:00.000-05:00I read this, was overwhelmed and couldn't comment....I read this, was overwhelmed and couldn't comment. So now I'm back. This post is just lovely - and the thing about so many things that are "banal" is that they're common because they're true. Loving in the face of death is one of the single bravest things in life.Beckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13953517447164263617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165863884352349722006-12-11T14:04:00.000-05:002006-12-11T14:04:00.000-05:00HBM....my mom was treated a while back for a cance...HBM....my mom was treated a while back for a cancerous melanoma on her leg. They think they got it all...but it scared the bejeezus out of her and she checks ALL her moles now.<BR/><BR/>My grandma and my dad died in the UK when I was in my teens.<BR/><BR/>Being that all we received was a letter...it was very hard to reconcile them being dead.<BR/><BR/>I keep expecting sightings of my dad...you know...like elvis.<BR/><BR/>I think thought that death is still easier to bear when it is older people....when it haunts children....you just have to wonder 'why'?<BR/><BR/>Hang in there....Crunchy Carpetshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09543476826068578576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165860377915498382006-12-11T13:06:00.000-05:002006-12-11T13:06:00.000-05:00I was faced with death at a young age as well with...I was faced with death at a young age as well with the loss of my dad when I was 16, he at 49. My husband is now 47 and I can't help but think now of all the life that my dad lost out on. He missed the birth of all his grandkids, he had a kick-ass job at the time, he missed all our marriages, etc. When you are 16, 49 seems like a long time away, but now that my husband is closing in on that, I can't help but feel scared about the end of it all. Death really is so unfathomable, and so haunting, and we all see it as so far away. But that's a good thing because we wouldn't enjoy life if we obsessed about death all the time. And when we have kids, we certainly bump up a generation which brings to light all of our own mortality.<BR/><BR/>Insightful post. Thanks for sharing your inner thoughts with the rest of us. It's an important subject.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15080488909182074526noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165855711440742572006-12-11T11:48:00.000-05:002006-12-11T11:48:00.000-05:00I know that you don't really know me, but I wanted...I know that you don't really know me, but I wanted to say that my thoughts are with you. And that your words don't sound "tinny" at all, but I know the feeling that you just can't seem to write all that you are feeling. The pictures, though, speak volumes.Run ANChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088821030860597465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165852769701750872006-12-11T10:59:00.000-05:002006-12-11T10:59:00.000-05:00This is a most gorgeous piece of writing that gets...This is a most gorgeous piece of writing that gets right to the soul of all that you've been grappling with. Sending the biggest hugs I have your way.Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165848687881488642006-12-11T09:51:00.000-05:002006-12-11T09:51:00.000-05:00HBM, I've been super busy of late with little time...HBM, I've been super busy of late with little time to comment but I want to say something. I have experienced a lot of death. A lot. I had been planning for weeks to write about it over the holidays and I am still not sure if I will. I have walked this road so many times and in the end I can come up against nothing but the platitudes b/c I think all those platitudes might be right. Death is a natural part of our life cycle. We live so sheltered from it--in so much ease and comfort--but death is always there. It takes our elderly and often our young. I think I've told you before about how my 3-year-old neice beat insurmountable odds with AML leukemia a few years back. Even though she beat the odds my sister, 13 years later, still waits to exhale with every breath because the spectre of the disease's return is never gone.<BR/><BR/>Oooo HBM, I don't know where this comment is going which means that I may have to blog about it all over the next couple of weeks. I just want you to know that I understand quite a bit of what you are going through and I send out all the positive energy I've got.Madhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13416585771017767796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165843076954125602006-12-11T08:17:00.000-05:002006-12-11T08:17:00.000-05:00No one understands life, or death, like a mother. ...No one understands life, or death, like a mother. Of that I am sure. <BR/><BR/>Those pictures are seriously beautiful - in compostition and subject.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165834821941385572006-12-11T06:00:00.000-05:002006-12-11T06:00:00.000-05:00your words made me remember what i promised myself...your words made me remember what i promised myself i would never forget.<BR/><BR/>thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165822879517748902006-12-11T02:41:00.000-05:002006-12-11T02:41:00.000-05:00[color=#83b638]Good-girl-turned-bad Britney Spears...[color=#83b638]Good-girl-turned-bad Britney Spears has topped an eclectic list of the net’s most popular searches <BR/>n the run-up to Christmas. 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Yes, I always knew that noone gets out of here alive, but until that point, frankly, it never really mattered much. That sudden understanding was so crushing that I sobbed and could not--and still cannot--put into words the enormity of my grief and fear.<BR/><BR/>But, then, there is that other little creature for whom I make the most of each day. Who reminds me that one day one of us will be gone. That one day, we will ALL be gone. <BR/><BR/>But today is ours. <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>I love this series of WonderBaby's photos. They are stunning.Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165792282626761062006-12-10T18:11:00.000-05:002006-12-10T18:11:00.000-05:00So much love and beauty in these words. I wish you...So much love and beauty in these words. I wish you peace, HBM.Stefania Pomponi Butler aka CityMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07728498204991717100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165788635710169302006-12-10T17:10:00.000-05:002006-12-10T17:10:00.000-05:00HBM, These are moving thoughts. Thank you so muc...HBM, These are moving thoughts. Thank you so much for reminding us what we do have control over -- the love we put out there and shar with our family and friends. My best friend died in August after a long bout with breast cancer, and that brought back so much about me beloved grandfather who passed away many years ago, and I thought I had moved beyond that grief. I was wrong. But I agree, as you say, that our control is in the love we put out there. Thank you for your wise and wonderful words.PunditMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919969826505761593noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165785564775493052006-12-10T16:19:00.000-05:002006-12-10T16:19:00.000-05:00I'm finding it difficult with this current season ...I'm finding it difficult with this current season to embrace the joy of life, to grasp hold of the love that surrounds me and celebrate life, when the overwhelming echo of loss seems to be deafening. Last year I was numb with loss; this year, a year has come and gone and I must find new legs to stand on.<BR/><BR/>Thank you for reminding me that love has no distance. It is true.Redneck Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09947243296264284961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165779625657496732006-12-10T14:40:00.000-05:002006-12-10T14:40:00.000-05:00I've never thought about mortality as much until I...I've never thought about mortality as much until I had kids.<BR/><BR/>But I never enjoyed my life as much until I had kids.<BR/><BR/>I just have to hope that I'll be here and that she'll/they'll be here and if not, that either of us will have the power to go on.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165768101991345012006-12-10T11:28:00.000-05:002006-12-10T11:28:00.000-05:00Oh, honey, I am glad you are finding some comforti...Oh, honey, I am glad you are finding some comforting thoughts right now- and yes, it's true, love makes distance go away, even if it's harder to express over those stretches. <BR/><BR/>As Mouse said up top, I too felt an especial loss with my last grandparent's passing, knowing that the next must be much closer - how terrifying. But WonderBaby, Pumpkinpie, they step into line and everyone moves up a place, our mother becoming grandmothers, ourselves becoming mothers. And so it goes on. <BR/><BR/>It's really with someone like Tanner that I find it harder to be philosophical because it seems counter to that natural wheel that the youngest shouldn't take up thread and continue. I know, though, that he will always be with all of you, and I think that is the most important thing that we leave behind, no matter how long we're here, is the memories we have given other people while we're here. <BR/><BR/>Goodness, I'm carrying on and on now, but know I'm thinking of you.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165766705312573132006-12-10T11:05:00.000-05:002006-12-10T11:05:00.000-05:00Much, much love to you. You and your family have b...Much, much love to you. You and your family have been in my thoughts.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165762190048714172006-12-10T09:49:00.000-05:002006-12-10T09:49:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry that I missed your outpouring of need...I'm so sorry that I missed your outpouring of need on Monday, but wanted pass along my prayers and good thoughts for you and your family. My heartfelt wish is that the love that you write of so eloquently will give you some measure of peace and comfort, knowing that although you can't change the inevitable, you can make the moments that you have into memories that will (eventually) be stronger than the loss. <BR/><BR/><EM>blah-de-blah... basically I just wanna say "I'm sorry." and "I'm here." !" But there I go trying to be all wise and comforting... :)</EM>Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11181943776553188076noreply@blogger.com