tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post115534837414645837..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Ashlee Simpson and MeHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-22222218758598571092008-10-29T17:50:00.000-04:002008-10-29T17:50:00.000-04:00is that your nose or are you selling bananas?bwah ...is that your nose or are you selling bananas?<BR/><BR/>bwah hah ha ha haa<BR/><BR/>your pal,<BR/><BR/>The DonaldAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-61987405823395932832008-01-31T01:43:00.000-05:002008-01-31T01:43:00.000-05:00I spent my elementary years wearing the classic Co...I spent my elementary years wearing the classic Coke-bottle glasses, possessing a head of frizzy hair that wouldn't "feather," and not always having the right clothes. Peers confirmed my unacceptable appearance to me on a regular basis. One of my most vivid memories is from when I was about 12; I had spent an hour before the mirror and felt fairly satisfied with the result, then went outside and was BARKED at by some older boys riding by on their bikes. Later I got contacts and learned the art of makeup application, and suddenly I was considered reasonably pretty and acceptable, but I have never felt it. I never feel presentable unless I have my hair styled and some makeup on. Now, as the mother of a 7 year old daughter, and two sons, I am exquisitely aware of how my attitudes about myself will affect her and her brothers. They all need me to see myself as a whole, wonderful person, whose worth is not defined by looks. And P.S. the picture you posted is adorable; that kid back in school was as ugly a soul as the boys who barked at me.shaunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16920430355250288399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1160179576649756292006-10-06T20:06:00.000-04:002006-10-06T20:06:00.000-04:00Thank you...your post resonates with me. When I w...Thank you...your post resonates with me. When I was very young, I was teased for being chubby, and I never forgot others' comments. Now, I'm no longer chubby, but those comments remain with me, and I have trouble believing those who tell me that I'm too slender these days.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1157603831127028112006-09-07T00:37:00.000-04:002006-09-07T00:37:00.000-04:00durrrr... I can't say anything that hasn't already...durrrr... I can't say anything that hasn't already been said but I just wanted to tell ya I think u r real purty like.bunmasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15744437612050065004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1156385846451944712006-08-23T22:17:00.000-04:002006-08-23T22:17:00.000-04:00Late to this party, but I wanted to compliment you...Late to this party, but I wanted to compliment you on a wonderful post. It is sad that people have an ideal they feel they must live up to, but I think it's human, too. We make ways to "fix" ourselves, to better ourselves all the time. Education, plastic surgery, diet and excercise ... whatever it is it seems to be a balancing act.toyfotohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17925976386177377987noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1156208081366839532006-08-21T20:54:00.000-04:002006-08-21T20:54:00.000-04:00I can't even tell you how much this post touched m...I can't even tell you how much this post touched me. Take a look at my story of My Beautiful, Bald Little Girl about 3 posts down on this page and you will know.<BR/><BR/>http://urbanmoms.typepad.com/urbanmoms/2005/09/index.html<BR/><BR/>Thank you. I have the same dream...both of them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1156133609982569642006-08-21T00:13:00.000-04:002006-08-21T00:13:00.000-04:00HBM, for some reason, I didn't see any of these ne...HBM, for some reason, I didn't see any of these new posts! I was wondering why you hadn't written since the breastfeeding post! Sorry...Anyway, you are beautiful. And you're a beautiful writer. No one can get writing-surgery. You have a natural gift. That's a beautiful thing. Our society needs to stop obsessing about our bodies....And focus a bit more on inner beauty (I know, obvious...). You're gorgeous by the way. I think your nose is lovely! But we're always our own worst critics aren't we....Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1156112951420431412006-08-20T18:29:00.000-04:002006-08-20T18:29:00.000-04:00Ashlee should have thought about what happened to ...Ashlee should have thought about what happened to Jennifer Grey after her nose job...<BR/><BR/>I know for me my ultimate goal with my girls is to teach them to love themselves, so that the criticism/praise they get from others won't be the reason they try to dress/act/look a certain way. It will be a hard lesson to teach since I struggle with my own self-esteem issues. But oddly, I love myself more (as is) as I grow older -- so hopefully my message will not be a hypocritical one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155870864913648772006-08-17T23:14:00.000-04:002006-08-17T23:14:00.000-04:00What a lovely, lovely post, and I have the same dr...What a lovely, lovely post, and I have the same dream for my daughter (and, hell, for myself!)S.T.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06609421452596422823noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155840347429057222006-08-17T14:45:00.000-04:002006-08-17T14:45:00.000-04:00pretty, pretty lady.pretty, pretty lady.Traceyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18004168548188885215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155765998090897922006-08-16T18:06:00.000-04:002006-08-16T18:06:00.000-04:00This was one wonderfully truthful post. And even t...This was one wonderfully truthful post. And even though you didnt write this to hear what I'm about to say I still want to say it. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! And, you are so talented and smart! <BR/><BR/>I've always always had issues with my self. I'm so much smaller than everyone ( 4'9 and less than 90 pounds) and people always say how young I look and I dont like it. They think I should like it but actually it bothers me alot. The hardest part of all is that I dont get taken seriously and that I find it hard to make friends because of my looks.<BR/>Looking this way was torture for me in high school. <BR/><BR/>My 5 year old son took his height after me and it hurts me so deeply because I dont want him to ever go through what I did. I know being short will even be harder on a boy. I have even went so far as to checking into to hormone/growth treatments for him but ultimately decided against it after we were told that he actually wouldnt be as short as me. <BR/><BR/>Either way, we all have issues about ourselves and it is sad. Having children has changed me and made me feel so much better about myself but it wont make me forget.PetiteMommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14526874040937712724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155756097639156862006-08-16T15:21:00.000-04:002006-08-16T15:21:00.000-04:00With two sons, I am more concerned about how they ...With two sons, I am more concerned about how they SEE beauty in women than in how they look (I am already convinced they are going to be dashingly handsome like Teresa Heinz Kerry's sons).<BR/><BR/>But I have struggled with my own self-image most of my life. I have scars from 3rd degree burns on my thighs (a fondue pot spilled on me when I was four), and this was a source of great angst and some teasing through most of my childhood. The options for plastic surgery when I was young were very limited, and would have meant scarring on another part of my body to "transplant" my own skin over the scars, so I passed. Now I'm sure there are better options, but the scars have mostly faded. Mostly. And the older I get, the more I find there are other parts of my appearance that bother me much more than these scars.<BR/><BR/>BTW, the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty was honored recently at the NOW conference, to kind of a mixed response from those attending. This is an interesting take on it:<BR/>http://pandagon.net/2006/07/23/biggest-disappointment-of-the-now-conference/Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04068133445052565116noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155706635649254232006-08-16T01:37:00.000-04:002006-08-16T01:37:00.000-04:00That powerful dream that you have is a force to be...That powerful dream that you have is a force to be reckoned with. <BR/><BR/>To never feel those taunted teasing words about our own appearance and to deal with those repercussions. The horrific words get stuck into our psyche and it is hard to push them out. To watch our own mothers struggle with their desire to stay slim and youthful not fully accepting their own physical appearance is damaging to a child. The media then tops off our unworthiness and the desire to achieve the impossible.<BR/><BR/>I want my daughters to fully recognize the complete beauty of their souls as well. It is in acceptance and comfort that beauty radiates.ms bluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06997925420763913039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155675248985588152006-08-15T16:54:00.000-04:002006-08-15T16:54:00.000-04:00A boy in 4th Grade used to make fun of me for havi...A boy in 4th Grade used to make fun of me for having hairy arms. at the time i took it to heart and hated my hairy arms, never thinking 'what a stoopid thing to make fun of someone about.'<BR/><BR/>recently i was recounting this boy to friends, and it was pointed out that he 'probably liked me' that's why he was making fun. duh. although since elem. school i had finally come to accept and love my hairy arms, it made me feel better to know that's what was probably happening. <BR/><BR/>Anyway, maybe that's what Ronald was doing to you too??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155671096436281252006-08-15T15:44:00.000-04:002006-08-15T15:44:00.000-04:00First I'd like to say your nose in NOT big. You're...First I'd like to say your nose in NOT big. You're beautiful and part of that beauty is knowing where beauty really comes from. <BR/>I have so much to say on this that I will posting something soon. You have definitely made me think. Such a sensitive subject for all....uniquely beautiful and standardly beautiful alike.Summerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14295907938216210361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155632690080034582006-08-15T05:04:00.000-04:002006-08-15T05:04:00.000-04:00Fantastic post. Beauty is more than skin deep.. so...Fantastic post. Beauty is more than skin deep.. sometimes it just takes a lot longer to see that when it comes to our own self. <BR/><BR/>It's funny, because as I was reading about your covering your cheeks with your hair, I remember doing the same thing. From about age 11 - 14, I thought my nose was *huge*. Any photograph there is of me at that age, I am covering the bottom half of my face (nose down) with my hand/hair/whatever I'm holding). I'd forgotten all about it until now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155610676611051672006-08-14T22:57:00.000-04:002006-08-14T22:57:00.000-04:00You are beautiful and so is your writing. LisaYou are beautiful and so is your writing. <BR/><BR/>LisaKelly Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18212604900842069797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155599044334996362006-08-14T19:44:00.000-04:002006-08-14T19:44:00.000-04:00damn straight.damn straight.Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14163363926316904033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155584564377635902006-08-14T15:42:00.000-04:002006-08-14T15:42:00.000-04:00what a beautiful woman you are! and thank you for...what a beautiful woman you are! and thank you for such a timely and thoughtful post.Kristinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15120658117796151128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155574871194176012006-08-14T13:01:00.000-04:002006-08-14T13:01:00.000-04:00I hated my nose,too, though I'm glad I waited for ...I hated my nose,too, though I'm glad I waited for the rest of my face to grow into it. I honestly can't imagine my face with a small nose now. It just woulnd't fit. I think you're beautiful.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155574298929148482006-08-14T12:51:00.000-04:002006-08-14T12:51:00.000-04:00The celebrity spotlight is so much more harsh than...The celebrity spotlight is so much more harsh than reality as far as looks go, and I am not surprised Ashlee Simpson bowed to the pressure of a new nose. <BR/><BR/>I understand your sentiment here immensely, and I think you look fantastic. Your nose gives you character and keeps you from being cookie cutter. And most of all, it FITS you. <BR/><BR/>But I understand some of the other side of the coin as well. I've had a breast reduction. I was wearing a bra by the time I was 9 and I just didn't stop growing when I should have. Pre-reduction, I probably came in at a FF, or at least a EEE. I never fully knew my measurements because I was afraid to get properly fitted. I was already too self-conscious to admit my chest was pretty. I knew walking in the grocery store that the looks I got weren't admiration. The looks bent more towards awe and a hint of horror, as in, "Oh my word, that must be difficult to live with. Lookit her! How does she find clothes?!"<BR/><BR/>Of course, my case was extreme. I'm only 5'3". I wore a size 9 jeans in high school, and still had an E cup. So, the decision to get them reduced was easy, not to mention geared toward back and neck pain relief as opposed to the perfect C cup. Now, I'm a DD. I'm not perky, and I'm not perfect. But at least I'm in the spectrum of normal. I paid a price, too, by way of the scars and sacrificing breast feeding. But when people meet me now, I'm not the chick with the boobs. People notice ME now, because this is the me that was in there all along. I'm comfortable with myself now.Andreahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10612468442701491963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155566997711959412006-08-14T10:49:00.000-04:002006-08-14T10:49:00.000-04:00You are beautiful!!I love reading your blog! It's...You are beautiful!!<BR/><BR/>I love reading your blog! It's funny, intelligent and just so likeable!<BR/><BR/>I think we all grow up hating certain things about ourselves, our weight, our names, lips, eyes, etc. You name it, as a teenager, you probably hated it.<BR/><BR/>Magazines, media, all have a hand in telling us what beautiful is and what beautiful isn't. I've decided to write my own definition because quite frankly, we aren't all perfect size 6s with perfect features.<BR/><BR/>To me, the imperfections are what make us beautiful.<BR/><BR/>~KellieKelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15840536814259570544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155563380338090702006-08-14T09:49:00.000-04:002006-08-14T09:49:00.000-04:00Let's be honest. Someone in her PR dept sat Ashlee...Let's be honest. Someone in her PR dept sat Ashlee down and explained to her the way the game would be played. You can go on like this, being the cute punk, younger sister, or you can revamp your look and give your sister a run for her money. She chose the latter.<BR/><BR/>But let's not be fooled. I don't think Jessica is exactly untouched, either. As is at least half of Hollywood. Yes, the same exact people who spout exactly the opposite.:(Janethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08262988549970554970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155560810868222812006-08-14T09:06:00.000-04:002006-08-14T09:06:00.000-04:00Yeah, didn't proofread there. So much for me relyi...Yeah, didn't proofread there. So much for me relying on any skills.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155560734838234492006-08-14T09:05:00.000-04:002006-08-14T09:05:00.000-04:00Spectacular and honest. Perfect.I can only assure ...Spectacular and honest. Perfect.<BR/><BR/>I can only assure you(as Im sure others here have) that imperfect looks build character. Those cheerleaders with the cheerleader noses? I came back to my hs reunioin and realized they all peaked in hs. There's something about being unconventional that forces you to rely on more skills than your looks. And while that's small comfort when the Donalds of the world try to bring you down. <BR/><BR/>Ashlee? Yeah, I see the hypocracy. But maybe it's a faster route for young fans to realize that Hollywood is not reality, and pr is not the same as truth and celebs are not role models. <BR/><BR/>I'm more upset by the fact that she people buy her albums despite the fact that she sucks. How many talented artists can't get deals because one sister of Jessica is in their spot?Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.com