tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post115517422604177869..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: ElegyHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger75125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-59974818471511295862008-11-26T00:12:00.000-05:002008-11-26T00:12:00.000-05:00I have read this post several times over the past ...I have read this post several times over the past 11.5 months as I went through the stages of breastfeeding. Now that we're down to 1-2 times per day, the tears that gush forth each time I read your Elegy are really flowing fast and furious. Your writing is wonderful and eloquent and articulate and perfectly captures every feeling I can't. Thank you.Surprised Suburban Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01551938496663569298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-25438553211386999222008-11-22T01:18:00.000-05:002008-11-22T01:18:00.000-05:00oops - scatch that - commented on the wrong story ...oops - scatch that - commented on the wrong story - too many tabs openAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-32630381032080690072008-11-22T01:15:00.000-05:002008-11-22T01:15:00.000-05:00I am 5 months pregnant and just found your blog an...I am 5 months pregnant and just found your blog and really enjoy your writing. I came across the pic of your little one in that cute tee that says "mutha sucka" on it and decided I needed it for my own babe when the time comes. So I googles "mutha sucka baby" and this is one of the things that came up<BR/><BR/>http://www.babyclotheshound.com/coolbabyclothes/mutha-sucka<BR/><BR/>So if you are "babyclotheshound" suppose it's no biggy. And it really isn't a terrible re-use of your pic but I just thought you ought to see it as it seems to apply to this post. <BR/><BR/>And hey where did you get that tee?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-87913337132424198392007-10-05T20:38:00.000-04:002007-10-05T20:38:00.000-04:00And what a sweet post it was. It will be interesti...And what a sweet post it was. It will be interesting to see how number two goes. Congratulations, and great job.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05864631532886681402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-54759465826877907572007-07-31T23:54:00.000-04:002007-07-31T23:54:00.000-04:00I fed my daughter until she was three. It felt fin...I fed my daughter until she was three. It felt fine to her and fine to me. She still talks about it and reminisces about how she liked it. I really thought she would stop sooner..she is so independent and bold in all other ways. I guess it was a private way for her to hold the link between us until she wanted to be a big kid. You write beautifully, and I felt every emotion that you revealed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155780555245205212006-08-16T22:09:00.000-04:002006-08-16T22:09:00.000-04:00You all break my heart, sharing your own experienc...You all break my heart, sharing your own experiences. So good to know that I'm not alone in these mixed feelings.Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155542010866807542006-08-14T03:53:00.000-04:002006-08-14T03:53:00.000-04:00Beautiful. I know those mixed feelings well! I n...Beautiful. I know those mixed feelings well! I never in a million years thought that I would enjoy nursing or that I would miss it. But I did! And then enjoyed having *me* back. :)Lady Mhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13360693450146358247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155518824629850252006-08-13T21:27:00.000-04:002006-08-13T21:27:00.000-04:00Beautiful.Absolutely beautiful.Beautiful.<BR/><BR/>Absolutely beautiful.josetteplank.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16790825543155685363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155503913587949112006-08-13T17:18:00.000-04:002006-08-13T17:18:00.000-04:00Call me crazy, but sometimes, I miss nursing my so...Call me crazy, but sometimes, I miss nursing my son. And I only made it 4 1/2 months. Isn't that nuts. Why do I suddenly miss those days? It sure did hurt like hell the first few months!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155441661564521282006-08-13T00:01:00.000-04:002006-08-13T00:01:00.000-04:00My daughter balked at nursing, so I pumped my milk...My daughter balked at nursing, so I pumped my milk for 6 months for her. My son, he took to nursing right away. It was so great to have a kid who would nurse. He self-weaned at 13 months. I had mixed feelings about it, but it was what was right for us. He's still my cuddly bear at 2 years old.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01979925607834752536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155332518081906782006-08-11T17:41:00.000-04:002006-08-11T17:41:00.000-04:00Such a great post. My oldest weaned at 10 months ...Such a great post. My oldest weaned at 10 months in much the same way as WonderBaby. My youngest held on until nearly two, slowly weaning herself. Both times, I felt a little sad, a little relieved.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155328496659162492006-08-11T16:34:00.000-04:002006-08-11T16:34:00.000-04:00This is such a beautiful, beautiful post. You will...This is such a beautiful, beautiful post. <BR/><BR/>You will feel better the first time you have a cold or something and you can take WHATEVER medicine you want without even thinking about it-- trust me on that one ;)<BR/><BR/>I had to be the one to decide to wean or I think my son would never have given up nursing! And I felt guilty it at the time, but after nearly two years, I was so, so done. <BR/><BR/>My son is still really not over the weaning, even though it has been months . . . every once in a while he looks up at me and says, plaintively, "Mama milk all gone?" and I feel another stab of guilt (though not regret). I'm glad Wonderbaby is happy with her Daddy Milk ;)Jaelithehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12081888212421953409noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155327086794206832006-08-11T16:11:00.000-04:002006-08-11T16:11:00.000-04:00I am going to keep this short, sweet, and simple: ...I am going to keep this short, sweet, and simple: That was a beautiful post.Silly Hilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11381085189763136258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155321571034433942006-08-11T14:39:00.000-04:002006-08-11T14:39:00.000-04:00Like GGC, I can relate in some senses (the mix of ...Like GGC, I can relate in some senses (the mix of freedom and sadness) but not in others, because I too never made it past 8 weeks (and only 3 with my second child). Sigh.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02667140531327670081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155316172866147772006-08-11T13:09:00.000-04:002006-08-11T13:09:00.000-04:00My son weaned last month. I still miss it. Espec...My son weaned last month. I still miss it. Especially since he's likely to be an only child and I won't have the opportunity to experience it again. He still like to lay against my belly when he's sleepy though.Annie, The Evil Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585283486191306521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155311559885826482006-08-11T11:52:00.000-04:002006-08-11T11:52:00.000-04:00Thank you so much for this lovely post. I've been ...Thank you so much for this lovely post. I've been nursing my son for almost 6 months, and I know there will come a day when I don't. I am sad and anxious about that day, but reading your post reminded me that there are new things to look forward to once the weaning is over.Amy Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10192876795169234755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155309757910919782006-08-11T11:22:00.000-04:002006-08-11T11:22:00.000-04:00Beautifully said. What a wonderful and heartbreak...Beautifully said. What a wonderful and heartbreaking milestone that you and Wonder Baby have reached. ((hugs))Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155304633326043742006-08-11T09:57:00.000-04:002006-08-11T09:57:00.000-04:00The warm thoughts and commisseration here are so, ...The warm thoughts and commisseration here are so, so welcome. It's tremendously comforting to know that I've not been alone in these powerfully mixed feelings...Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155302805706621832006-08-11T09:26:00.000-04:002006-08-11T09:26:00.000-04:00This is a beautiful post.This is a beautiful post.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155297367352074772006-08-11T07:56:00.000-04:002006-08-11T07:56:00.000-04:00That picture! Precious.Yes, the nursing thing is a...That picture! Precious.<BR/><BR/>Yes, the nursing thing is a blessing and a curse, and it's hard to give up. Congratulations on your newfound freedom!Ruth Dynamitehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06161626814106717754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155291905750285432006-08-11T06:25:00.000-04:002006-08-11T06:25:00.000-04:00Lovely. I so seldom have anything to say at the en...Lovely. I so seldom have anything to say at the end of your posts - you've said it all so well it'd be like gilding the lily.<BR/>I wasn't able to nurse either of the girls past three months - my dairy was deficient - but that feeling of letting go, wanting to appreciate it, but missing it fiercely, is forever with me.Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07332126804455557046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155290879261878622006-08-11T06:07:00.000-04:002006-08-11T06:07:00.000-04:00Such a beautiful post.. you have a way with words....Such a beautiful post.. you have a way with words. Bittersweet & beautiful. I remember the last feed of all of my babies. Thank god my daughter is only 2 weeks old, and I don't have to wean for a long, long time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155271256515866262006-08-11T00:40:00.000-04:002006-08-11T00:40:00.000-04:00I am one of the few, the proud, the misunderstood:...I am one of the few, the proud, the misunderstood: Women Who Hated Breastfeeding (and Their Babies Who Couldn`t Get Enough of It).<BR/><BR/>I never liked it, but I was a veritable Dairy Queen. I think I could have fed a litter of puppies on the side -- I fed all three of my kids, and two of them never even tasted formula. However, I greatly preferr cudding a baby when he/she doesn`t have one of my tenderest body parts in his/her mouth.L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13437332749627332216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155270209001143572006-08-11T00:23:00.000-04:002006-08-11T00:23:00.000-04:00This is a beautiful post, Her Bad. I am saddened a...This is a beautiful post, Her Bad. I am saddened ahead of time thinking of the last time Baby and I will nurse. It's a little bit heartbreaking, so I understand.Kriscohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08099598535511829553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1155269832010317612006-08-11T00:17:00.000-04:002006-08-11T00:17:00.000-04:00I have shivers from this, HBM. I want to cry. I wa...I have shivers from this, HBM. I want to cry. I want to smile. I want to cry. I've just successfully weaned the monkey. We nursed for a year. I always said I'd stop at a year. When her birthday came around, I kept saying one more day, one more feed. After a week, I noticed she wasn't asking; she was simply accepting my offer. So, I stopped offering. And, that was it. I'm happy because we were both ready. I'm a little "vahklempt" because I miss the closeness....But, I'm also elated that my body is changing: my breasts aren't so unbearably large (still full of milk, but shrinking slowly), and I have more energy--some anxiety from the hormone changes, but it's easing off. So, thank you. Thank you for giving me this moment to reflect again and in new ways.Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07516203764767040649noreply@blogger.com