tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post115186865445943717..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: I Have Found the Village, PeopleHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger52125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152247611272693222006-07-07T00:46:00.000-04:002006-07-07T00:46:00.000-04:00Thanks for organizing! I wish I had more time with...Thanks for organizing! I wish I had more time with y'all. Hope we do it again soon.scarbie dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067032043776994982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152193208731196202006-07-06T09:40:00.000-04:002006-07-06T09:40:00.000-04:00Thank goodness I found you! What a perfect post, i...Thank goodness I found you! What a perfect post, it's like you were in my head after my babies were born. Blogging has been a lifeline for me. I've finally met some "cool" mommies to talk with.Mom O Matichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00663817788501199975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152157944042821652006-07-05T23:52:00.000-04:002006-07-05T23:52:00.000-04:00Same thing happened to me. I did the playgroup th...Same thing happened to me. I did the playgroup thing, the new mommmy drop in thing.....left everytime with a bad taste in my mouth and wondering what in tarnation was wrong with me.<BR/><BR/>I just did not fit in.<BR/>I didn't have anything to say to these people.<BR/><BR/>I met some cool moms at my 'Nobody's Perfect' and 'Life as a Parent' groups..but no lasting friends.<BR/><BR/>It was online that I met moms and turned some of them into IRL friends for me and for my kids to hang with and feel truly welcome and comfortable.<BR/><BR/>I say thank christ for technology.<BR/><BR/>Otherwise I would have gone mad or fallen into a deep deep depression wondering where I was going wrong and was I really such a mutant mother??Crunchy Carpetshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09543476826068578576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152110257397507722006-07-05T10:37:00.000-04:002006-07-05T10:37:00.000-04:00Looks like a great time was had by all!And yeah, i...Looks like a great time was had by all!<BR/>And yeah, it's hard to find 'cool' Mommy friends. I stay FAR away from the ones at school. FAR!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152077941312006672006-07-05T01:39:00.000-04:002006-07-05T01:39:00.000-04:00Oh, man. Your description of the loneliness was so...Oh, man. Your description of the loneliness was sooooooooooo true. That's exactly how I felt and sometimes still do with my two year old. Though since he can talk a lot now, it doesn't feel as lonely. I feel the same way about mom groups. Just because someone has also procreated doesn't mean I have a lot in common with them. The blogging is a lifesaver. <BR/><BR/>LisaKelly Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18212604900842069797noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152075640109900822006-07-05T01:00:00.000-04:002006-07-05T01:00:00.000-04:00I have known the splendor of the real life blog fr...I have known the splendor of the real life blog friends, and completely agree about its wonderfulness. I'm so glad you all get to do this, and am only a little jealous that I can't simultaneously live in Portland and Toronto.nonlineargirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05414675024101618604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152068883694567052006-07-04T23:08:00.000-04:002006-07-04T23:08:00.000-04:00I beg to differ with my learned friend, here.You h...I beg to differ with my learned friend, here.<BR/><BR/>You have not found the village... You have found the hut. That fabled place where one woman will hold anothers baby so she can have a shower. A space where mothers collaborate to raise legions of blessed children.. The hut that when one good friend of mine brought it up in a Mommy Group got her tossed!<BR/><BR/>I think the hut has real potential.. be it synchronous or asynchronos.<BR/><BR/>But seriously -- glad you guys had a good time and that's saying a LOT coming <A HREF="http://motherwoman.blogspot.com/2006/03/who-do-you-blog-for-five-part-quiz.html" REL="nofollow">from me</A>mo-wohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10934156423936866994noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152063215488087382006-07-04T21:33:00.000-04:002006-07-04T21:33:00.000-04:00So glad to hear that you were able to make the hoo...So glad to hear that you were able to make the hook up! There's nothing worse than trying to fit in with a group of people who JUST DON'T FIT!!! Sorta like trying to squeeze into the latest trendy jeans... you may get 'em buttoned, but eventually you'll have to bend over giving everything you've been holding in the chance to come popping out! I'll take the comfort of old sweat pants and low-maintenance, sister-in-spirit friends anyday!!susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01231786641690095728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152061856807350032006-07-04T21:10:00.000-04:002006-07-04T21:10:00.000-04:00Blogtopia! Yes! Who's in?(And - step off on the Jo...Blogtopia! Yes! Who's in?<BR/><BR/>(And - step off on the Jonestown jokes. Any KoolAid 'round Mamabloggerlandia is gonna be spiked with gin or vodka - nothing else.)Her Bad Motherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152061449274315002006-07-04T21:04:00.000-04:002006-07-04T21:04:00.000-04:00Geez, the various roundups on this are getting a l...Geez, the various roundups on this are getting a lot of comments about wanting to move to Canada... maybe we can buy up a neighbourhood and stock it with all our favourites, including ourselves!<BR/><BR/>We could put a big park in the middle, ring our houses around it with wide front porches facing in, and then sit and talk while our babies play. Sunshine could be the senior of this generation, babysitting, walking the herd to school, and rounding up and coaching a little soccer team of his own. The girls could trade clothes and toys at will, skip rope together, and jump through a sprinkler in the summer. We could have an outbuilding with a library stocked with kids' books for any of them to borrow.<BR/><BR/>It would be... blogtopia! *a beam from heaven and choirs of angels singing*kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152061350286242282006-07-04T21:02:00.000-04:002006-07-04T21:02:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152060811983744902006-07-04T20:53:00.000-04:002006-07-04T20:53:00.000-04:00That first part, oh that first part. I can relate...That first part, oh that first part. I can relate to that right down to the mommy group.<BR/><BR/>Congratulations to all the TO bloggers on a succesful first outing. You all make me want to move to Canada!Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152060776314073082006-07-04T20:52:00.000-04:002006-07-04T20:52:00.000-04:00ahh and I forgot to say how adorable wonderbaby wa...ahh and I forgot to say how adorable wonderbaby was in the pic... bad on me... wonderbaby is adorable cut and wow..:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152060714539235972006-07-04T20:51:00.000-04:002006-07-04T20:51:00.000-04:00DD your not the only blogger who lives in BFe ... ...DD your not the only blogger who lives in BFe ... I live there as well. <BR/><BR/>Totally jelous.. *sigh*.. totally thinking of moving:) <BR/><BR/>Very very happy for you finding some real life friends to help ease the loneliness.. Can you send some my way;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152054123906673512006-07-04T19:02:00.000-04:002006-07-04T19:02:00.000-04:00Do I relate? Oh, yes I do. And SNAP!: "Why was I s...Do I relate? Oh, yes I do. <BR/>And SNAP!: "Why was I stuck with bitter, competitive mommies who knew all about Baby Einstein but cared nothing about the real Einstein or his cultural equivalents."<BR/>Some lame mom just trashed me in front of a couple of friends of mine for having a "3-point carseat" (vs. a 5-pt, who knew?)She said (with a heavy southern US accent) "Oh, I can't even STAND to look at a baby in a 3-point carseat!"<BR/>Here's what I've got for her:<BR/>I can't even STAND looking at woman with a 5-point vagina!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152051655676096372006-07-04T18:20:00.000-04:002006-07-04T18:20:00.000-04:00I. Am. Insanely. Jealous.Damn, even the doomed duc...I. Am. Insanely. Jealous.<BR/><BR/>Damn, even the doomed duck probably had a good time. I mean, what a way to go...done in by Wonderbaby!Namitohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06476552972162497517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152044673552277252006-07-04T16:24:00.000-04:002006-07-04T16:24:00.000-04:00that's it, i'm quitting work. i want mat-leave and...that's it, i'm quitting work. i want mat-leave and leisurely hours spent hangin' with the other mamas again. bumblebee can come too - she's used to the Cakes' take down.karengreenershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02488069680575426742noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152035127627268382006-07-04T13:45:00.000-04:002006-07-04T13:45:00.000-04:00I`ve found that if I don`t blog IMMEDIATELY about ...I`ve found that if I don`t blog IMMEDIATELY about Hirshman/Flanagan-type subjects while they`re still fresh in my mind, I lose interest and don`t blog about them at all. Too many more interesting, worthwhile things keep cropping up -- which is the way it should be.<BR/><BR/>I wish blogs had been around when my oldest (now 11) was a babe, and we lived in lonely Los Angeles. I was so desperate I joined a MOPS group that met at a Southern Baptist church. I will never forget the looks I got when I told them we were raising our kids as Buddhists.L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13437332749627332216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152030218109948362006-07-04T12:23:00.000-04:002006-07-04T12:23:00.000-04:00If I buy my own plane ticket can I come too? OR p...If I buy my own plane ticket can I come too? OR perhaps you can set up a video phone link?<BR/><BR/>Also, that picture makes my heart hurt it's so fabulous.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152023438458400572006-07-04T10:30:00.000-04:002006-07-04T10:30:00.000-04:00The first half of this post just resonates so prof...The first half of this post just resonates so profoundly with me. The fear, the loneliness, the let-down when you think you're going to connect with people simply because you've got that baby thing in common--but don't. <BR/><BR/>The second half, well I'm just jealous. Sounds like a wonderful time and it's good to know that the women we love online are loveable offline too.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152023237147732502006-07-04T10:27:00.000-04:002006-07-04T10:27:00.000-04:00Waaaa! Nothing but big ol' Texas-sized jealousy h...Waaaa! Nothing but big ol' Texas-sized jealousy here!Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152020884127812792006-07-04T09:48:00.000-04:002006-07-04T09:48:00.000-04:00I remember those early days and how freakin' lonel...I remember those early days and how freakin' lonely it could be. I also remember the feeling of not ever being able to go anywhere and just linger, by myself with no guilt and no other thoughts than just myself and the sheer pleasure of indulging in things I like (ed!) to do - like spending hours in the bookstore! <BR/>I don't think the fear ever goes away, I think we just learn to live with it and work through it - as Sunshine Scribe so eloquently put it, it makes us better mothers who are conscious of our babies' vulnerabilities.<BR/>BTW, thanks for the compliment on my little man. You too have an absolutely adorable little girl!Village Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13948052730788519939noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1152017043768173872006-07-04T08:44:00.000-04:002006-07-04T08:44:00.000-04:00Sounds like a lovely time was had by all. Now I...Sounds like a lovely time was had by all. Now I am looking forward to BlogHer even more!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1151983411433233052006-07-03T23:23:00.000-04:002006-07-03T23:23:00.000-04:00That is awesome!!! I am glad you guys hooked up! S...That is awesome!!! I am glad you guys hooked up! Sounds like a good time!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1151980358844448362006-07-03T22:32:00.000-04:002006-07-03T22:32:00.000-04:00Hey HBM,Thanks for the comments and the pics. As o...Hey HBM,<BR/>Thanks for the comments and the pics. As one the of newbies I felt a bit the interloper (not that B&P hadn't filled me in as much as she could on the drive there) but it was so great to meet all of you. I love mommy gatherings, but particularly those with great conversations (I hear a lot of that occured at the bar, the intoxication of the company being as strong as that of any drink. . .;). Anyway, proof is there--I'm in some of the pictures. Yay! Anyway, feel free to visit my "new" blog anytime. . .still learning the ropes. . . .still repeating the mantra "It's MY blog, there is no wrong way. . ."Mommy-Like Dayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04549962058495476502noreply@blogger.com