tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post114584104910742623..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: 'Cause sequels are... New and Improved!**Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165659510620035522006-12-09T05:18:00.000-05:002006-12-09T05:18:00.000-05:00http://utairway.com/en/reg-Recreation._Tours_and_J...http://utairway.com/en/reg-Recreation._Tours_and_Journey-67-12_6.html - Recreation. Tours and Journey <BR/><A HREF="http://utairway.com/en/reg-Recreation._Tours_and_Journey-67-12_6.html" REL="nofollow"> Recreation. Tours and Journey</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1165502094997688782006-12-07T09:34:00.000-05:002006-12-07T09:34:00.000-05:00http://utairway.com/en/reg-Economy_Car_Rental-158-...http://utairway.com/en/reg-Economy_Car_Rental-158-266.html - Economy Car Rental <BR/><A HREF="http://utairway.com/en/reg-Economy_Car_Rental-158-266.html" REL="nofollow"> Economy Car Rental</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1146366470630393812006-04-29T23:07:00.000-04:002006-04-29T23:07:00.000-04:00Well, this milliner is inspired-- by the writing, ...Well, this milliner is inspired-- by the writing, the ideas, and the hat.<BR/><BR/>As for the hat, did you make it yourself? A wonderful choice for your pretty model.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1146073924433169352006-04-26T13:52:00.000-04:002006-04-26T13:52:00.000-04:00You & everyone else have expressed yourselves so i...You & everyone else have expressed yourselves so intelligently & passionately that I am once again feeling like I can't add anything that hasn't already been said. (Could just be mommy-brain though.) Anyway, great post(s), sweet hat & I will make it part of my mission to get Hammer to comment on your blog.bunmasterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15744437612050065004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145992259725058122006-04-25T15:10:00.000-04:002006-04-25T15:10:00.000-04:00Great post!Right now, I am dealing with a 13 year ...Great post!<BR/><BR/>Right now, I am dealing with a 13 year old daughter and I am really struggling with *her* struggling to define herself as a woman and as a person. For example, she is now struggling with her body image and is making a lot of unhealthy choices so she can fit other people's perception of "ideal." So this is a serious issue for mother, daughters and people.macboudicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08130243351803467566noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145977618450860542006-04-25T11:06:00.000-04:002006-04-25T11:06:00.000-04:00No words! Great post. You summed up rather artic...No words! Great post. You summed up rather articulately, what I floundered about trying to explain to my daughter this weekend. Now, I am going to clarify my gibberish using your words. I'll just have her read your post!<BR/><BR/>Maybe not. She'll get distracted by the baby pics. She's a sucker for a bald head!Redneck Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09947243296264284961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145973491997236222006-04-25T09:58:00.000-04:002006-04-25T09:58:00.000-04:00I wish I had something more to add, but so much ha...I wish I had something more to add, but so much has been said already. I did like your point about teaching our daughters to embrace life as a person who just happens to be a woman. We spend so much time emphasising our woman-ness that we sometimes forget that we are individuals, regardless, in spite of, our sex. I don't think I'm explaining myself very well... Sigh.<BR/><BR/>I think I'm still too awed by the cuteness of WonderBaby in that hat!Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145943064146074582006-04-25T01:31:00.000-04:002006-04-25T01:31:00.000-04:00For someone who scrapped it all, you sure had a lo...For someone who scrapped it all, you sure had a lot of great things to say. <BR/><BR/>I also grapple with this idea of privilege and entitlement. Nate comes from nothing--the army family with five kids who were even more poor than the other army families with five kid--and reminds me constantly that my world is not The World. Not that I need reminding. Okay, sometimes I do. <BR/><BR/>And I could not agree more that we can only make decisions for ourselves and our families, not for any sort of movement. The leaders of a movement often have the least happy children. Do for you and yours first. The rest will follow.Mom101https://www.blogger.com/profile/15468524489744839899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145930325799172822006-04-24T21:58:00.000-04:002006-04-24T21:58:00.000-04:00First of all, that is better than a sequel (and af...First of all, that is better than a sequel (and after your comment at my place made me teary yesterday - ya I read this post twice because I am a fan of all things Bad Mother).<BR/><BR/>Second of all - how much do I love that last pic of WonderBaby?!?! That expression is hysterical. Can't help but grin looking at it.<BR/><BR/>And most importantly...I love your statement about being both a person and a woman. It is so easy to get caught up in the debate to loose sight of that. I thought the way you shared that was wise. Thank you also for raising the very important and overlooked issue of priviledge. I have been invited to a conference on women in the media and it is focusing most about accurately representing all women and not just priviledged women. There are so many layers of feminism and of oppression that it is hard to even scratch the surface.<BR/><BR/>All that to say...another classic post!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145929158893909702006-04-24T21:39:00.000-04:002006-04-24T21:39:00.000-04:00I, too, love the new comment button. And the unbe...I, too, love the new comment button. And the unbelievably adorable hat.<BR/><BR/>I am fortunate in that I've never felt limited or defined by my gender. Perhaps I should thank my very non-traditional grandmothers for that. If Alex had been a girl, I hope that she would have had the same "I can do anything!" confidence. Since he's a boy, I've got a whole 'nother set of issues to deal with.<BR/><BR/>Since childhood, I have been acutely aware of my own priveleged life. I can remember thinking, "who decided that I got this great life and other kids didn't?" I don't feel guilty for having nice things that I worked hard for, though. However, I <I>do</I> hate the sense of entitlement that is so common today, especially among kids. <BR/><BR/>See what you went and did--got me thinking and stuff! Gah!Jezerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145903365561475472006-04-24T14:29:00.000-04:002006-04-24T14:29:00.000-04:00So, in trying to not write another epic post, you ...So, in trying to not write another epic post, you wrote another epic post that still made my head spin! I'd write something more intelligent, but I'm stuck in that after-lunch food coma, so I can't get much past "pret-ty words!"<BR/><BR/>And like Kristen said, we're so working on a shirt. Hopefully we'll have a few designs tonight.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145901066103847292006-04-24T13:51:00.000-04:002006-04-24T13:51:00.000-04:00Phew woman. You are killing me here. :)But serious...Phew woman. You are killing me here. :)<BR/><BR/>But seriously, we can't do it all. My voice as a feminist woman is making choices that work for me and my family and not trying to carry the guilt of all women on my shoulders. My daily activism is making informed choices and starting my daughter off into a path of the same.<BR/><BR/>Really, epic post. And love the comment button. I feel so proud.<BR/><BR/>And PS We're working on a shirt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145898017594841572006-04-24T13:00:00.000-04:002006-04-24T13:00:00.000-04:00i think i know what you mean, bad lady. i struggle...i think i know what you mean, bad lady. i struggle with this one a bit too; part of it is that when i want to start to pontificate about gender, power, and all that shit I find myself in academic mode--a mode that always feels more labored and distanced from my own voice. the blog, though a persona is still more *me* (oh deary me, am i being essentialist, committing the biographical fallacy right there?). <BR/><BR/>see that part in parentheses--that was my academic voice. see what i mean? hmm. i have just conjured up an image of myself as gollum talking to himself in the lake. nice. <BR/><BR/>anyway, great post. ambivalence, after all, is about as much a part of our contemporary experience as feminists as anything else.gingajoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01356643079413822527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145893678640902912006-04-24T11:47:00.000-04:002006-04-24T11:47:00.000-04:00oh and PS - that hat could NOT be any cuter!oh and PS - that hat could NOT be any cuter!kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145893608899576472006-04-24T11:46:00.000-04:002006-04-24T11:46:00.000-04:00"feminism, all waves; the force of liberal capital..."feminism, all waves; the force of liberal capitalist ideals of success and the construction of the bourgeois woman; philosophy and sex and the impossibility of the Mother-Philosopher"<BR/><BR/>What if the readers like to read about those on your blog? I am bored with routin life. I am bored with people that don't have anything to say. I am bored with guys (that only go to gym, and watch Hollywood). <BR/><BR/>I guess I understand why don't want to write on those subjects. But maybe I can attend your lectures at university. <BR/><BR/>You have no idea how much it means to read about your thoughts.The City Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819377234772187931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145893322300963682006-04-24T11:42:00.000-04:002006-04-24T11:42:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145893080657623782006-04-24T11:38:00.001-04:002006-04-24T11:38:00.001-04:00yes, you are privileged, and so am I - but I think...yes, you are privileged, and so am I - but I think having an awareness and understanding of that and remembering to look at our struggles in that larger context is an important distinction. <BR/><BR/>Because there are plenty of privileged people (women and not) who don't think about how lucky they are, they look down on others. (I personally think this is the really dangerous aspect of the amercian dream ideology, but that's another post.)<BR/><BR/>So while it might well be whining about the troubles of the top 5% of lucky people in the world, those troubles are real to you, and it's not like you are saying you have it worse off than others. THAT, I would be annoyed by. But to say, "I know it could be worse, but this is on my mind right now" I think is simply to talk about your life and who you are in an honest fashion. And isn't that what this whole blogging thing is about? It's the medium, girl, it's the medium!kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145893080169023192006-04-24T11:38:00.000-04:002006-04-24T11:38:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145889046972919472006-04-24T10:30:00.000-04:002006-04-24T10:30:00.000-04:00"I suggested that, even though I would always rema..."I suggested that, even though I would always remain aware of the restictions imposed upon me by my sex, I wanted the freedom to think and act and speak and choose as a person, that I wanted to live my life without the oppressive shadow of politics."<BR/><BR/>Amen! <BR/><BR/>Looking forward to Visualizing Whirled Peas...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145886223553749002006-04-24T09:43:00.000-04:002006-04-24T09:43:00.000-04:00All right, I think I'm going to have to catch up o...All right, I think I'm going to have to catch up on some of your earlier posts now so I can see the roots of the discussion.<BR/><BR/>That picture of your daughter in the hat is THE CUTEST.<BR/><BR/>And you're going to BlogHer? Awesome. It's going to be a blast!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145877067561985092006-04-24T07:11:00.000-04:002006-04-24T07:11:00.000-04:00Hey, you've probably already seen this link, but i...Hey, you've probably already seen this link, but if not- it;s kind of funny. I think it applies to your situation. You might have "blog depression" <BR/><BR/>http://thenonist.com/index.php/weblog/permalink/a_nonist_public_service_pamphlet/ <BR/><BR/>As for being privelidged. I was so interested to read your thoughts. I have struggled with thoughts about that myself very much. Especially when I see my stats and realize that people from less priveliged places in the world come to my site on occasion. <BR/><BR/>I start to feel privelidged in a way that makes me uncomfortable. Like I have so much access to having a voice, when others have not- and I use my voice to talk about knitting and other such friviolties. <BR/><BR/>You know- it is the same feeling sweeps over me when I shop at Walmart. Or get McDonalds. A guily "I'm a North American ignorant consumer" feeling. In the instance of blogging it isn't the "consumer" part that gets to me since my blog is (and always will be) AD free, but the ignorant part sometimes bothers me. <BR/><BR/>How ignorant is it for me to rant about my inability to find a great parking space at the fully stocked from the comfort of my fully loaded Saturn. <BR/><BR/>Seriously. But seomtimes I think you have to just do what you said and say "Who the fuck cares"<BR/><BR/>I don't mean repressing your awareness about these types of things- I think rather, I just mean that sometimes I need to say "who the fuck cares" so I don't feel guilty for being white, affluent, educated, and north American. Because I am one of the blessed, and I am one of the lucky. All I can do is live my life in the best way I can. <BR/><BR/>(Geez, can you tell you struck a nerve in me, sorry to hijack your post)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145857646401885352006-04-24T01:47:00.000-04:002006-04-24T01:47:00.000-04:00And cripes, that kid is cute!And cripes, that kid is cute!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145857616262772982006-04-24T01:46:00.000-04:002006-04-24T01:46:00.000-04:00Are you sure that's not your opus? Great post!We m...Are you sure that's not your opus? Great post!<BR/><BR/>We must have a drink together at BlogHer. I understand Sweatpantsmom will be making sure it's open bar :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145854603237259052006-04-24T00:56:00.000-04:002006-04-24T00:56:00.000-04:00My head is spinning. But those are some awesome ph...My head is spinning. But those are some awesome photos!Kristihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674183841047522995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145851858249465442006-04-24T00:10:00.000-04:002006-04-24T00:10:00.000-04:00That wasn't a disappointing sequel at all...quite ...That wasn't a disappointing sequel at all...quite the contrary. To me, the ultimate "feminist" wouldn't have to be concerned over whether or not he/she were considering how "good" of a feminist he/she appeared to be while making life choices. I think that's the place where we all ultimately want to arrive...sounds like you're well on your way. That's the best news of all, right?Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02667140531327670081noreply@blogger.com