tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post114426649778515264..comments2023-11-02T08:09:02.234-04:00Comments on Her Bad Mother: Of Socrates and sleepHer Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03535958887714152413noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1145514059018553442006-04-20T02:20:00.000-04:002006-04-20T02:20:00.000-04:00Your writing cracks me up! I understand some of y...Your writing cracks me up! I understand some of your stuggles, but I love how you describe it so perfectly. How did you learn to write so descriptively? Marvelous reading here, lady!Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07950880083795695746noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144344731577496872006-04-06T13:32:00.000-04:002006-04-06T13:32:00.000-04:00I love the way you put things. And you are right,...I love the way you put things. <BR/>And you are right, it is ALL about doing what works for you. <BR/><BR/>We had two bassinets in our bedroom for 3 months until I realized that I was the problem. I would hear the slightest stir from the babes and try to remedy before they *really* woke up. Turns out I was just *completely* waking them up. Moved them into their room and voila - they slept a 7 hour stretch. <BR/>You do forget the aporia once they start sleeping through the night. Otherwise the race would die off from lack of sleep.Miguelitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10134489935342720776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144342082726829092006-04-06T12:48:00.000-04:002006-04-06T12:48:00.000-04:00great post. We never had the sleep issues but I ca...great post. We never had the sleep issues but I can relate nonetheless. It's pretty unbelievable that through all the everything parenthood throws at you, you can look at your child and love them the way you do. It's kinda life affirming.GIRL'S GONE CHILDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07130764109593048451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144337011466307412006-04-06T11:23:00.000-04:002006-04-06T11:23:00.000-04:00Ladies,Please visit my weblog and tell me what you...Ladies,<BR/><BR/>Please visit my weblog and tell me what you think about public childcare. I need to hear it first hand from you who are trying to balance family and career.<BR/><BR/>thank you.The City Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09819377234772187931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144296421846137392006-04-06T00:07:00.000-04:002006-04-06T00:07:00.000-04:00You do what you can to get by. And just when you t...You do what you can to get by. And just when you think you have them figured out, they change on you. So good luck with that. We co-slept for three months in the Queen full-time, and we'll still resort to that from time to time but it's not fun anymore now that Nate likes to sleep perpendicular to us. No room in the queen for an "H".<BR/><BR/>As for unswaddling, try the Gro-Baby bag. I think that's what it's called. It's this sleeping bag thingy that goes on over pjs and keeps them warm and cosy -- no swaddling, or unswaddling involved. Might be just the thing for the long haul.scarbie dollhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15067032043776994982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144291239205822082006-04-05T22:40:00.000-04:002006-04-05T22:40:00.000-04:00doooode, you can't be jealous of Juniper sleeping ...doooode, you can't be jealous of Juniper sleeping through the night. You guys are working it out, and our kid is FOURTEEN months old. You're way ahead of our game.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144288829183507932006-04-05T22:00:00.000-04:002006-04-05T22:00:00.000-04:00Sounds like you've put together a good plan for th...Sounds like you've put together a good plan for the moment. <BR/><BR/>See, one of those things that no one tells us as moms is that parenting books are fucking useless. Each baby has its own quirks, and you simply have to figure out what works best for you and the child. <BR/><BR/>For us, the firm mattress was also a must. I also recommend a fleece crib sheet (wonderful, wonderful invention!) and a white noise CD. E-mail me and I can give you a good recommendation for a CD that we still play every night for Cordy.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07345875955750219033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144279637489740542006-04-05T19:27:00.000-04:002006-04-05T19:27:00.000-04:00Aww, see I read this, and I'm away from my Dictato...Aww, see I read this, and I'm away from my Dictator for four more days, and I'm jealous that you get to be with your baby, even through fitful nights....Can she get any cuter?<BR/><BR/>Also, I can honestly say, it took me about 7 months to "get" my baby. <BR/><BR/>you're doing just fine. Better than fine, it seems to me.ninepounddictatorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06674863124753947010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144275670248077332006-04-05T18:21:00.000-04:002006-04-05T18:21:00.000-04:00It sounds like you and your husband are doing exac...It sounds like you and your husband are doing exactly what you said - meeting your aporia by the gut and the heart. That's all we can do. Every baby is different and every blind, fumbling, loving family is different too. If I've learned anything it was that all the well intentioned advice, poorly written baby books and over analysis that I considered wasn't nearly as useful as just following what "felt" like the best solution for us. WonderBaby sounds like she has a great mom (and a smartie pants one too). Wishing you good sleep...Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17049745050947936354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144269900145464602006-04-05T16:45:00.000-04:002006-04-05T16:45:00.000-04:00As a woman who went through that whole sleep...try...As a woman who went through that whole sleep...<BR/><I>trying to find an appropriate term</I><BR/><I>Where the hell is that dictionary? Screw it...</I><BR/>... that whole sleep <I>thing</I> with my daughter a scant 7 months ago I still twitch at the thought of all the luxurious trips to the land of Nod that I missed. But I'm here to testify that sleep will come. Oh, yes. It will come. And when it does you will regain some of your intelligence back. Because clearly, as this post shows, you are lacking in the smarts department!<BR/><BR/>My head hurts.Chicky Chicky Babyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18056206889322232109noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144268733864443912006-04-05T16:25:00.000-04:002006-04-05T16:25:00.000-04:00As a fellow college professor, I have to say:I hav...As a fellow college professor, I have to say:<BR/><BR/>I have never seen so many big words in my life. LOL.<BR/><BR/>Okay - I have my dictionary out now.<BR/><BR/>I love your intellectual analysis of this whole thing and as a fellow analyzer of ALL THINGS big and small, I hear you.<BR/><BR/>So, here's my reply.<BR/><BR/>*pat,pat*<BR/><BR/>It's okay.<BR/>Whatever works.<BR/>You need sleep.<BR/>She'll adjust.<BR/>She won't be sleeping in a swaddler, your bed, etc. her whole life.<BR/>It will pass. <BR/>This is all I know.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21558474.post-1144268543597205222006-04-05T16:22:00.000-04:002006-04-05T16:22:00.000-04:00we all just wing it through this part, my dear, an...we all just wing it through this part, my dear, and probably not really well, either, given the sleep-deprived fog we are in! <BR/><BR/>We also put a futon in pumpkinpie's bedroom when we moved her to her crib, and eventually started leaving after the 2:30 waking, then when she was sleeping a bit longer, after the 12:30 walking, and finally, blissfully, spending the whole night in our OWN BED!!! And we got a white noise maker for her room, which seems to help for us too. <BR/><BR/>Good luck getting through this trying time - it's a tough uphill climb, but it feels SO good when you make it. And you will. Someday.kittenpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05215443551546036909noreply@blogger.com